5 Mistakes Guys Make In Online Dating
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The only other mistake I would add that guys make is:
6. LACK OF FOLLOW-THROUGH
I can't tell you how many of my gal pals and I have experienced that. It's annoying.
Case in point: once I had a guy that after several conversations on a dating site that went well .... messaged me his cell number and said if I was interested in taking it to the next level to text him that day. So, I did - and also texted the main pic on my profile so he would know it was me.
No response.
Days later he wrote back. REALLY? Ok, that's just game playing.... so you know what? I just didn't respond.
A MONTH LATER he texted again.... so I thought ok, maybe he IS interested and was just being a wanker at first (not a good first impression.) So I wrote back within an hour.....
A day later, no response. So I then texted him and told him to never contact me again.....
So Mistake #6? If interested, don't be a FLAKE! FOLLOW THROUGH.
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ETA: stupid typos...
I can understand the emails thru the dating site that just happen to stop, but once they ask you to text and then flake, like WTF?
Usually it is while I am texting a guy that I get asked for the first date/meeting, etc.
I had a guy I was talking to just before Christmas. I didn't have my kids this xmas so we spent alot of the day talking.
Then poof he was gone. He resurfaced some 3 weeks later and said 'sorry I was busy, still wanna chat?' UMMM NO?0 -
I woud like to add a #6 and that is writing like you are 13 years old and texting someone. When I see "Hi how are u?" "i am very attracted to ur look" that is a turn off. If you cannot spell you or do not know when to capitilize I it screams lack of intellegence to me.
This rule goes for both guys and girls but I put it under guys because I think they do it more no matter their age while girls will usually stop after their early 20s.0 -
I woud like to add a #6 and that is writing like you are 13 years old and texting someone. When I see "Hi how are u?" "i am very attracted to ur look" that is a turn off. If you cannot spell you or do not know when to capitilize I it screams lack of intellegence to me.
This rule goes for both guys and girls but I put it under guys because I think they do it more no matter their age while girls will usually stop after their early 20s.
I agree with this 100%. If there are numerous typos and many misspelled words in his profile, I move on.......0 -
I woud like to add a #6 and that is writing like you are 13 years old and texting someone. When I see "Hi how are u?" "i am very attracted to ur look" that is a turn off. If you cannot spell you or do not know when to capitilize I it screams lack of intellegence to me.
This rule goes for both guys and girls but I put it under guys because I think they do it more no matter their age while girls will usually stop after their early 20s.
UGH, Chatpeak is the worst. It looks like a three year old is typing, and I'm not into three year olds BLECH0 -
I think the second biggest mistake a heterosexual male can make is dating women. Unfortunately, the biggest mistake would be dating men.0
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The only other mistake I would add that guys make is:
6. LACK OF FOLLOW-THROUGH
I can't tell you how many of my gal pals and I have experienced that. It's annoying.
Case in point: once I had a guy that after several conversations on a dating site that went well .... messaged me his cell number and said if I was interested in taking it to the next level to text him that day. So, I did - and also texted the main pic on my profile so he would know it was me.
No response.
Days later he wrote back. REALLY? Ok, that's just game playing.... so you know what? I just didn't respond.
A MONTH LATER he texted again.... so I thought ok, maybe he IS interested and was just being a wanker at first (not a good first impression.) So I wrote back within an hour.....
A day later, no response. So I then texted him and told him to never contact me again.....
So Mistake #6? If interested, don't be a FLAKE! FOLLOW THROUGH.
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ETA: stupid typos...
I can understand the emails thru the dating site that just happen to stop, but once they ask you to text and then flake, like WTF?
Usually it is while I am texting a guy that I get asked for the first date/meeting, etc.
I had a guy I was talking to just before Christmas. I didn't have my kids this xmas so we spent alot of the day talking.
Then poof he was gone. He resurfaced some 3 weeks later and said 'sorry I was busy, still wanna chat?' UMMM NO?
I wonder why a guy would want to text back and forth before meeting? I can kind of see why women might want to do this, but I don't think I see texting as "taking it to the next level" after a few message exchanges on a dating site. I think the longer all the preliminaries get drawn out, the more likely things will just die off before meeting.
My standard was max 3 or 4 message exchanges, and then if he wasn't interested/didn't suggest meeting- I was all done. This circumvented the simulated emotional attachment and fantasy stuff all of us can create. It all sucks though, really, because it's easy and human nature to want things.
Also, that sucks that that guy texted with you on christamas ( prolly lonely and selfishly wanted a human connection without reciprocating, really) No empathy. Jerk.0 -
The only other mistake I would add that guys make is:
6. LACK OF FOLLOW-THROUGH
I can't tell you how many of my gal pals and I have experienced that. It's annoying.
Case in point: once I had a guy that after several conversations on a dating site that went well .... messaged me his cell number and said if I was interested in taking it to the next level to text him that day. So, I did - and also texted the main pic on my profile so he would know it was me.
No response.
Days later he wrote back. REALLY? Ok, that's just game playing.... so you know what? I just didn't respond.
A MONTH LATER he texted again.... so I thought ok, maybe he IS interested and was just being a wanker at first (not a good first impression.) So I wrote back within an hour.....
A day later, no response. So I then texted him and told him to never contact me again.....
So Mistake #6? If interested, don't be a FLAKE! FOLLOW THROUGH.
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ETA: stupid typos...
I can understand the emails thru the dating site that just happen to stop, but once they ask you to text and then flake, like WTF?
Usually it is while I am texting a guy that I get asked for the first date/meeting, etc.
I had a guy I was talking to just before Christmas. I didn't have my kids this xmas so we spent alot of the day talking.
Then poof he was gone. He resurfaced some 3 weeks later and said 'sorry I was busy, still wanna chat?' UMMM NO?
I wonder why a guy would want to text back and forth before meeting? I can kind of see why women might want to do this, but I don't think I see texting as "taking it to the next level" after a few message exchanges on a dating site. I think the longer all the preliminaries get drawn out, the more likely things will just die off before meeting.
My standard was max 3 or 4 message exchanges, and then if he wasn't interested/didn't suggest meeting- I was all done. This circumvented the simulated emotional attachment and fantasy stuff all of us can create. It all sucks though, really, because it's easy and human nature to want things.
Also, that sucks that that guy texted with you on christamas ( prolly lonely and selfishly wanted a human connection without reciprocating, really) No empathy. Jerk.
I don't mind sending a few texts, but I agree, I don't want a penpal and the longer you leave the meeting... the less chance you have of meeting... depending on your schedules of course. I think you can find alot more out about a man/women by talking to them on the phone.
My usual rule is if they haven't brought up meeting within the week I move on, unless the convo is quite stimulating. I also won't wait weeks between date 1 and 2, etc. Because it's almost like re meeting eachother.
I can really relate to this emotional attachment/fantasy idea you speak of. I just dated a guy for a month, and he was so much into 'future talk' and saying nice things about me, and the like that I may have gotten caught up in it. When he decided I wasn't a match for him, I felt blindsided. So now I have to wonder why a man (or a women too) feels the need to have such disclosure with a new person. Almost like this huge expectation was formed that noone could have lived up too.0
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