Up for a challenge?
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The easygoing/laid back thing is pretty difficult. Actually, it's all a bit weird.
You're literally being asked to describe what kind of person you are so other people can judge you... Which is fine, I don't have a problem with it. Though about any given thing someone could be considered passionate and that same person could be totally mellow in regards to another subject. I know I'm guilty of this, many of you have witnessed me go from RAGE to "meh" to OMGYAY faster than most bees can bumble.
So when it comes down to describing who "you" are, what are "you" supposed to put? There's always going to be someone that's going to see it and make a snide comment. Let the girls say they're challenging, let the guys say they're easy going, let those same people see you describe yourself as fun and be snooty about how everyone thinks they're "fun". Or... whatever. I don't know.
That being said (because it's time for me to lighten up), anyone else get bugged out when someone says they are looking for someone with a "good sense of humor" or "likes to laugh"? It doesn't mean anything, the meaning is so vague and arbitrary. I think I have a good sense of humor, but someone who doesn't like cussing and "that's what she said" jokes wouldn't think I'm very funny. Doesn't mean we don't like to laugh, just that we don't make each other laugh. I'd like to see someone that says "I want someone that hates laughter and fun" that isn't grumpy cat. That person deserves a medal.0 -
The best girl I ever met from a dating site found me with nothing written in my profile but this:
"I eat babies and also chicken"
It's all a crapshoot.
I would date her too. My message would go something like this
"I think I just discovered I'm a lesbian. Would you like to go out for some babies together sometime?"
It was my profile description, not hers. So you don't have to convert, we can chow down together.0 -
The best girl I ever met from a dating site found me with nothing written in my profile but this:
"I eat babies and also chicken"
It's all a crapshoot.
I don't know, not sure how much of a crap shoot that actually is. I think a non sequitur like that (sort of implies good natured heretic) is more informative than 30 paragraphs of "I love to laugh, and want to take advantage of all life has to offer..." The right lady will pick up on that- a good way to weed people out.
I went out with a guy who had something about Amy Tan being money with the ladies in the 90's, which really made no sense in the context of a dating profile (but hilarious). I don't think he got a lot of dates because none of his profile was self referential, but there was deviant humor- which some people look for. You can tell me how awesome you are with meaningless adjectives, or show me with something funny, right?0 -
You can tell me how awesome you are with meaningless adjectives, or show me with something funny, right?
Excellent point, and I now realize that my current profile falls into the former category. I think it's time for a revamp soon.0 -
The best girl I ever met from a dating site found me with nothing written in my profile but this:
"I eat babies and also chicken"
It's all a crapshoot.
I would date her too. My message would go something like this
"I think I just discovered I'm a lesbian. Would you like to go out for some babies together sometime?"
It was my profile description, not hers. So you don't have to convert, we can chow down together.
Oh I totally misread that. I bet that happens a lot in online dating.
Too bad I'm a lesbian now. But I guess I can still treat you to some babies to be polite.0 -
I am a work hard, play hard person. I am looking for that very special lady. I like nice people, fun things and unicorns. I hate bad people, racism and spiders. My friends say I am a very funny person. You will be the judge.
If you haven't fallen asleep yet by reading the platitudes contained in my profile then we are probably a good match.
PS: I like good music too, not bad music.0 -
I blame Marilyn Monroe:
“If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”
Wow do I hate that stupid quote and I see it all the bloody time.
I love that quote - how funny! I think she was absolutely right, in my interpretation of that quote - if someone isn't going to stick around when the going gets tough, when things aren't going well and you aren't your normal, bubbly self, but is only interested and willing to be around when you're at your best... then that's not someone I would want to form a relationship with. Interesting how differently people interpret the same set of words - I'm guessing you take it to mean tantrums and self-centred drama (worst behaviour), whereas I read it as worst situation and a response to that.
One thing, though, about the 'if you're really such and such, you don't need to tell me' idea. I agree that in face-to-face 'real' life - most significant traits are fairly self-evident in person. I'm not sure it holds true online, though. So much of what we 'read' in a person comes from not just what they say, but also how they say it - inflection, emphasis, tone can make a big difference to how we 'hear' a phrase, and the impression that creates. None of that is clear online (we still need a sarcasm button/icon, btw!), so perhaps we do need to be more specific/explicit about who we are and our attitude to life to present ourselves accurately online, without these cues.0 -
I am a work hard, play hard person. I am looking for that very special lady. I like nice people, fun things and unicorns. I hate bad people, racism and spiders. My friends say I am a very funny person. You will be the judge.
If you haven't fallen asleep yet by reading the platitudes contained in my profile then we are probably a good match.
PS: I like good music too, not bad music.
This will never work. I love spiders.
Oh well. Hate sex?0 -
I blame Marilyn Monroe:
“If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”
Wow do I hate that stupid quote and I see it all the bloody time.
I love that quote - how funny! I think she was absolutely right, in my interpretation of that quote - if someone isn't going to stick around when the going gets tough, when things aren't going well and you aren't your normal, bubbly self, but is only interested and willing to be around when you're at your best... then that's not someone I would want to form a relationship with. Interesting how differently people interpret the same set of words - I'm guessing you take it to mean tantrums and self-centred drama (worst behaviour), whereas I read it as worst situation and a response to that.
One thing, though, about the 'if you're really such and such, you don't need to tell me' idea. I agree that in face-to-face 'real' life - most significant traits are fairly self-evident in person. I'm not sure it holds true online, though. So much of what we 'read' in a person comes from not just what they say, but also how they say it - inflection, emphasis, tone can make a big difference to how we 'hear' a phrase, and the impression that creates. None of that is clear online (we still need a sarcasm button/icon, btw!), so perhaps we do need to be more specific/explicit about who we are and our attitude to life to present ourselves accurately online, without these cues.
I don't think there's a problem with the quote, my belief and interpretation is how you also read it, Castadiva.
However over time it has become a mantra for a very particular type of woman who wants you to accept her as perfect and amazing even when she is clearly not and has no desire to improve. It's used to say that she's allowed to be a crazy ***** and the man better cater to her every whim and desire or he's a dbag who just doesn't appreciate her.
So in turn, the ladies who use quotes like this have ruined it's meaning and make people cringe when they hear it.0 -
I blame Marilyn Monroe:
“If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”
Wow do I hate that stupid quote and I see it all the bloody time.
I love that quote - how funny! I think she was absolutely right, in my interpretation of that quote - if someone isn't going to stick around when the going gets tough, when things aren't going well and you aren't your normal, bubbly self, but is only interested and willing to be around when you're at your best... then that's not someone I would want to form a relationship with. Interesting how differently people interpret the same set of words - I'm guessing you take it to mean tantrums and self-centred drama (worst behaviour), whereas I read it as worst situation and a response to that.
One thing, though, about the 'if you're really such and such, you don't need to tell me' idea. I agree that in face-to-face 'real' life - most significant traits are fairly self-evident in person. I'm not sure it holds true online, though. So much of what we 'read' in a person comes from not just what they say, but also how they say it - inflection, emphasis, tone can make a big difference to how we 'hear' a phrase, and the impression that creates. None of that is clear online (we still need a sarcasm button/icon, btw!), so perhaps we do need to be more specific/explicit about who we are and our attitude to life to present ourselves accurately online, without these cues.
I don't think there's a problem with the quote, my belief and interpretation is how you also read it, Castadiva.
However over time it has become a mantra for a very particular type of woman who wants you to accept her as perfect and amazing even when she is clearly not and has no desire to improve. It's used to say that she's allowed to be a crazy ***** and the man better cater to her every whim and desire or he's a dbag who just doesn't appreciate her.
So in turn, the ladies who use quotes like this have ruined it's meaning and make people cringe when they hear it.
Interesting... I'd rarely heard it, though I knew of it's existence, before I came to SP. Maybe I don't know enough narcissistic drama queens, though I should, in my industry...:laugh: If it's become common currency for the rude, self-centred and psychotic of the world, I'm not surprised so many people hate it!0 -
I am a work hard, play hard person. I am looking for that very special lady. I like nice people, fun things and unicorns. I hate bad people, racism and spiders. My friends say I am a very funny person. You will be the judge.
If you haven't fallen asleep yet by reading the platitudes contained in my profile then we are probably a good match.
PS: I like good music too, not bad music.
Unicorns are pretty telling. Please water this down.0
