Weight Loss & Dysphoria

loliblullama

Hey you lot

I identify as agender, with somewhat fluid presentation. My issue is that the more weight I lose the more female I feel like I'm looking. The industrial sized airbags on my chest aren't going anywhere as I hoped they would and everything else seems to be becoming more feminine and my dysphoria is through the roof.

I've had to stop binding because ouch ribs. I kind of really hurt myself trying to get as flat as I would like with a binder so I've had to stop. Anyhoo, just wondered if anyone had any advice or if anyone else has felt this way. I was hoping I'd look more androgynous as I lost weight so that my fluid presentation wouldn't kind of ... give me away? I don't know. I just am fedup :grumble:

munchifer

I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with the progress you've made in the wight-loss arena due to your dysphoria. You could try lifting weights to bulk-up some if the goal is to appear more androgynous. Hardening the soft edges this way can help with passing.

tameko2

I'm sorry you're having trouble with this :frown:

There is really no way to know what you will look like when you are done losing weight. A lot of people never lose any chest, but a lot more lose it later in the process, and others lose it all up front.

If you are currently very big in cup size, its not likely that you'll ever be flat enough for binding to be comfortable without some surgical interference, but if you stay very big in cup size and get fit everywhere else you might be able to convince an insurance company to cover a reduction.

As far as whether or not body issues while dieting are normal - yes. Even aside from gender passing, almost EVERYONE seems to have body issues, a lot of people seem to develop them AFTER they start to lose weight because when you are getting in shape you think about your body a lot more than you normally would.

I would suggest you get down close to the weight you want to be (or size, or bf, or whatever) and then think about a small bulk to add muscle in places that might give you a bit of help shaping the way you look in the right clothes. I don't know really - everyone is just DIFFERENT and its impossible to say what would be best until you know what your body will look like when you're closer to done. If you already know what kind of shape you have you CAN tackle some things now. Like if you have a narrow curvy waist you might want to hit the abs and obliques with some isolation work to build up a thicker middle.