Deleted my profiles :)
SmileeBarbFLA
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After an annoying few weeks with some of these dating sites, I got fed up last night and deleted OKC & POF!!! I'm FREE from the useless drama and ridiculousness that comes with those free sites, I am so over it! :drinker:
Still have a profile up on Match & paid through the end of the year so... :indifferent:
Still have a profile up on Match & paid through the end of the year so... :indifferent:
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You have to do whatever works for you! Plus, you can always change your mind if at any time you want to get back into the game.0
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Great! Possibly the next step is to explore which friends can set you up.0
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I did the same a couple weeks ago. I understand the freedom cry. LOL0
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Back when I was with Match and POF, it was just so draining dealing with the drama and interview process. I only tried for about 6 weeks before bailing. Hookers are never as demanding!
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This raises the question of "who creates that drama" though.Back when I was with Match and POF, it was just so draining dealing with the drama and interview process. I only tried for about 6 weeks before bailing. Hookers are never as demanding!
I haven't heard many people telling me that POF or OKC is working for them so well that they enjoy using it.
More the contrary actually.
So if nobody likes the drama, and everyone asks for a more or less "normal" partner, then who is the abnormal guy/girl creating the drama? I'm wondering...
Maybe it's related to the high expectations/high fantasies people have of others when they use the "shopping cart" type of dating?0 -
This raises the question of "who creates that drama" though.Back when I was with Match and POF, it was just so draining dealing with the drama and interview process. I only tried for about 6 weeks before bailing. Hookers are never as demanding!
I haven't heard many people telling me that POF or OKC is working for them so well that they enjoy using it.
More the contrary actually.
So if nobody likes the drama, and everyone asks for a more or less "normal" partner, then who is the abnormal guy/girl creating the drama? I'm wondering...
Maybe it's related to the high expectations/high fantasies people have of others when they use the "shopping cart" type of dating?
Answering ads from girls who ask "where are the good guys", and getting getting replies back to find they're just serial daters, looking for a sugar-daddy or just a free dinner. Found that many girls use very old pics, or misrepresent themselves in pics with trick shots or photoshop. That's the drama I'm referring to. I put it on the table in my ad; everything current and honest. Wasn't looking for Barbie or anything of high expectations. Even the "girl next door" types were a bit misleading.
Don't get me wrong. It wasn't all bad, but seeing that there was an underlying "game" to the system, left me feeling defeated and jaded.0 -
Answering ads from girls who ask "where are the good guys", and getting getting replies back to find they're just serial daters, looking for a sugar-daddy or just a free dinner. Found that many girls use very old pics, or misrepresent themselves in pics with trick shots or photoshop. That's the drama I'm referring to. I put it on the table in my ad; everything current and honest. Wasn't looking for Barbie or anything of high expectations. Even the "girl next door" types were a bit misleading.
Don't get me wrong. It wasn't all bad, but seeing that there was an underlying "game" to the system, left me feeling defeated and jaded.
Exactly ... Same with responses from guys. Either no pics or misleading pics. Or WAY too old. Or just inappropriate sexual comments to start a conversation. Or the dumb introductory emails just saying "hi". Like wow, you put thought into that one ...0 -
Exactly ... Same with responses from guys. Either no pics or misleading pics. Or WAY too old. Or just inappropriate sexual comments to start a conversation. Or the dumb introductory emails just saying "hi". Like wow, you put thought into that one ...
Good question Flim!
I agree with most of the points about what the guys are doing. Maybe I'm strange, but I'm ok with the 'hi' emails. Ok, so there wasn't a lot of thought put in, but what's the harm in saying "hi" or "how are you?" back? I mean, isn't that how real-life conversations start too? I'm not saying that approach will necessarily go farther than a few email exchanges, but at least I don't find them offensive in any way.0 -
I didn't last long on those sites. I hate job interviews which is why I've moved within the same company for 20 years. Probably why I stayed married for 27 years.
I always feel like I'm going to hear or hit the Gong!
Maybe I'll try again. Probably not:indifferent:0 -
I didn't last long on those sites. I hate job interviews which is why I've moved within the same company for 20 years. Probably why I stayed married for 27 years.
I always feel like I'm going to hear or hit the Gong!
Maybe I'll try again. Probably not:indifferent:
A date should not feel like a job interview. Besides, I don't think many people would say that they like job interviews. Sort of a necessity.0 -
I agree with all of the above....
One may label me as a serial dater, because when I'm online I will go on quite a few first dates. I obviously haven't found the man of my dreams yet, so I accept more because I think that *maybe* by broadening that base I'll find him. If I decide to move on to the third date with a man, I stop dating all other men. That's my personal preference and just how I handle it. Sometimes I make a connection with a man early on and stop dating other men sooner. But, once there are too many first dates, I just get too a point where I'm burned out and it's not fun. That's when I'll hide my profile or remove it completely. Just depends on my mood that day.
That's when I say I'll try "the real world" again (which I never stop trying even when online). However, I'm really not having luck in the real world. I've just basically come to the conclusion that it will happen when it happens and the timing is outside of my hands at this point. In the meantime, I go out and have fun doing things I want to do.0 -
I didn't last long on those sites. I hate job interviews which is why I've moved within the same company for 20 years. Probably why I stayed married for 27 years.
I always feel like I'm going to hear or hit the Gong!
Maybe I'll try again. Probably not:indifferent:
A date should not feel like a job interview. Besides, I don't think many people would say that they like job interviews. Sort of a necessity.
I love interviews... and I'm pretty good at them. Got into grad schools I was honestly surprised even invited me for interviews.
Hate dating though. I am awful at compliments unless they have some sarcasm. My coach said I have a good squat... my answer was to blush and say "no, not really..." and he was just like "huh? I was telling you... I guess you're just modest?"
I can tell you that I'm awesome... you just can't tell me you agree.0 -
This raises the question of "who creates that drama" though.Back when I was with Match and POF, it was just so draining dealing with the drama and interview process. I only tried for about 6 weeks before bailing. Hookers are never as demanding!
I haven't heard many people telling me that POF or OKC is working for them so well that they enjoy using it.
More the contrary actually.
So if nobody likes the drama, and everyone asks for a more or less "normal" partner, then who is the abnormal guy/girl creating the drama? I'm wondering...
Maybe it's related to the high expectations/high fantasies people have of others when they use the "shopping cart" type of dating?
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Men will always in some way shape or form, big or small blame women.
Women will always in some way shape or form, big or small blame men.0 -
I checked out zoosk the other day...it looks like the rejects from POF :sick: Blech!!! I deleted it immediately!!! I think I browsed for 10-15 mins and I wasn't impressed with the navigation either.0
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I just... stopped logging in. I don't see the point of deleting everything? Isn't it a bit extreme?
Then again, I don't care much for symbolic stuff. If I feel like it doesn't matter I won't put the effort into doing it. I don't even delete people from my friends list here or FB.0 -
I don't get it. . Who needs a dating site when we've got MFP!?. .0
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I don't get it. . Who needs a dating site when we've got MFP!?. .
MFP, in terms of finding dates, hasn't been the most effective venue. I haven't interacted with a lot of people local to me on here. I would be glad if that would change.0 -
I deleted my POF account over the weekend. Too many fakes and not enough serious people on there. I'm looking forward to having my focus on ME...and being SINGLE and going to get healthy! Don't need a relationship to get in the way. Granted, I'd love to have a man who will go on this journey with me and encourage me. But, I'm leaving it in God's hands! I'm done "chasing/searching".0
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I don't get it. . Who needs a dating site when we've got MFP!?. .
MFP, in terms of finding dates, hasn't been the most effective venue. I haven't interacted with a lot of people local to me on here. I would be glad if that would change.
I was just talking to a friend about this recently. I would much rather meet someone on MFP; someone with similar interests (such as working out) and that understands that life style change I am going through.
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I did that over a year ago...Not going back. Just wish I knew a better way! Good luck!! 0
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After an annoying few weeks with some of these dating sites, I got fed up last night and deleted OKC & POF!!! I'm FREE from the useless drama and ridiculousness that comes with those free sites, I am so over it! :drinker:
Still have a profile up on Match & paid through the end of the year so... :indifferent:
I deleted mine a couple months ago after being on them (POF & Match) for 15 months... so many jerks on those sites. I'm not trying to stereotype, but the guys i went out with (maybe i just choose a-holes?), were... there are no words, honestly. the stories i have built up from those experiences shocked my friends and family, so I know it wasn't just me.
But now, i'm getting the urge to date again... and it seems like it's the only way to go about it in the 21st century... *SIGH*0 -
I checked out zoosk the other day...it looks like the rejects from POF :sick: Blech!!! I deleted it immediately!!! I think I browsed for 10-15 mins and I wasn't impressed with the navigation either.
HAHAHA! Um... I could not have said this more perfectly. I did the exact same thing!0
