I must be crazy...

Danielle_2013

Okay Single Peeps...pack the cynicism away. I have more than enough of that for everyone! What I would love to hear is those stories of people who met, fell in love ridiculously quickly and are still together today. Do you think it can happen nowadays anyway? All the people who have these stories are my parents age.

Of course the reason is because I sit across a table from JP or watch him enter a room or have him introduce me proudly or...any number of things..and I realize I have never, ever felt this way before. And he is similarly shocked and awed by this. By me.
Now..I am smart (enough) and old (enough) and practical (not quite enough), to not completely lose my head...but fight and question this as I might (and I am trying hard!), we have undeniably started something here.

We are going to 3 holiday events together and I am meeting his parents at one of them. He has never introduced anyone to them before. He didn't ever want to get married before (me either), and now he says he can see why people would want to do that now. I never wanted to have kids..and it is freaking me out quite considerably that I could see having a child with him (no I have not said this!) He was happily single for a number of years before this..and not looking. A happy bachelor, who has made offhand comments about what it will be like when we live together one day. He wants to go away for a night over Christmas break togethrr.

WHY IS NONE OF THIS FREAKING ME OUT?

So it is just all far too soon..I know. I must be insane. But when I look at him...I can see a life with him and looking into those eyes years from now. To his credit, he is really no clingy at all. We text minimally and neither of us seem to "need" the other.

Scary as hell!!!! I must be crazy. If this blows up in my face..you can tell me you told me so.

So do you have any stories to calm my cynical mind?

pa_jorg

I actually don't think this sounds crazy at all. As we get older, it's not always easier to find the right person, but I think it's easier to know the moment you do find the right person, if that makes sense.

Congrats and good luck. Just don't over think things or that alone might ruin the magic.

christine24t

My parents met when my dad had a house party and my mom and her date came...well needless to say she ditched the other guy for my dad!

RunIntheMud

I have a co-worker who's husband proposed on the second date and they're still married 25 years later. And, yes. She's a completely sane person in all other regards. :laugh:

I think I know a couple others, but can't remember them, so I'll have to post them when I do.

AnnaPixie

Is this the guy that isnt thrilling you sexually?? :noway:

Errmmm, I think you need to get to know him more (sleep with him) before you see your life together.

Once you do that and feel that all is right, then hell yeah, you just KNOW! :bigsmile:

Carl01

Obviously good luck with everything but also (and not being cynical) remember that as you have stated in the past here this is very common for you to go all in extremely quickly so do make sure the guy is truly on the same page and not just a wishful perception that he is.
No one wants to see anyone hurt needlessly. :flowerforyou:

SouthernSweetie74

I was talking to a co-worker the other day, and she shared this story with me: She and her now husband met at work. One night, a group of them (my colleague and others) were going out dancing and clubbing. They invited George to come with them. He was busy that night but told her that he was free the next night. She didn't know what to think at the time because she had not meant it as a date. Anyway, he called her the next day nine times (no cell phones back then). They talked, ended up going out the very next day. They had a blast, went back to his small apartment. Things got heated as they passionately made out. She said, "I can't do this on a first date. That just wouldn't be right." He told her that he understood and walked her to the door. She got in her car. He walked inside. She got to the driveway, said to heck with it, and pulled back into the drive and went to knock on his door. LIttle did she know, but on the other side of the door, he was leaned up against it. When he opened the door, she said, "This is our second date." And they've been together ever since. She's in her early forties, and he is two years older than her. I think she said they've been together for seventeen years.

My brother who is 14 years older than me married his second wife about 15 years ago. It was her FIRST marriage, and she was 39. They had two children, and they are still together. They've definitely had their ups and downs, mind you, but they have stuck with it.

A lady with whom I go to church was a single mom for years. A man whose wife had died from Cancer took notice of her. They ended up getting married and are happy. They've been together for about 7 years, I think.

My cousin's husband died of cancer. A year later, she met a man online. They started talking first. He lived a couple of hours away. They started seeing each other. Eventually, they got married. I'm not sure of the time span. But they are happy and doing well. They've been married at least three years, I believe.

That's not all, but you get my drift... love does happen... for some people...

DMZ_1

I know two people that met in my freshman year dorm. They got married right after they both graduated and are still married today, over a decade later. They've spent their entire adult lives together.

christine24t

I know two people that met in my freshman year dorm. They got married right after they both graduated and are still married today, over a decade later. They've spent their entire adult lives together.

One of my first friends at college met her bf through my freshman year roommate, dated all throughout college, got engaged senior year and they just married last month!

shamrck44

I was talking to a co-worker the other day, and she shared this story with me: She and her now husband met at work. One night, a group of them (my colleague and others) were going out dancing and clubbing. They invited George to come with them. He was busy that night but told her that he was free the next night. She didn't know what to think at the time because she had not meant it as a date. Anyway, he called her the next day nine times (no cell phones back then). They talked, ended up going out the very next day. They had a blast, went back to his small apartment. Things got heated as they passionately made out. She said, "I can't do this on a first date. That just wouldn't be right." He told her that he understood and walked her to the door. She got in her car. He walked inside. She got to the driveway, said to heck with it, and pulled back into the drive and went to knock on his door. LIttle did she know, but on the other side of the door, he was leaned up against it. When he opened the door, she said, "This is our second date." And they've been together ever since. She's in her early forties, and he is two years older than her. I think she said they've been together for seventeen years.

I love this story!

I had a coworker that met her 2nd husband and married him 5 weeks later and were still together last time I checked (20 years)

dbrightwell1270

One of my very best friends went to a bar because he had plans with the bartender after it closed. She wasn't there. He went to the bar next door and met started playing pool with a girl there. That was November 3, 2010. They married between Christmas and New Years that year. Their first child was born on November 3 of this year. I don't see them very often as they live in Tennessee but every time I've seen them, I've been amazed and just how head over heals each of them is for the other.

zachatta

I don't really have an fairy tale stories, but I did want to chime in and tell you congratulations.

I hope everything works out in your favor, and thus far it seems to be.

poncho33

WHY IS NONE OF THIS FREAKING ME OUT?

I would say this is all totally freaking you out, read your opening ramble, lol. Here is my advice:

A. Get out of your head and just let things naturally happen.
B. Don't care what other people think, just have fun as long as it feels right!

MissingMinnesota

My best friend/college roommate met her now husband and was engaged in 3 months and married within a year. They have been married for 11 years now with 3 children.

RunIntheMud

Ok....remembered a couple more. But, first wanted to say always hope for the best, but prepared for the worst. That's the best advice I can say with dating. Don't jump in too fast, but enjoy the romance.

After her divorce, a coworker had a rough time meeting men. One of her good friend's kept trying to introduce her to a cousin that she said was perfect for her. She kept declining. One night she was out at a bar and met a great guy. They started dating and realized they had mutual friends. After talking for a little bit, she figured out that he was the same guy. They've been married for 5 years now.

Then there's my brother. He fell head over heels for a girl his Junior year of high school. We knew they were crazy for each other, but figured it would fade when he left for the navy. But, he came home from his training and married her. They've been married for 14 years now.

JanieJack

Like you said, most of the "love at first sight" stories are in an older generation, but I told the story on another thread of my two friends who met on Match.com. It was instant love. Over time they discovered not only are they perfect for each other but had so much in common (went to the same schools, missions trips and such just never met) and are now married a year later.

DMZ_1

Like you said, most of the "love at first sight" stories are in an older generation,

I don't believe this for a second.

JanieJack

Like you said, most of the "love at first sight" stories are in an older generation,

I don't believe this for a second.

So, in your circle, most of the "love at first sight" stories resulting in long term relationships happen in your generation...?

Most of the couples who I know of in real life that fell "in love at first sight" are all older (as in my mom's generation or older).

pa_jorg

Okay Single Peeps...pack the cynicism away. I have more than enough of that for everyone! What I would love to hear is those stories of people who met, fell in love ridiculously quickly and are still together today. Do you think it can happen nowadays anyway? All the people who have these stories are my parents age.

I think there might be something to the age thing...is it that people feel they have more options (given technology perhaps?) or are just generally more skeptical as you suggest? I don't have the answer to this. However, while I can't name many (if any) recent head-over-heels stories like this, I myself have several friends who I met and clicked with and became great friends almost instantly. Then again, feeling that common bond with a friend is less scary than a partner so maybe that's why. And interesting study in human interaction at least if not just for significant others.