Just had one of those moments
sdbart
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Well this morning was just plain FUN! (insert sarcasm here) My ASD son decided that he was going to throw a fit over everything little to do with breakfast. From the pepper bacon being too hot (him screaming hot when he ate some pepper) then to not wanting to drink his soy milk. He is lactose intolerant so I have a rule that the boys have to drink at least half of the small glass of soy milk I serve. He dig his heels in on that one and was hissing and scratching and just plain being nasty attitude. He was off kilter yesterday also, but not this bad as today. And I think it's because he has been invited to a birthday party for today and he is getting nervous about it. But that's not all folks...
Did I mention I married an Aspie without even knowing it at the time. Yea, I suspected something was off or strange about him but I never really dug into it for the 11 yrs we have been married. YEP! We figured that out when my boy was diagnosed with PDD-NOS and Hubbie started to blame himself. Well to get back on story... He was losing it himself. He already had a bad night because the other boy was having growing pains in his leg and wanted to sleep with us and choose to cuddle up to Dad. Dad did NOT want to be cuddled while he slept and that put him off of his game. Then when my ADS child started to act up, Hubbie started to shutdown and get angry, crash banging in the kitchen and you could just feel the anger radiating off of him. That did not help the situation with the milk as the boy can also sense that he was getting to Dad and was playing off Dad's emotions.
Okay, so long story short... it all played itself out. Son finally drank his milk after an hour of hissing and scratching at the air and Hubbie is helping him, as I type, get dressed for the day.... I need to have a workout to relieve my stress and pray we do not have a continuation of milk incident at lunch.
Did I mention I married an Aspie without even knowing it at the time. Yea, I suspected something was off or strange about him but I never really dug into it for the 11 yrs we have been married. YEP! We figured that out when my boy was diagnosed with PDD-NOS and Hubbie started to blame himself. Well to get back on story... He was losing it himself. He already had a bad night because the other boy was having growing pains in his leg and wanted to sleep with us and choose to cuddle up to Dad. Dad did NOT want to be cuddled while he slept and that put him off of his game. Then when my ADS child started to act up, Hubbie started to shutdown and get angry, crash banging in the kitchen and you could just feel the anger radiating off of him. That did not help the situation with the milk as the boy can also sense that he was getting to Dad and was playing off Dad's emotions.
Okay, so long story short... it all played itself out. Son finally drank his milk after an hour of hissing and scratching at the air and Hubbie is helping him, as I type, get dressed for the day.... I need to have a workout to relieve my stress and pray we do not have a continuation of milk incident at lunch.
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<<HUGS>>
Get your workout in, some "YOU" time is a good thing today. Maybe the time the boys are at the birthday party with you will give your hubby the recharge time he needs. We all need some peace to recharge and that is what our kids are teaching us, along with acceptance and patience. See if you can grab a friend, in law, relative to go with you and give you a hand with the boys.0
