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Daisy_Cutter_
Posts: 386 Member
Would you date someone if your job was potentially at risk?
Have you ever dated someone "forbidden"?
Have you ever dated someone "forbidden"?
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In this economy, not a chance. Job security is already limited as is, and my field has a surplus of talent out there.
Even before the downturn, I've always had a policy of no dating in the workplace. I've also been fortunate not to have any direct co-workers that I had major attraction to.0 -
What about epic love, DM? What if you wind up passing on the person that could make you most happy in life?0
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You know my answer to this!!
Love conquers all!!
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My "epic love" will dump me in a heartbeat if I am unemployed for a substantial amount of time.
Your hypothetical hasn't been even close to realistic in my work experience though.
My career matters a lot to me, but I do keep it in perspective. I'm actually not as career oriented as a lot of other people.0 -
only if you can get a raise out of the deal0
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You know my answer to this!!
Love conquers all!!
Yeah..I'm bored...trying to get a discussion going. Jim's not taking the bait either! Lol0 -
only if you can get a raise out of the deal
Spoke too soon! Lol0 -
My "epic love" will dump me in a heartbeat if I am unemployed for a substantial amount of time.
Then clearly it's not epic love ...think Romeo and Juliet....Wesley and Buttercup....Carl and Jennifer....lol0 -
Then clearly it's not epic love ...think Romeo and Juliet....Wesley and Buttercup....Carl and Jennifer....lol
Jim and ..... well ahh future girl!0 -
Jim and ..... well ahh future girl!
I see in your near future a sexy brunette.... think sexy librarian-look!0 -
...Carl and Jennifer....lol
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My "epic love" will dump me in a heartbeat if I am unemployed for a substantial amount of time.
Your hypothetical hasn't been even close to realistic in my work experience though.
My career matters a lot to me, but I do keep it in perspective. I'm actually not as career oriented as a lot of other people.
I dont think anyone with a bit of nous about them would be unemployed for a substantial amount of time, unless there was depression or the end of the world! In which case, you'll probably lose your current job too!!
Although I can't imaginge there are many deserts with tortoise in Shells, so I guess a job in your specialist area might be harder to find?
But still, if it were me, I would just keep it quiet!!
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Exactly what kind of situation are we talking about? I can't imagine romance getting someone fired unless the couple wasn't smart about it.
but my practicality leads me to believe Romeo and Juliet is garbage, dumb kids, unrealistic standards for love. I thought the message about the futility of fueds was a far superior message . Wesley and Buttercup on the other hand...
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No. With my line of work, plus the difficulty of obtaining a security clearance, nope.
Forgot to add, dating someone forbidden? Like as in taken? No. Make out with? I plead the 5th. >,>0 -
Depends on the love, commitment and how good his job is. I work for the army and if I were to get fired I'd lose my pension and benefits. I've learned that everyone is connected in someway, so it would be difficult to find another job with the military. I might find something in the private sector, but it wouldn't be what I want.
Yes, I've been in a "forbidden" romance. My ex-husband was in the army and we always had bar-b-ques and get togethers. Well, at the tail end of the divorce one of the guys from his unit emailed me on Facebook talking about how sorry he was for everything that was going on. I didn't think anything of it, but then we started talking a lot and realized we had quite a bit in common. We started dating and he treated me well. We weren't out flaunting our relationship, but it wasn't a secret either. Well...he was brought into the commander's office and given a direct order to stop all communication with me. See, in the military it's against the rules to have a relationship with someone that's married. Since the divorce wasn't final, he couldn't see me. I lived about 30 miles from post, so he could have easily snuck out to see me. We were both also getting ready to move to the same area within 60 days. Well....he said goodbye to me, and then didn't talk to me again. He called me about 6 months later and I blew him off.0 -
My ex-husband was in the army and we always had bar-b-ques and get togethers. Well, at the tail end of the divorce one of the guys from his unit emailed me on Facebook talking about how sorry he was for everything that was going on. I didn't think anything of it, but then we started talking a lot and realized we had quite a bit in common.
Sorry, but this is jerk behavior. He knows you're getting divorced, he's in your ex-husband's unit, and he then targets you and starts dating you. Not surprised he later poofed.
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Sorry, but this is jerk behavior. He knows you're getting divorced, he's in your ex-husband's unit, and he then targets you and starts dating you. Not surprised he later poofed.
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Oh, I know that now. At the time, not so much.... A lot of growing has been done since.0 -
I honestly don't know how that would happen for me...but if I felt that this person was amazing and could be a life partner..vs a job....I would date that person. Life is about more than work. Right now all I have is work..I'd like more than that.0
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"epic" love > a job0
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I honestly don't know how that would happen for me...but if I felt that this person was amazing and could be a life partner..vs a job....I would date that person. Life is about more than work. Right now all I have is work..I'd like more than that.
I wholeheartedly agree!0 -
"epic" love > a job
Loves conquers all, huh? Thinking so as well.0 -
Depends on the love, commitment and how good his job is.
Yes, I've been in a "forbidden" romance.
He called me about 6 months later and I blew him off.
I agree with job prospects....the ease of finding something different and going elsewhere.
I'm glad you blew that guy off ... definitely not worth your time.0 -
Exactly what kind of situation are we talking about? I can't imagine romance getting someone fired unless the couple wasn't smart about it.
but my practicality leads me to believe Romeo and Juliet is garbage, dumb kids, unrealistic standards for love. I thought the message about the futility of fueds was a far superior message . Wesley and Buttercup on the other hand...
In my situation I work for my dad. He's pretty hardcore about not getting involved with anyone we work with. The fact that I'm his daughter makes it even a higher standard. Sucks, really.0 -
No way Jose.0
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yes, I've dated someone forbidden... when I was 18...
No, I would not, at this point in my life, date someone who would put my job at risk...0 -
Now, I would not...
I have, however, dated someone forbidden. Too fun.0 -
I'm dating and living with a guy I work with. We have pretty lateral positions (I'm a graphic tech and he's our IT support guy). No one at work knows "what" we are, but they know that we are best friends (met at work in February and became fast friends even before having romantic feelings for each other) and that we live together temporarily until he was able to get a place on his own closer to work - he lived about an hour out and his car clunked...but in January we are planning in moving into a bigger place permanently. Our office will have no issues with us dating (nothing in the rules about that), but even if there were I'd be willing to find another job in the city to keep him. My life has been amazing since meeting him and leave my job before losing him. Work is only 40 hours of your week...0
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Ah, wait, I've got it now.
When I was 15 I joined a local dojo and immediately had eyes for the senpai, who was the younger brother of the sensei. Problem? He was 22. After a few more months, after I had turned sixteen he started to reciprocate. We kept it under wraps though, it wasn't until he got a job elsewhere that his brother found out. I moved in with him when I was seventeen. This is my very unhealthy first serious relationship.
He risked his job, but we didn't go public so it wasn't a problem. Even my parents didn't realize fully what was going on. They thought I had a one sided crush.0 -
Would you date someone if your job was potentially at risk?
Have you ever dated someone "forbidden"?
If Im in love I can make anything work under any circumstances - all I need is all the info involved, some trust, a guarantee that Im not the only one making a gamble and you.0
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