Trying again while dieting after miscarriage

Amber1070

Almost a year ago my husband and I found out we were pregnant for the first time. At around 8 weeks we had a miscarriage. Now almost a year later I've been exercising and dieting and recently dropped the 34 lbs (and counting) that I've been wanting to get rid of. I want to be as healthy as possible when we try again....soon :-) I'm very nervous to exercise during pregnancy but I want to continue after the first trimester. I'm glad I found this group :-) I cant and don't want to gain more than 20 lbs during per my doctor because of a bad back and neck. So it's very important to stay in shape throughout and then get all that weight off after.

kellykneppergrundy

Hello,
I hope your journey to being pregnant again will go quickly. I'm sure your weight loss and good health with stand you in good stead for both trying to conceive and being pregnant. I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage. The fact is once you have one, pregnancy is never the same again. The first 12 weeks especially may be a very anxious time for you.
I'm nearly 16 weeks pregnant with my seventh pregnancy. I had one live birth with my first pregnancy and then 5 miscarriages due to a blood clotting disorder. I am on blood thinners this time and it seems to be doing the trick, but I am still anxious now, even at 16 weeks. I was excercising a lot before I got pregnant and it was very tempting to stop when I found out I was pregnant. But I got lots of reassurance from my doctor that the exercises I was doing would be fine and would not cause miscarriage and kept at it. I still knicker check constantly when I go to the toilet, especially after a run. But every ultrasound and everytime I hear the heartbeat I am reassured that I am doing what is best for me and the baby. Good luck, and I hope your take home baby is just around the corner!

Amber1070

So happy your doing well :-) and wow! Big family. How wonderful! I'm hoping for maybe 2 but I'm going to be 36 soon so we will see. Thank your for your reassurance. I'm so excited to experience pregnancy! I want to be as healthy as possible always now.

RenaeNguyen

Hopeing this helps:
I am 26 years old. I have had 3 misscariages. At the time I weighed 255lbs each one a year apart. It was soooo hard on me that it kept happening. It didn't help that my obgyn was an *kitten* who kept telling me if you don't lose weight your never going to carry to full term (in not so nice words) and would proceed to tell me how I would probably never lose weight and that I was past the point of no return. My husband, who couldn't see me go through it anymore, then told me he didn't want to try anymore. Unless I lost weight. Something clicked in my brain, I spent both of our income tax returns ($6000ish) on workout machines, groceries, biggest loser cook books, tennis shoes, workout clothes, everything that I would need to lose weight at home. My husband was reluctant watching me spend all the cash, because I had made numerous expensive attempts to lose weight. Like I said something clicked and I worked out every day, and not just a little, a lot I wanted to burn 600+ calories a day and was eating anywhere between 1200-1500 net calories, I lost 100lbs in a year! Everyone around me was amazed when the weight started coming off, then the day I lost 100lbs my husband and I sat down and talked about something we hadnt talked about in 2 years, having a baby. I got pregnant about 2 weeks later (according to my ovulation chart) and am now 26 weeks! And I found a new obgyn immediately! Lol. My obgyn is always telling me how he's never seen such a healthy pregnancy from someone who had so many misscariages. Losing weight does help your body have a healthier pregnancy.

jamifaith

I literally got on the forums today to try and find advice about keeping going after a miscarrage. I just had my first pregnancy and miscarried at 11 weeks. I gained about five pounds during those eleven weeks but have gained four more since losing the baby. Im still waiting for my body to get back to normal and I just dont have the motivation to want to lose weight anymore. How did you ladies pick back up with your weight loss after losing a baby?

acampbe2umd

I literally got on the forums today to try and find advice about keeping going after a miscarrage. I just had my first pregnancy and miscarried at 11 weeks. I gained about five pounds during those eleven weeks but have gained four more since losing the baby. Im still waiting for my body to get back to normal and I just dont have the motivation to want to lose weight anymore. How did you ladies pick back up with your weight loss after losing a baby?

It takes time. I had 2 births and then 2 consecutive miscarriages. One at 5w and one at 12w. I cried a lot, gained a few lbs and just didn't have much motivation for much. Fortunately, I've never had a weight issue, so when I finally found my footing again, I shed the few lbs and then emotionally prepared myself to get pregnant again. It happened after my breakdown during DS1's kindergarten screening when he was supposed to liken his sister to a girl and he told her instead that his baby sister died. Yeah, bawling in the middle of the screening. Not a pretty sight. Then something just snapped, I was ready to discuss it again and DH and I decided to give it a try and we started trying again. You'll get there when you're ready. And remember it's more important to get yourself emotionally healthy first!

Amber1070

@renaenguyen. That's is terrible what you went through! I'm so glad you turn yourself around and are now having a healthy pregnancy :-) that is so wonder.

@ jamifaith. It is the worst pain ever to loss a child, born or not especially the first. I still cry almost a year later. But I'm now in a better place with my mind, heart and health. There's no time limit to wait although being almost 36 myself times a ticking. During our pregnancy and miscarriage we were looking for a house to buy. So now that we are in it and all work is done and the nursery is started,I wanted to paint it myself before trying again. So I gave myself the time to loose the weight I had to loose. I wasn't not working out prior to getting pregnant but the miscarriage and wanting to prepare my body to try again motivated me.

@acampbe2umd. So glad you've had 2 healthy pregnancies. And that you were able to recover. It does take time and then like you said. Something clicks. I will always carry some sorrow but I'm hopeful and happy at the prospect of trying again.