i am officially depressed and
4themoney
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throwing in the towel.
this is really stupid, and lame, and totally girly of me, but UGH!!!
i met a guy online over a year ago. like june 2011 to be exact. we never met in person but he would text me periodically. i wasn't interested in him and all he wanted from me was sex. so, he'd ask, i'd decline. and this just kinda kept going on for the past year a half.
he's not attractive AT ALL. he's totally not my type in the least bit. but, we had become "friends." ya know.
well, i thought of him today and so i sent a hey, how are you text.
he tells me, right now, that he's met someone. and he's falling for her. that they realize they are perfect for each other. blah blah blah. all this does is make me like an even bigger loser now. i mean, if he can find someone what the h3ll is wrong with me?????
BLAH!!
i wish i were childless and catholic, i'd just go become a nun. seriously, i'm tired of all of this.
9 days and counting til i cancel my match account and get myself off all of these stupid online dating sites. sigh........
this is really stupid, and lame, and totally girly of me, but UGH!!!
i met a guy online over a year ago. like june 2011 to be exact. we never met in person but he would text me periodically. i wasn't interested in him and all he wanted from me was sex. so, he'd ask, i'd decline. and this just kinda kept going on for the past year a half.
he's not attractive AT ALL. he's totally not my type in the least bit. but, we had become "friends." ya know.
well, i thought of him today and so i sent a hey, how are you text.
he tells me, right now, that he's met someone. and he's falling for her. that they realize they are perfect for each other. blah blah blah. all this does is make me like an even bigger loser now. i mean, if he can find someone what the h3ll is wrong with me?????
BLAH!!
i wish i were childless and catholic, i'd just go become a nun. seriously, i'm tired of all of this.
9 days and counting til i cancel my match account and get myself off all of these stupid online dating sites. sigh........
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Just because he found someone doesn't make you a loser, and just because he's not your type doesn't make him a loser. He just found his match before you found yours.
Take a bath, read a book, have some personal twirly time and revisit your thoughts before giving up completely. Ultimately you have to do what makes you happy, and you have to get there from a clear headed perspective.0 -
oh i know he's not a loser.
i'm just feeling sorry for myself. like i said, it's stupid and lame. i know :-)
i'm probably jealous too.
blah.
i have to take my kids ice skating now. and then i'm gonna drag them to the gym so i can work out.......0 -
I'm having a pretty lousy day, too, but for different reasons. Sorry it's so hard to find somebody. Sometimes life just sucks for a while. But things always improve. Being lonely is tough, especially when you don't have any realistic options. Christmas is approaching, and that's not going to help...
I've actually been on a few dates recently. They were all nice, but no real spark.
I don't have any advice to give you. Hope you feel better soon. It's late here and I'm rambling. Not even drinking... :-) Anyway, time for bed.
"As you climb into an empty bed,
Oh well, enough said."
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The way you feel is normal.
Yesterday, I learned that someone I went to college with (2 years younger than I am) gave birth. Two of my friends in college desired this woman so much that it endangered their friendship. The fact that she's now a mother makes me feel old.
When people in your social circle find someone and you are alone, it is perfectly normal to feel like horse dung.0 -
Different situations at times but know the feeling.
A real life lady that I would be interested in but she is taken.
Suddenly out of no where she has split and landed with someone else.
I have called it having a cloud of invisibility around me.0 -
The way you feel is normal.
Yesterday, I learned that someone I went to college with (2 years younger than I am) gave birth. Two of my friends in college desired this woman so much that it endangered their friendship. The fact that she's now a mother makes me feel old.
When people in your social circle find someone and you are alone, it is perfectly normal to feel like horse dung.
I hear ya! All of my friends from middle school, are married! Most have kids! And I am flying solo... I also plan events, mainly weddings. I LOVE doing it, but when their big day arrives it is soooooo depressing!0 -
I understand how you are feeling, believe me everyone experiences
this to a certain degree. Take a break from trying to find "someone" for a
while, and simply focus on improving yourself, either physically,
intellectually, or even spiritually if that is your thing. I think many times
people get way to caught up in finding a significant other that they let it consume
them and their lives. (I am not suggesting you don't have a life, jesus christ
don't misinterpret what I am saying).
Then after a good break try again. Don't worry, I sympathize with you feeling lonely.
It happens to us all.0 -
sorry you're feeling down.
i think all of us go through it at times. recently for me it's because of the office work party for my new job. not only do i not have a date but i'm relatively new so i dont know enough people here to be anyone's 3rd wheel in case they bring a date0 -
Alcohol. Nothing like a depressant to chase the blues away.0
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I find throwing myself into the gym helps me dealing with depression. I always feel better afterwards.0
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Don't throw in the towel!
Everyone has been there at least once before. Have some *YOU* time and regroup.
I hope you feel better! xoxo0 -
When this happens I ask myself... Would I want to be with that guy?? I know plenty of gals that start dating someone while I'm still single, but honestly... Would I want their guy?? Hmm, 9/10 times I do not.0
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This just backs up the theory that there is 'someone for everyone'. Your time will come! :flowerforyou:0
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I don't drink, but thanks ;-)Alcohol. Nothing like a depressant to chase the blues away.
I have been trying now, for a year off and on. I've been single for three years. I do single very well :-)
I focus on a million other things. Dating certainly is not the focus of my world, nor is it in the
Forefront of my " things to do" list, lol! That said, I would love to find someone I click with and can
Date!!
I'm gonna get off the site. Just focus on myself and doing what I want and need to do. Accept that this is not my time nor is it my turn :-)
Thank you, all of you! I am glad to know I am
Not the only one to feel this way :-)0 -
this is a good one. there's a few of us friday night weight room losers who are there until close (9 PM) were talking about going out afterwards for tacos and beers some friday after the holidays. that could be fun and if not, at least i'll get beer and tacos :drinker:I find throwing myself into the gym helps me dealing with depression. I always feel better afterwards.0 -
I'm kid free this weekend. So, Friday after I drop my kids w their dad I'm going to head to golds for an hour and then to a play a friend is in. Saturday I'm going to the gym and then at noon to a CPR class. I'll probably go skating sat night or try and do the tiny bit of Christmas shopping I need to do. Sunday is church, an I'm
Teaching Sunday school, so that will take up my Sunday. And then Monday morning it's back to the grind, lol!!!0 -
Sorry!! I know this sucks! Keep your head up and enjoy your weekend.
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I'm kid free this weekend. So, Friday after I drop my kids w their dad I'm going to head to golds for an hour and then to a play a friend is in. Saturday I'm going to the gym and then at noon to a CPR class. I'll probably go skating sat night or try and do the tiny bit of Christmas shopping I need to do. Sunday is church, an I'm
Teaching Sunday school, so that will take up my Sunday. And then Monday morning it's back to the grind, lol!!!
Sounds like a fun weekend. You should have the opportunity to meet men at all those spots (except Sunday School lol)
Volunteer to be the CPR dummy and you're guaranteed some mouth-to-mouth action!0 -
LOL!!! thanks ;-)
the girl who is teaching said it will be me and three other guys ( who i am guessing are all volunteer FFs or rescue......) so, we shall see!
it's not my ideal weekend, but it will keep me from sitting at home, alone, playing spider solitaire :-)
Sounds like a fun weekend. You should have the opportunity to meet men at all those spots (except Sunday School lol)
Volunteer to be the CPR dummy and you're guaranteed some mouth-to-mouth action!0 -
it is perfectly normal to feel like horse dung.
Did DM just say horse dung?? That made me snort laugh. hahahahaahaha
I wish I knew how to play spider solitaire. lol
I am sorry you feel bad =( You are a hottie .. don't worry about you .. you got this!!0 -
i feel better. i wasn't happy to hear that he met someone first, but that was jealousy or immaturity or whatever it was. not something i'm proud to say i felt. but, today, i'm fine :-)
spider solitair is super easy to play!!!0 -
I don't know if this will make it worse, or help....I hope the latter...
As I read this thread... and hear you say that it's been 3 years or so in solitude.... I sit here and truly believe, I'm gonna be there too.
I've built my life around others and never took the time to learn about me. I'm thankful that the last guy gave me the boot, so I can acutally let reality hit me that I need to take time with me.
What you are saying about being possibly jealous of that guy.... yes I analyze every "opportunity" I've passed up...wondering if I was too picky, or if I should have done something different.
It all seems soo simple to just want to share your life someone with similar values....but yet, it's not simple.
So to my point (sorry I'm bad about that) keep your chin up, I may be miles and miles away from you and not know who you are....but I kinda look up to you as someone who's going through what I might be going through in a few years??
You are very pretty and you seem very intelligent and have your head on great.
I don't want to say...keep your chin up "he'll come" because no one knows what is meant to be or what they are capable of until it has already happened.
So chin up, you have a "not so secret" admirer. (not to be confused with stalker, but if that trips your trigger, hey :bigsmile: )
NEVER GIVE UP.0 -
It may not help...but know there is always someone wishing they had what you have.
For example: I am 43, I've been basically single and barely dated for the past 8 years after a very painful long term relationship that I ended (best decision I ever made). I never married, and I've never had children...and probably never will, which has been a very painful realization over the past few years, because that's one of the few things I ever really wanted in life. So...be thankful you at least had the opportunity to have children.0 -
PS If those are YOUR legs in your profile photo--you have AMAZING calves...there's that
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I understand how you are feeling, believe me everyone experiences
this to a certain degree. Take a break from trying to find "someone" for a
while, and simply focus on improving yourself, either physically,
intellectually, or even spiritually if that is your thing. I think many times
people get way to caught up in finding a significant other that they let it consume
them and their lives. (I am not suggesting you don't have a life, jesus christ
don't misinterpret what I am saying).
Then after a good break try again. Don't worry, I sympathize with you feeling lonely.
It happens to us all.
completely agree with zacchatta!
i'm currently on a break focusing on me if I happen to meet a nice guy along with way, that will be great, if not, i'm not going to sweat it. I'm young and need to just enjoy life! 0 -
thank you!
you are very sweet :-)
i do try to be level headed about ALL things!
i have been really good about making these years about me and my kids. i didn't date for 2 of the three, at all. i just started a year ago. and it's not like i've steadily dated for the past 12 months. i would take several months off here and there.
i think it's rough because in my younger years, before marriage and kids, i was the one always walking away from guys. i left a trail behind me. so, it's hard to accept that i am not that. well, for one, i don't have the same body i did. and for two i have a ton of kids and a divorce which equals major baggage to most people ( including myself, LOL). so, i've had to come to terms with it all, accept it and then make the best and focus on what i can. and i do feel as though i have done and am doing just that :-)
being single isn't so bad. but, there are certainly times i WANT someone else in my life. but, i'm also the first to admit that i want things on MY terms. and i don't know that i want things to move too fast in a relationship.... if that makes sense......
i have to go drop my kids off at their dad's. :-)I don't know if this will make it worse, or help....I hope the latter...
As I read this thread... and hear you say that it's been 3 years or so in solitude.... I sit here and truly believe, I'm gonna be there too.
I've built my life around others and never took the time to learn about me. I'm thankful that the last guy gave me the boot, so I can acutally let reality hit me that I need to take time with me.
What you are saying about being possibly jealous of that guy.... yes I analyze every "opportunity" I've passed up...wondering if I was too picky, or if I should have done something different.
It all seems soo simple to just want to share your life someone with similar values....but yet, it's not simple.
So to my point (sorry I'm bad about that) keep your chin up, I may be miles and miles away from you and not know who you are....but I kinda look up to you as someone who's going through what I might be going through in a few years??
You are very pretty and you seem very intelligent and have your head on great.
I don't want to say...keep your chin up "he'll come" because no one knows what is meant to be or what they are capable of until it has already happened.
So chin up, you have a "not so secret" admirer. (not to be confused with stalker, but if that trips your trigger, hey :bigsmile: )
NEVER GIVE UP.0 -
thank you :-)
you're very sweet too!
i call my reaction an over reaction, acting like a spoiled child because like you said, i know there are others that look at me and think i'm the one is a good place. the lucky one. i am ETERNALLY grateful for all that i have. which is why i don't let my singlehood get me down, and my hissy fit was over before i knew it.
i have so very much to be grateful for, and i am. if i'm meant to meet someone, i will :-)
in the mean time i might throw a couple hissy fits as those around me meet their special person......PS If those are YOUR legs in your profile photo--you have AMAZING calves...there's that0 -
I just came from a girls night out and after spending 4 hours yes FOUR HOURS listening to them and their relationship problems, I have never been happier to be single!! lol :drinker:0
