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Using sexuality as a weapon

littlemsmetal
littlemsmetal Posts: 68
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That awesome moment where I "came out" to my husband and a couple weeks later he uses it against me as an attack. Awesome support I have here.

Has anyone else had this happen with someone close to them such as a spouse? If so, please tell me how you handled it because I am at wits end right now and trying very hard to be rational.

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  • DollyMiel
    DollyMiel Posts: 377 Member
    Ugh, that's the worst. Never personally been in this situation because that would never come as a surprise to anyone I'm with, haha. But I have a few friends who have related issues come up with boyfriends and such, where they suddenly start using it against them and get all paranoid about it. I just figure it's heavy insecurity on the guy's part. It always seems to be guys.... Hmm.
  • bhankiii
    bhankiii Posts: 217 Member
    Not sexuality specifically, but I have confided past sins to friends only to have them use that to try to prove to me what a horrible person I am. Those are ex-friends now. And good riddance.
  • crissy_percival
    crissy_percival Posts: 2,447 Member
    i told my parents i am bi more lez. and then asked if my friend (gf) could sleep over and they said no because you like girls and boys... HMMM... and they like to tell me its agianst god. i also said just because im not straight doesnt mean that im not a christan. so yeah i understand what you are talking about.
  • Kenzietea2
    Kenzietea2 Posts: 1,132 Member
    That awesome moment where I "came out" to my husband and a couple weeks later he uses it against me as an attack. Awesome support I have here.

    Has anyone else had this happen with someone close to them such as a spouse? If so, please tell me how you handled it because I am at wits end right now and trying very hard to be rational.

    It is wrong of him to attack you for it, but he is probably just processing. Men process in odd ways sometimes. How would you feel if you married someone not knowing their sexuality? It'd be an adjustment, definitely! Just try to see it from his shoes. Ask him not to use it against you but if he wants to discuss it you, you will be open and honest and answer any questions. I just hope that makes you feel a bit more rational :) It will get better!

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