I promise to never be one of those people...
mudtea
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I promise to never be one of those people who feel compelled to judge others on their bodies or what they eat.
We all know these people, and some of us even are these people: "Ooh, look at that fat guy. He shouldn't be eating that food." "Oh, look how big her butt is." Blah, blah, blah...
FU.
My boyfriend has been teased all his life for being "too skinny." It's made him very sensitive to the constant comments from his family, friends, strangers, you name it. And as I gained weight over the past 15 years, I began to hear similar BS from people who called themselves my friends. Really? Like I need that crap? We're all hypersensitive about our own body images without having salt rubbed in those wounds. Yes, really, I already know what I look like and what I'm "supposed" to eat and how I'm "supposed" to exercise. If I do it or don't do it, it's my business (and to a lesser extent, my partner's business), not anyone else's.
Most of us can take almost anything once or twice--any kind of criticism. But it's that constant needling crap that really hurts. Many of us here know that well, growing up as LGBT kids in a not-so-understanding world. People who are "too fat" or "too skinny" or "too gay" or too anything don't need anyone else's "values" foisted on them, whether out of the goodness of their oh-so-concerned hearts or the depths of their snarky, judgmental, rotten assses. Sharing a great resource like myfitnesspal *when asked* about it is one thing, but negative comments about other people's bodies, whether to that person or any other person, is something I don't intend to put up with under any circumstances.
So, will you join me in keeping judgmental thoughts, comments, and people in check? Please? Let's stay concerned about our own bodies, not others'. (I'm not talking about staying quiet on public health policies, rather the judgments made about individuals.)
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We all know these people, and some of us even are these people: "Ooh, look at that fat guy. He shouldn't be eating that food." "Oh, look how big her butt is." Blah, blah, blah...
FU.
My boyfriend has been teased all his life for being "too skinny." It's made him very sensitive to the constant comments from his family, friends, strangers, you name it. And as I gained weight over the past 15 years, I began to hear similar BS from people who called themselves my friends. Really? Like I need that crap? We're all hypersensitive about our own body images without having salt rubbed in those wounds. Yes, really, I already know what I look like and what I'm "supposed" to eat and how I'm "supposed" to exercise. If I do it or don't do it, it's my business (and to a lesser extent, my partner's business), not anyone else's.
Most of us can take almost anything once or twice--any kind of criticism. But it's that constant needling crap that really hurts. Many of us here know that well, growing up as LGBT kids in a not-so-understanding world. People who are "too fat" or "too skinny" or "too gay" or too anything don't need anyone else's "values" foisted on them, whether out of the goodness of their oh-so-concerned hearts or the depths of their snarky, judgmental, rotten assses. Sharing a great resource like myfitnesspal *when asked* about it is one thing, but negative comments about other people's bodies, whether to that person or any other person, is something I don't intend to put up with under any circumstances.
So, will you join me in keeping judgmental thoughts, comments, and people in check? Please? Let's stay concerned about our own bodies, not others'. (I'm not talking about staying quiet on public health policies, rather the judgments made about individuals.)
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On the other hand now when I look at pictures of myself a year ago - and almost 100 pounds heavier - I ask my partner, "why didn't you tell me I was THAT FAT?"
But other people - no, I don't comment on their appearance, unless it's a complement. It's just not polite.0
