Valentine's Day around the corner...
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Frankly, I don't believe in any of the made-up crap that are Christmas, Valentine's day, Easter, New Year's Eve and all that.
But not all Fast Food is unhealthy, but that doesn't mean you'll ever find me at a McDonald's drive thru ordering a salad. I just don't believe in it. Like I don't believe in Valentine's day. I just don't. Ok. I have no reason. I just don't and never did believe in it. But I never said that everyone else has to believe how I do. We just don't believe in celebrating it.
I would assume you don't eat fast food because there is something wrong with it - it's unhealthy. which is a very good, common reason to give up something. That's what I don't understand though. You don't believe in Vday "validity" but what makes other special days more "Valid"?I never said there was something wrong with it. I said to each his own. My BF and I just don't believe in Valentine's days validity. Just like we don't eat Fast Food. We never said there's something wrong with it, we just don't eat it.
I guess that chances are my friends, family or whoever is concerned is going to be available on that day, so that is perhaps one advantage of these days over other "regular" days.
I particularly don't believe in the premium price I have to pay for the same crap that I could get all year round for "a normal price" (supply vs demand, fair enough!).
I guess these events are just good reasons to celebrate if you need any, but with a poor entertainment value for the money spent and pushed to us by smart marketers and greedy businessmen. So I'd rather spend the same money on 2 other occasions than once on these days.
You can always do it "on the cheap" though, and I agree these days are good reasons to celebrate (or good reminders to celebrate) if you need any.
I agree 100%!
I personally took advantage of some sales specific to vday to spoil a couple of my friends with surprises because they were feeling a bit blue.
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My new goal for V-Day is to give blood. Unfortunately, I can't do it this year due to an out-of-country travel waiting period, but I will absolutely be doing it in future years. Think its a great way to honor Happy Heart Day.
Other than that, working as usual, laying low with my hound dog and catching up on my Wed night tivos.
I'm cool with it...
Cool Pam. I like the sentiment. I also need to give blood as I haven't done for a few years and it bugs me every time I hear a national plea. Then I forget about it again. Grrrrr at myself. Need to get my act together! :grumble:
I've never been against donating blood, the opportunity just never presented myself and I'm too lazy to seek it out.
Does that make me a bad person? Apparently my blood is in high demand
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My new goal for V-Day is to give blood. Unfortunately, I can't do it this year due to an out-of-country travel waiting period, but I will absolutely be doing it in future years. Think its a great way to honor Happy Heart Day.
Other than that, working as usual, laying low with my hound dog and catching up on my Wed night tivos.
I'm cool with it...
Cool Pam. I like the sentiment. I also need to give blood as I haven't done for a few years and it bugs me every time I hear a national plea. Then I forget about it again. Grrrrr at myself. Need to get my act together! :grumble:
I've never been against donating blood, the opportunity just never presented myself and I'm too lazy to seek it out.
Does that make me a bad person? Apparently my blood is in high demand
Yes, especially to vampires!!
Mwahahahahahahha!!! :bigsmile:0 -
I think we should bombard Poncho & Kristin's inbox's with love PMs on Val-Day!! Just to piss them off!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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Right, I better go to work. Bye bye lovers
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Looooove this!
I am glad so many of you are doing nice things on the day... Be it with your loved family and friends, or with yourself.
xoxoxox
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I don't agree. I have known plenty of men that got wrapped up in the spirit of Valentine's Day. There is nothing wrong in celebrating love. :flowerforyou:I know it's trendy and all to hate things that bring love and joy but I've not much for cynicism. Yes, I'm aware that valentines day is a "corporate holiday" - but all holidays are "made up" and this one is something that celebrates the love in your life. Why is that so awful? No, I don't -need- to be reminded that I have loved ones, but it's fun to celebrate. So quit your b*tching and just enjoy the f*cking day and realize that you have a lot to be cherishing in your life whether you are single, divorced, married, taken, WHATEVER.
Now eat your godd*mn candy.
Why does it require a day to feel any of the above?? I think Vday is more for women to feel special around their friends... "Oh I got flowers" or "we did this." Cause trust me most dudes could give a *kitten*.
***edit to say: Just trying to get some engaging convo going as this group is failing fast.0 -
So you need this day to tell you/assure you, that your guy cares about you?? I mean honestly if my girl needs the assurance of vday to know I care, I guess I'd rather she find someone else. Just my thoughts.
Yes this day is to reassure the genuine girls out there that thier guy cares, because too many (NO FINGER POINTING HERE - I haven't found any ladies on here yet that fit this bill) women out there that feel the need to push it in our faces that just because our man doesn't do anything elaborate or expensive on this day for us, then we must not have a good man, relationship, etc....
So yes, sometimes we feel a little left out, we may not doubt your love for us on this one day, and truly we don't need anything on that day, bbut you know what, it's sure nice to keep the diva, drama ridden beeeatches off our backs, and by you giving us the most simple thought filled thing.... you help in that task. That means alot.
I personally love flowers, maybe it's from mom owning a flower shop, but three times a year is not that much to ask for. Birthday, Anniversary, and Hell Day (aka V-Day).0 -
I never said there was something wrong with it. I said to each his own. My BF and I just don't believe in Valentine's days validity. Just like we don't eat Fast Food. We never said there's something wrong with it, we just don't eat it.
I would assume you don't eat fast food because there is something wrong with it - it's unhealthy. which is a very good, common reason to give up something. That's what I don't understand though. You don't believe in Vday "validity" but what makes other special days more "Valid"?
Birthdays and Christmas, Easter all honor a given date with a significance behind it... while Vday supports a feeling (that technically should be felt everyday your with that person). Halloween I'm not sure what the hell to make of it... I don't care for it myself. Thanksgiving is in the same boat as Vday, however I give up all my beliefs when that much food is on the line.0 -
I think we should bombard Poncho & Kristin's inbox's with love PMs on Val-Day!! Just to piss them off!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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Right, I better go to work. Bye bye lovers
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I never said there was something wrong with it. I said to each his own. My BF and I just don't believe in Valentine's days validity. Just like we don't eat Fast Food. We never said there's something wrong with it, we just don't eat it.
I would assume you don't eat fast food because there is something wrong with it - it's unhealthy. which is a very good, common reason to give up something. That's what I don't understand though. You don't believe in Vday "validity" but what makes other special days more "Valid"?
Birthdays and Christmas, Easter all honor a given date with a significance behind it... while Vday supports a feeling (that technically should be felt everyday your with that person). Halloween I'm not sure what the hell to make of it... I don't care for it myself. Thanksgiving is in the same boat as Vday, however I give up all my beliefs when that much food is on the line.
Yeah, days that were assigned a significance because someone somewhere back in the day decided it was important to do so. Before Christians celebrated Christmas and Easter and whatnot, pagans did. Before that, people were just looking to party. Which is exactly what Vday is! Halloween is fun as hell because costumes and candy and Thanksgiving is the same... with more food!
Why need a reason to be happy/silly/loving! I think as long as you do something that you personally enjoy then you take the power away from corporations to define what happiness and celebration are! Don't give up on such wonderful things, seize them back!0 -
My plans for Valentine's Day? Sobbing, stalking my ex-boyfriend's FB page, reading Pablo Neruda and Leonard Cohen, drinking wine (hence the sobbing), eating Lindt into a diabetic coma and going to down to the cat shelter to pick out a new special someone and get started on my collection of feline companions. 0
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I work on Thursday and then I'm getting my hair done after work. That's it, but I'm excited!0
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My plans for Valentine's Day? Sobbing, stalking my ex-boyfriend's FB page, reading Pablo Neruda and Leonard Cohen, drinking wine (hence the sobbing), eating Lindt into a diabetic coma and going to down to the cat shelter to pick out a new special someone and get started on my collection of feline companions.
Lindt chocolate truffles are the beeeeessssttttt
I expect pics of the new feline friend and each addition hereafter. We can take family pictures with our animals and swap them every Christmas to remind the world of how single we both are!0 -
Why need a reason to be happy/silly/loving! I think as long as you do something that you personally enjoy then you take the power away from corporations to define what happiness and celebration are! Don't give up on such wonderful things, seize them back!
Here you go, I personally don't like Valentines day/don't enjoy it. So why should I recognize it at all?? I'm able to blow off Halloween and nobody gives a ****... and if valentines day has the same significance as made up, why am I told I have to do something.0 -
Why need a reason to be happy/silly/loving! I think as long as you do something that you personally enjoy then you take the power away from corporations to define what happiness and celebration are! Don't give up on such wonderful things, seize them back!
Here you go, I personally don't like Valentines day/don't enjoy it. So why should I recognize it at all?? I'm able to blow off Halloween and nobody gives a ****... and if valentines day has the same significance as made up, why am I told I have to do something.
Probably because of the mentality where you'd be willing to make your girl unhappy over your desire to NOT be happy. I'm not saying you HAVE to do something, I'm just trying to understand why you wouldn't WANT to.
It might just be because I'm an optimist and I actively look for things to be happy about (no matter how small or insignificant) that I just don't "get" why people would be okay with such, what seems like, petty reasoning to be apathetic/angry/whatever.0 -
You should name your new feline friend "Lindt"My plans for Valentine's Day? Sobbing, stalking my ex-boyfriend's FB page, reading Pablo Neruda and Leonard Cohen, drinking wine (hence the sobbing), eating Lindt into a diabetic coma and going to down to the cat shelter to pick out a new special someone and get started on my collection of feline companions.
Lindt chocolate truffles are the beeeeessssttttt
I expect pics of the new feline friend and each addition hereafter. We can take family pictures with our animals and swap them every Christmas to remind the world of how single we both are!0 -
Why need a reason to be happy/silly/loving! I think as long as you do something that you personally enjoy then you take the power away from corporations to define what happiness and celebration are! Don't give up on such wonderful things, seize them back!
Here you go, I personally don't like Valentines day/don't enjoy it. So why should I recognize it at all?? I'm able to blow off Halloween and nobody gives a ****... and if valentines day has the same significance as made up, why am I told I have to do something.
Probably because of the mentality where you'd be willing to make your girl unhappy over your desire to NOT be happy.
I think you have this wrong... it would either be me making her happy and me unhappy, or me happy and her unhappy. Not caring for Vday doesn't make me an unhappy person... that would just be an assumption that goes along with my question of why do I have to do something on VDay... it's the norm to do something not an indicator of an attitude.0 -
Personally I find the whole Vday thing just bleh. I celebrate it though ever year for my friend's bday falls on the same day. Other than that, it's just another day to me.0
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Why need a reason to be happy/silly/loving! I think as long as you do something that you personally enjoy then you take the power away from corporations to define what happiness and celebration are! Don't give up on such wonderful things, seize them back!
Here you go, I personally don't like Valentines day/don't enjoy it. So why should I recognize it at all?? I'm able to blow off Halloween and nobody gives a ****... and if valentines day has the same significance as made up, why am I told I have to do something.
Probably because of the mentality where you'd be willing to make your girl unhappy over your desire to NOT be happy.
I think you have this wrong... it would either be me making her happy and me unhappy, or me happy and her unhappy. Not caring for Vday doesn't make me an unhappy person... that would just be an assumption that goes along with my question of why do I have to do something on VDay... it's the norm to do something not an indicator of an attitude.
I guess... there are things that I don't care about but I do for friends because they care. I went to a photography exhibit or something in San Diego with a friend because no one else would go with her. I didn't give a rip about it but she really didn't want to go by herself. So we went, laughed, I was bored a bit and while I still have no interest in it, it made her happy that I did that for her. That's kind of how I see relationships (friends, family, so's). Unless it's something that you are deeply, morally offended by, there's no reason to not be a little uncomfortable to make someone you care about happy over a small gesture.0 -
Why need a reason to be happy/silly/loving! I think as long as you do something that you personally enjoy then you take the power away from corporations to define what happiness and celebration are! Don't give up on such wonderful things, seize them back!
Here you go, I personally don't like Valentines day/don't enjoy it. So why should I recognize it at all?? I'm able to blow off Halloween and nobody gives a ****... and if valentines day has the same significance as made up, why am I told I have to do something.
Probably because of the mentality where you'd be willing to make your girl unhappy over your desire to NOT be happy.
I think you have this wrong... it would either be me making her happy and me unhappy, or me happy and her unhappy. Not caring for Vday doesn't make me an unhappy person... that would just be an assumption that goes along with my question of why do I have to do something on VDay... it's the norm to do something not an indicator of an attitude.
I guess... there are things that I don't care about but I do for friends because they care. I went to a photography exhibit or something in San Diego with a friend because no one else would go with her. I didn't give a rip about it but she really didn't want to go by herself. So we went, laughed, I was bored a bit and while I still have no interest in it, it made her happy that I did that for her. That's kind of how I see relationships (friends, family, so's). Unless it's something that you are deeply, morally offended by, there's no reason to not be a little uncomfortable to make someone you care about happy over a small gesture.
I think we're both barking up the wrong tree. I do plenty to show I care. What I don't get is, why the hell have I been asked 30 times today what I'm doingn for Vday?? I hate that it's been turned into this obligation for me to do something, it takes any bit of special out of the equation. If I now feel forced to put on a display for Vday, is it really special??0 -
Why need a reason to be happy/silly/loving! I think as long as you do something that you personally enjoy then you take the power away from corporations to define what happiness and celebration are! Don't give up on such wonderful things, seize them back!
Here you go, I personally don't like Valentines day/don't enjoy it. So why should I recognize it at all?? I'm able to blow off Halloween and nobody gives a ****... and if valentines day has the same significance as made up, why am I told I have to do something.
Probably because of the mentality where you'd be willing to make your girl unhappy over your desire to NOT be happy.
I think you have this wrong... it would either be me making her happy and me unhappy, or me happy and her unhappy. Not caring for Vday doesn't make me an unhappy person... that would just be an assumption that goes along with my question of why do I have to do something on VDay... it's the norm to do something not an indicator of an attitude.
I guess... there are things that I don't care about but I do for friends because they care. I went to a photography exhibit or something in San Diego with a friend because no one else would go with her. I didn't give a rip about it but she really didn't want to go by herself. So we went, laughed, I was bored a bit and while I still have no interest in it, it made her happy that I did that for her. That's kind of how I see relationships (friends, family, so's). Unless it's something that you are deeply, morally offended by, there's no reason to not be a little uncomfortable to make someone you care about happy over a small gesture.
I think we're both barking up the wrong tree. I do plenty to show I care. What I don't get is, why the hell have I been asked 30 times today what I'm doingn for Vday?? I hate that it's been turned into this obligation for me to do something, it takes any bit of special out of the equation. If I now feel forced to put on a display for Vday, is it really special??
I'm not saying you don't show you care, but all I have to work with is when you posted earlier about how you will refuse to do anything on vday and if your girl doesn't like it then too bad (I'm paraphrasing).
It's not an obligation either, it's an honest question. It's like asking someone what they're doing for the weekend. Small talk. Do you get upset when someone expects you to have a couple of days off and maybe do something fun?0 -
Why need a reason to be happy/silly/loving! I think as long as you do something that you personally enjoy then you take the power away from corporations to define what happiness and celebration are! Don't give up on such wonderful things, seize them back!
Here you go, I personally don't like Valentines day/don't enjoy it. So why should I recognize it at all?? I'm able to blow off Halloween and nobody gives a ****... and if valentines day has the same significance as made up, why am I told I have to do something.
Probably because of the mentality where you'd be willing to make your girl unhappy over your desire to NOT be happy.
I think you have this wrong... it would either be me making her happy and me unhappy, or me happy and her unhappy. Not caring for Vday doesn't make me an unhappy person... that would just be an assumption that goes along with my question of why do I have to do something on VDay... it's the norm to do something not an indicator of an attitude.
I guess... there are things that I don't care about but I do for friends because they care. I went to a photography exhibit or something in San Diego with a friend because no one else would go with her. I didn't give a rip about it but she really didn't want to go by herself. So we went, laughed, I was bored a bit and while I still have no interest in it, it made her happy that I did that for her. That's kind of how I see relationships (friends, family, so's). Unless it's something that you are deeply, morally offended by, there's no reason to not be a little uncomfortable to make someone you care about happy over a small gesture.
I think we're both barking up the wrong tree. I do plenty to show I care. What I don't get is, why the hell have I been asked 30 times today what I'm doingn for Vday?? I hate that it's been turned into this obligation for me to do something, it takes any bit of special out of the equation. If I now feel forced to put on a display for Vday, is it really special??
I'm not saying you don't show you care, but all I have to work with is when you posted earlier about how you will refuse to do anything on vday and if your girl doesn't like it then too bad (I'm paraphrasing).
It's not an obligation either, it's an honest question. It's like asking someone what they're doing for the weekend. Small talk. Do you get upset when someone expects you to have a couple of days off and maybe do something fun?
See I don't think it is small talk... I haven't heard any people in long-term relationships asked about Vday, and when I asked them they said nothing... all ladies I asked btw.
My boss however had an interesting take: She said that when you're dating over 25 (she got married at 36), you have to go all in, because people expect more and you have fewer choices. What do you all think of that, agree or disagree with her??0 -
My parents were married for 40 years and every v-day they would do something small do each other so I think it is a personal preference and it doesn't matter if someone has been dating 2 months married for years.0
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My parents were married for 40 years and every v-day they would do something small do each other so I think it is a personal preference and it doesn't matter if someone has been dating 2 months married for years.
You look prepared (your hat) for another long season. I think they report to spring training next week.0 -
See I don't think it is small talk... I haven't heard any people in long-term relationships asked about Vday, and when I asked them they said nothing... all ladies I asked btw.
My boss however had an interesting take: She said that when you're dating over 25 (she got married at 36), you have to go all in, because people expect more and you have fewer choices. What do you all think of that, agree or disagree with her??
Ah, but you asked, which is exactly what you said annoyed you so much.
I disagree with that because so far we agree on one thing - no one should be OBLIGATED to do a specific thing because society expects it (big flowers, big dinner, big chocolates, big teddy bears). I just don't see the point of refusing to do -anything- because 1) fun reason to celebrate, be happy and be creative and 2) I find it silly to oppose a holiday because it's "made up" when at the root that's true of every day.
It's fine if you don't want to do anything, especially if your SO doesn't either. I just don't get WHY people would pass up a reason to be silly and party.0 -
My parents were married for 40 years and every v-day they would do something small do each other so I think it is a personal preference and it doesn't matter if someone has been dating 2 months married for years.
You look prepared (your hat) for another long season. I think they report to spring training next week.
Pitchers and catchers reported today.0 -
The Mariners and King Felix agreed on a new "holy **** t that is a ridiculous amount of money" contract today.My parents were married for 40 years and every v-day they would do something small do each other so I think it is a personal preference and it doesn't matter if someone has been dating 2 months married for years.
You look prepared (your hat) for another long season. I think they report to spring training next week.
Pitchers and catchers reported today.0 -
My boss however had an interesting take: She said that when you're dating over 25 (she got married at 36), you have to go all in, because people expect more and you have fewer choices. What do you all think of that, agree or disagree with her??
Is she related to DM?? lol 0 -
I just don't see the point of refusing to do -anything- because 1) fun reason to celebrate, be happy and be creative and 2) I find it silly to oppose a holiday because it's "made up" when at the root that's true of every day.
It's fine if you don't want to do anything, especially if your SO doesn't either. I just don't get WHY people would pass up a reason to be silly and party.
That is my take too. It doesnt bother me or offend me. Clintons making a fast buck on selling cards is the least of my worries in life (Ermm didnt clintons just go bust??? Hmm!). And that goes for flowers and chocolates too. You really dont have to buy anything. But any excuse to have a party - friends, lovers, alcohol, food - and I'm there!!! Woooo hoooooo!!! :drinker: :drinker:
I've been known to invent occasions just to get friends out to the pub.....like 'oh look, the sun just came out, let go for a drink' or 'I sold a big kitchen today, lets go celebrate'.....etc.....:laugh:
What do you think of Mothers/Fathers Day Ponch?? (You have those in America, right?)0 -
My first one since my separation and divorce! But, yeah... kinda not so fun when your ex already has a girlfriend.0
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