5 Perfect Man types (Match.com research)
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lacroyx
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I wasn't going to post this but some of the things in here made me laugh and roll my eyes.
According to match.com's annual LoveGeist report:
Cliff Notes
Women aged 18-24 are suckers for six packs
(well, no wonder I couldn't get any dates)
25-34 value career driven men
35-44 are happy to date a man 5 years older
Women over 45 often date younger men
55+ women still value sexual compatibility and are pickiest daters
Age 18-24:
-First and foremost, young women want a man they can show off to their friends. 47 per cent said they would look for a relationship with someone their friends would approve of
-They are also suckers for a six-pack: 18-24s are most willing to date a man in better physical shape than them
Shared tastes in music, films and books are far more important at this age than later in life
-Dr. D’Felice said: 'When we first start dating we carry over the desire to fit in and belong from our adolescence, and seek approval from our friends to validate our choices. We are building confidence at this age, and it’s important to us to know that we are choosing well.'
Age 25-34
-As they forge ahead in their careers, women at this age begin to take a more long-term view, but are still susceptible to a dashing man; physical attraction is more important than ever
-Sexual compatibility is more important to 25-34s than at any other stage in their lives
Ambition is also important, with almost two thirds citing this as a key trait in a man
Dr. D’Felice said: 'As we grow in confidence and invest in our own careers, partners who are doing the same become very attractive to us.
'And while we’re young and sexy it is natural that we want our dates to reflect this aspect of ourselves as well.
'This mirroring of ambition and looks reflects these years when we are consolidating our persona; working out who we are and what we want.'
Age 35-44
As they look to settle down, women aged 35-44 are most likely to have their head turned by an older man. 73 per cent would be willing to date someone more than five years their senior
Social graces are also an absolute must-have at this stage in life. Less than 1 per cent of the females surveyed said they would date a man with bad manners
Dr. D’Felice: 'Priorities shift as we begin to think of commitment and family life.
'Men who are established, stable, successful and have life experience become very attractive to women at this age, offering the depth of resources (both material and emotional) required for successful partnership.'
Age 45-54
Security is a key concern, with 95 per cent looking to find a partner with whom they felt secure
Finding a man with a high income is as important to this age group as any other
Women in this age range are less picky about who they date than any other
In contrast to those just a few years younger, women aged 45-54 are most likely to consider dating a younger man. 54 per cent would be willing to date someone more than five years younger
Dr. D’Felice said: 'At this stage women are becoming increasingly confident.
'With hormone levels changing they become more assertive, experimenting more and celebrating their wisdom.
'They are prepared to take risks and perhaps seek out new adventures; they are not afraid to search for passion, but still understand that feeling secure is a vital ingredient for happiness.'
Age 55+
In later life, women look for more cerebral delights. Intelligence and shared values are more important to the over-55s, as is sharing a similar sense of humour
But they don’t drop their standards as they get older. In fact, those aged 55 and over are pickier about who they romance than at any other age
They also continue to value sexual compatibility: 45 per cent strongly agreed that this was an important factor when forming a relationship
Dr. D’Felice said: 'Subtle shifts in development create a well-rounded perspective on relationships, stressing the importance of friendship as well as sexual resonance.
'These women take the long-term view that commitment requires humour, intelligence and shared values to stand the test of time, meaning they are not prepared to settle for anything else. Having experienced different relationships, they know exactly what they want and, importantly, what they don’t.'
According to match.com's annual LoveGeist report:
Cliff Notes
Women aged 18-24 are suckers for six packs
(well, no wonder I couldn't get any dates)
25-34 value career driven men
35-44 are happy to date a man 5 years older
Women over 45 often date younger men
55+ women still value sexual compatibility and are pickiest daters
Age 18-24:
-First and foremost, young women want a man they can show off to their friends. 47 per cent said they would look for a relationship with someone their friends would approve of
-They are also suckers for a six-pack: 18-24s are most willing to date a man in better physical shape than them
Shared tastes in music, films and books are far more important at this age than later in life
-Dr. D’Felice said: 'When we first start dating we carry over the desire to fit in and belong from our adolescence, and seek approval from our friends to validate our choices. We are building confidence at this age, and it’s important to us to know that we are choosing well.'
Age 25-34
-As they forge ahead in their careers, women at this age begin to take a more long-term view, but are still susceptible to a dashing man; physical attraction is more important than ever
-Sexual compatibility is more important to 25-34s than at any other stage in their lives
Ambition is also important, with almost two thirds citing this as a key trait in a man
Dr. D’Felice said: 'As we grow in confidence and invest in our own careers, partners who are doing the same become very attractive to us.
'And while we’re young and sexy it is natural that we want our dates to reflect this aspect of ourselves as well.
'This mirroring of ambition and looks reflects these years when we are consolidating our persona; working out who we are and what we want.'
Age 35-44
As they look to settle down, women aged 35-44 are most likely to have their head turned by an older man. 73 per cent would be willing to date someone more than five years their senior
Social graces are also an absolute must-have at this stage in life. Less than 1 per cent of the females surveyed said they would date a man with bad manners
Dr. D’Felice: 'Priorities shift as we begin to think of commitment and family life.
'Men who are established, stable, successful and have life experience become very attractive to women at this age, offering the depth of resources (both material and emotional) required for successful partnership.'
Age 45-54
Security is a key concern, with 95 per cent looking to find a partner with whom they felt secure
Finding a man with a high income is as important to this age group as any other
Women in this age range are less picky about who they date than any other
In contrast to those just a few years younger, women aged 45-54 are most likely to consider dating a younger man. 54 per cent would be willing to date someone more than five years younger
Dr. D’Felice said: 'At this stage women are becoming increasingly confident.
'With hormone levels changing they become more assertive, experimenting more and celebrating their wisdom.
'They are prepared to take risks and perhaps seek out new adventures; they are not afraid to search for passion, but still understand that feeling secure is a vital ingredient for happiness.'
Age 55+
In later life, women look for more cerebral delights. Intelligence and shared values are more important to the over-55s, as is sharing a similar sense of humour
But they don’t drop their standards as they get older. In fact, those aged 55 and over are pickier about who they romance than at any other age
They also continue to value sexual compatibility: 45 per cent strongly agreed that this was an important factor when forming a relationship
Dr. D’Felice said: 'Subtle shifts in development create a well-rounded perspective on relationships, stressing the importance of friendship as well as sexual resonance.
'These women take the long-term view that commitment requires humour, intelligence and shared values to stand the test of time, meaning they are not prepared to settle for anything else. Having experienced different relationships, they know exactly what they want and, importantly, what they don’t.'
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I can agree that this is what most women in each age bracket are looking for on a dating website (I have seen some of it, not all of it so far).Cliff Notes
Women aged 18-24 are suckers for six packs
(well, no wonder I couldn't get any dates)
25-34 value career driven men
35-44 are happy to date a man 5 years older
Women over 45 often date younger men
55+ women still value sexual compatibility and are pickiest daters
I would very much doubt that this is what most women end up having in real life (or end up being happy with)...
There has always been a disconnect between what people want and what people end up having, online dating simply makes it easier to find someone's profile who (seemingly) ticks all the boxes.0 -
Heck most women would date 5 years older.
I would be 35..I'd date 40..I wouldn't date 50...thats my problem since that's who is interested in me lol0 -
I too suspect that the survey answers reflect more idealism then what most women expect or desire for reality.
I cringe to think what the mens survey was.0 -
How could 55+ be pickier than 18-24?0
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How could 55+ be pickier than 18-24?
How many 18-24 year olds have self confidence? Most I've met feel the must have a man at any costs.0 -
How could 55+ be pickier than 18-24?
How many 18-24 year olds have self confidence? Most I've met feel the must have a man at any costs.
Yes and no. I see where you are coming from, and it makes sense. But that's not been my experience. There are 18-24 year olds that can have a lot of options. They don't always choose wisely though.0 -
How could 55+ be pickier than 18-24?
How many 18-24 year olds have self confidence? Most I've met feel the must have a man at any costs.
Yes and no. I see where you are coming from, and it makes sense. But that's not been my experience. There are 18-24 year olds that can have a lot of options. They don't always choose wisely though.
My guess is that 18-24 year olds are 'flightier' for lack of a better word. They don't know who they are yet let alone who would make a good match for them. They are probably more likely to date a variety of men to test them out (an exaggerated version of this is Taylor Swift who changes her style weekly depending on her newest flavor of guy). The older women have been through life, tested some of the flavors, and know know exactly what they want. Just my impression at least.0 -
i wasn't choosy at all in my late teens ( before i met my ex). i had fun with whomever was cute or hot, preferably in a fraternity ;-) LOL for a while my only mode of selection was, he had to be an ice hockey player...... again, had to be cute or hot though. i think had i been MORE choosey, when i met my frat boy ex, i wouldn't have dated him too long and i would have moved on.........
at that age, nothing meant anything and there were no real consequences as long as you were safe.
NOW, everything means something and if you are too carefree you know that there are consequences and potential collateral damage ( ie. kids getting too close, meeting friends in a GF/ BF manner, buying a house, etc.)
perfect example of the dating someone your friends approved of.
there was a guy pledging Pi Kappa Alpha while i was just initiated into my sorority. He was cute, but i wasn't really all that into him. he was in my english class and had just started wearing his pika hat. i was talking to him after class one day and some of my pledge class sisters walked by. so they saw him with me. we were having a mixer at a local bar that weekend and they all told me to ask him to go but that he had to wear his hat ( fraternity hat, to a very popular fraternity). so, i did. LOL that's all it was too.
we ended up in his room that night, messing around. ( after a night of drinking....) and one of my pledge sisters must have known where i was because she somehow found me via phone and asked me to come walk her home from wherever she was. i left to help her!!!!!! hahahaha! i THINK i did go back to his room after that, but i cant' remember. needless to say we never hung out, or fooled around or had any real contact after that. i didn't really care because i wasn't into him. i only asked him because my friends thought he was cool. ;-) i do remember his name though!0 -
Not sure I buy all this, sounds like much speculation.
How did the author get the data she used?
If it was done through a survey you can pretty much chuck this out the window imo.
EDIT: I found this using google:
"To gain deeper insight into the lives of Britain’s daters, match commissioned one of the most
comprehensive studies ever conducted among UK daters. As well as surveying 5,692 single people
registered on its sites, match also researched 150,000 anonymised partner preference records of recent
male and female match members, including several multiple choice responses.
In addition, to help interpret and explain the results and provide an insight into where dating trends may go
in the future, match gathered opinions from respected experts in the fields of psychology, relationships,
etiquette and occupational psychology."
I have no idea what "partner preference records" are because I have never used match.
However if the majority of this data is taken from someone voluntarily reporting information, it is probably bull.
People love to say what they don't mean. Women tend to be the biggest culprits in saying "I prefer and want this" and then turning around and taking something else.
SECOND EDIT: I got that from googling Love Geist report, and pulled up a 2010 one from the UK.0 -
How could 55+ be pickier than 18-24?
my moms friends dont feel pressure like they gotta have a man so theyre more picky0 -
My guess is that 18-24 year olds are 'flightier' for lack of a better word. They don't know who they are yet let alone who would make a good match for them. They are probably more likely to date a variety of men to test them out (an exaggerated version of this is Taylor Swift who changes her style weekly depending on her newest flavor of guy). The older women have been through life, tested some of the flavors, and know know exactly what they want. Just my impression at least.
^^^ THIS. Exactly.
Although I'm almost 34, I would say the 35-44 bracket explains me pretty well. Although, I am very picky. I may not get as many men knocking at my door as an 18-24 year old, but there are still plenty. When I was younger, I was just happy for the attention. Now that I'm older, I do know what I like and it's easier to filter out the relationships that I know won't work.0 -
I'm 33 and suddenly ambition and goals are VERY important to me. So is sexual compability! That's huge for me where in my 20s it wasn't (when I was single). In my single 20s, I figured sex was just something fun and we could always work on it. Now that I'm in my 30s, we either have it or we don't.0
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