The Best NYE Ever!
mc1217
Posts: 108 Member
(excuse the poor punctuation/grammar/etc.... i got lazy).
So, I have been single for about 2.5 years, and for a while, I did NOTHING to put myself "back out there." I just didn't want to date, and didn't feel ready to date after a long, serious relationship had ended. Then, after a year had passed, I did online dating... for about 15 months... and well... let's just say my friends tell me I should start a blog w/the stories I have from those experiences.... Anyway, so this past September, I closed my dating profiles and once again, didn't want to deal with it all anymore. I have been feeling less stressed and although I sometimes miss that male attention in my life, I know it is the smart choice for now.
So, for NYE, my college friend, (well call him.... Bob) invited me to NOVA (where we went to school together) for the night (I live a couple hours away Bob). Bob and a bunch of his friends were renting a cabin by the water (hot tub + alcohol + cabin by the beautiful water!? yes, please!), and he asked if i wanted to join them. since my other plans were to go to a "party" with about 6 other married couples (some younger than me... and i just turned 25 in December lol), i jumped at the offer!
We partied from 8pm until very early in the morning... it was so much fun! The entire night, I had my eye on this cute boy (yes, i still use the word boy, i find it endearing). Apparently this boy (we shall call him... Tom) has been a friend of Bob's for about 10 years (Bob & I have been friends for 5 years, but I had never met Tom until that night. So, I could tell Tom was being a little flirty, but not too much and well, I was getting pretty discouraged lol. At 4am every one went off to bed, so for the first time all night, I had a chance to be alone w/Tom! I sat down on the couch by Tom & we chatted & laughed for a while (we were coming down from our drunkenness, so at that point, we were just kinda tipsy). I could tell he was nervous b/c when we were talking he had like a nervous tick goin on... it was actually really cute though.
so, here i am... finally alone w/tom, having sworn off men a few months prior, and i thought, "this is your chance... it's 4am... it's now or never." so i mustered up my confidence (paired w/some "liquid courage"), and i scooted so close to tom, our legs were touching. at this point, tom stopped talking, was avoiding eye contact & twitching more than ever, lol. he still didn't do anything! but i was determined! so, grabbed him very lightly by his shirt & kinda tugged at him to lean in... still, NOTHING. lol.. good thing i was tipsy, otherwise, i probably would have turned beat red & run off.
tom resisted & then said, "i can't." i said asked if he had a gf. he said no. i asked if he didn't want to. he said, "oh no, no... no... i want to.... it's just that Bob is my oldest friend... and I can't do that to him."
apparently tom thought bob & i were together! i explained we had been friends for 5 years & we had never even kissed before- we are like brother & sister. tom seemed quite happy with this response & well.... the rest is history
i normally don't "kiss & tell," but i was so proud of myself for making a move! i saw someone i liked & i went after him! i've made moves before - but this time felt different - esp. because ive felt so defeated lately w/the whole dating scene....
tom seems really nice & smart (based on our conversations before & after the fact), but he lives 3 hrs away, & i'm not niave, it was NYE, it is what it is. when i left a few hours later, he asked if he could carry my bag to my car.... i guess ive been single so long, i forget you're supposed to let a man feel like a man... blah, blah, blah... and i declined. he then asked if he could call me sometime he is in the area (the area where i live). i said sure & gave him my number. now, im not expecting anything from this guy - im sure ill never hear from him again - but who knows... maybe he'll surprise me. if nothing else, i had a great NYE!
So, I have been single for about 2.5 years, and for a while, I did NOTHING to put myself "back out there." I just didn't want to date, and didn't feel ready to date after a long, serious relationship had ended. Then, after a year had passed, I did online dating... for about 15 months... and well... let's just say my friends tell me I should start a blog w/the stories I have from those experiences.... Anyway, so this past September, I closed my dating profiles and once again, didn't want to deal with it all anymore. I have been feeling less stressed and although I sometimes miss that male attention in my life, I know it is the smart choice for now.
So, for NYE, my college friend, (well call him.... Bob) invited me to NOVA (where we went to school together) for the night (I live a couple hours away Bob). Bob and a bunch of his friends were renting a cabin by the water (hot tub + alcohol + cabin by the beautiful water!? yes, please!), and he asked if i wanted to join them. since my other plans were to go to a "party" with about 6 other married couples (some younger than me... and i just turned 25 in December lol), i jumped at the offer!
We partied from 8pm until very early in the morning... it was so much fun! The entire night, I had my eye on this cute boy (yes, i still use the word boy, i find it endearing). Apparently this boy (we shall call him... Tom) has been a friend of Bob's for about 10 years (Bob & I have been friends for 5 years, but I had never met Tom until that night. So, I could tell Tom was being a little flirty, but not too much and well, I was getting pretty discouraged lol. At 4am every one went off to bed, so for the first time all night, I had a chance to be alone w/Tom! I sat down on the couch by Tom & we chatted & laughed for a while (we were coming down from our drunkenness, so at that point, we were just kinda tipsy). I could tell he was nervous b/c when we were talking he had like a nervous tick goin on... it was actually really cute though.
so, here i am... finally alone w/tom, having sworn off men a few months prior, and i thought, "this is your chance... it's 4am... it's now or never." so i mustered up my confidence (paired w/some "liquid courage"), and i scooted so close to tom, our legs were touching. at this point, tom stopped talking, was avoiding eye contact & twitching more than ever, lol. he still didn't do anything! but i was determined! so, grabbed him very lightly by his shirt & kinda tugged at him to lean in... still, NOTHING. lol.. good thing i was tipsy, otherwise, i probably would have turned beat red & run off.
tom resisted & then said, "i can't." i said asked if he had a gf. he said no. i asked if he didn't want to. he said, "oh no, no... no... i want to.... it's just that Bob is my oldest friend... and I can't do that to him."
apparently tom thought bob & i were together! i explained we had been friends for 5 years & we had never even kissed before- we are like brother & sister. tom seemed quite happy with this response & well.... the rest is history
i normally don't "kiss & tell," but i was so proud of myself for making a move! i saw someone i liked & i went after him! i've made moves before - but this time felt different - esp. because ive felt so defeated lately w/the whole dating scene....
tom seems really nice & smart (based on our conversations before & after the fact), but he lives 3 hrs away, & i'm not niave, it was NYE, it is what it is. when i left a few hours later, he asked if he could carry my bag to my car.... i guess ive been single so long, i forget you're supposed to let a man feel like a man... blah, blah, blah... and i declined. he then asked if he could call me sometime he is in the area (the area where i live). i said sure & gave him my number. now, im not expecting anything from this guy - im sure ill never hear from him again - but who knows... maybe he'll surprise me. if nothing else, i had a great NYE!
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That's awesome, good for you for making the first move. Glad you had a great new years eve!0
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Brilliant!! That's definitely a NYE to remember!! :flowerforyou:
And You will get quite a few points for that in the 'Dating Challenge' thread!!! :bigsmile:0 -
Good for you for making the first move... something I may have been to shy to do
Maybe in the very near future he may surprise you with a phone call!!!
Keep us posted.0 -
Any calls yet?0
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Any calls yet?
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haha thanks ladies! i was thinking about it yesterday, still not believing i actually pulled on his shirt... lol i guess that's the secret gift of vodka (confidence)!
no - no calls. no texts
here is where it gets fuzzy....
before i had even had one sip of alcohol, i saw tom walk into the party & i thought, "oh! he's cute!" it was my goal the entire night to just kiss him. all i wanted was a hot & heavy make out session [i got a little bit more than i bargained for
]. so, when i made the move & "during" & after we woke up, i was 100% OK with it being just a casual thing. but then he had to go & ask for my number... making me think it could be something more.
and he was just so freakin NICE. when we were all hanging out the next AM, before leaving, he could tell i was cold, so he offered me his sweatshirt. he kept sayin how cute i was... how i have a cute voice. he offered to get me some water. he gave me a soft, sweet kiss (like a kiss you'd give a gf/bf when you leave for work) when he went outside to get in the hot tub that morning (his brother wanted him to get in it with him ...every one else was too tired), & he also invited me to get into the hot tub with them & when i said no thanks (didnt want to get all wet before a long drive home), he said, "well you can just come outside & sit with us." again, i declined, b/c i didn't want to seem clingy.
later, some girl said to his brother, jokingly, "geez, do something w/your hair already!" i thought she was talking to me, as i had just thrown my hair up in a sloppy bun, and said, "oh, i thought you were talkin to me for a second b/c my hair looks so bad!" tom interjected w/, "i think your hair looks cute."
some of us were going to ihop, then every one else was coming back to the cabin to hang out (they all live nearby). he wasn't going to ihop and said, "are you coming back here after ihop?" i told him no, that i needed to get on the road. and that's when he said, "well, can i call you next time im in ____ (where i live)?" and i said yes, & gave him my number. we hugged goodbye & i told him i had a good time.
the thing is, why would you get someone's number, just in case you're ever in their hometown? that seems so weird to me... i was hoping he was just using that as an excuse, but in reality, he wanted to keep in touch... i guess he could of simply just meant a) if im ever in your area, ill call you to hook up or b) i don't know how to end this conversation, so ill just get ur number instead ...im usually a good judge of character though, and he seemed very different. he was nervous and soft spoken when he asked for my number.
it will be a week on tuesday... so who knows i don't want to ask bob b/c i think the whole thing may have made him feel a little awkward.... (i wont get into that now lol) 0 -
the thing is, why would you get someone's number, just in case you're ever in their hometown? that seems so weird to me... i was hoping he was just using that as an excuse, but in reality, he wanted to keep in touch... i guess he could of simply just meant a) if im ever in your area, ill call you to hook up or b) i don't know how to end this conversation, so ill just get ur number instead ...im usually a good judge of character though, and he seemed very different. he was nervous and soft spoken when he asked for my number.
it will be a week on tuesday... so who knows i don't want to ask bob b/c i think the whole thing may have made him feel a little awkward.... (i wont get into that now lol)
People say things in the heat/excitement of the moment all the time. I wouldnt read too much into it. You both had a nice time. He's gone back to reality (3 hours away, work) and so should you. Perhaps you'll hear from him. Perhaps not. In any case, you both brought the new year in with a bang.....whooo hoooo!!! :bigsmile:0 -
the thing is, why would you get someone's number, just in case you're ever in their hometown? that seems so weird to me... i was hoping he was just using that as an excuse, but in reality, he wanted to keep in touch... i guess he could of simply just meant a) if im ever in your area, ill call you to hook up or b) i don't know how to end this conversation, so ill just get ur number instead ...im usually a good judge of character though, and he seemed very different. he was nervous and soft spoken when he asked for my number.
it will be a week on tuesday... so who knows i don't want to ask bob b/c i think the whole thing may have made him feel a little awkward.... (i wont get into that now lol)
People say things in the heat/excitement of the moment all the time. I wouldnt read too much into it. You both had a nice time. He's gone back to reality (3 hours away, work) and so should you. Perhaps you'll hear from him. Perhaps not. In any case, you both brought the new year in with a bang.....whooo hoooo!!! :bigsmile:
very true! i need to get back to that frame of thinking. all the guys ive been out w/lately have been jerks, so this was just so refreshing. oh well! you're right - back to reality....0
