Anyone lose a large amount of weight pre prego??
leighf84
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Prior to getting pregnant I lost about 80+lbs and was in the best shape of my life... This has been a roller coaster of emotions for me as I am terrified of returning to my old huge self. Has anyone else been dealing with this? I find myself completely miserable and I feel so large, it amazes me I was almost 50lbs bigger than this before... I am not sure how I did it! I am also concerned about stretch marks, I had them from being big but toned and treated them down to a minimum and I have 4 weeks left and nothing new yet but I am very scared its coming.
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You are not the only one!
I am 30.5 weeks (Sunday is my "turnover" day - I'm due May 26th), and this is my second pregnancy. My son was born in late January 2011, and I gained a LOT of weight during that pregnancy. I was overweight to start with, but I ate with reckless abandon and didn't exercise during that pregnancy, so after the initial postpartum weight loss (and gaining back a few, to be honest), I weighed 235.8 (I was about 255 before delivery). I'm 5'7", and 235.8 is the most I've weighed ever in my life, not counting being pregnant or immediately postpartum.
I lost 82 lbs from that point and hit 153.8 late last March, a year after starting MFP. As my son's eating started to vary, I started to pick at what I was feeding him and/or be a bit more lax about what I was eating, so I gained some back, but we're talking less than 10 lbs, and I was still incredibly active. I was in fantastic shape.
It was really hard for me to consider getting pregnant again. My husband still wasn't sure whether he wanted us to stop after two kids (he's now convinced), but I was sure that two was my max. However, because I had gotten myself in such good shape, I was nervous about "ruining" it and considered not having any more kids. I knew I had to make a decision quickly because I didn't want my kids to be more than three years apart, and I wanted to give us time to conceive in case it took a while. (My sister and her husband had no trouble conceiving the first time but took nearly a year to conceive their second - thankfully for us, both times we conceived on the second cycle. Our kids will be 2 years and 4 months apart.)
I came to terms with it and, although I've gained more than I'd have liked to (bleeding issues and weird ligament pain any time I try to take a walk have really messed with my ability to exercise --> not exercising at all), I'm ok enough with the gain knowing that I will get back on the wagon and lose it again. I've even decided on a different, and hopefully more effective, approach for this time. (I discovered The Roadmap on MFP and the value in lifting.)
It does still bother me, though, that I might fail and be fat again long-term. My sister, who had her second (and last) baby about six months before I had my first, joined me in fitness/weight loss and lost almost 100 lbs (she started out heavier than I did). What became a bonding experience for us (even though we were already close) has admittedly become a bit of a jealousy issue with me. I know that it's *my* issue, though, which is why I don't say/do anything to let on, however I think she's become a bit more sensitive and stopped sharing with me every new amazingly small size pants/shirt/dress/whatever that she's purchased. I definitely don't begrudge her her happiness or wish that she would gain weight back, but I do find myself envying her Facebook pictures that show how small she is and all the positive comments she receives. I used to get those kind of comments anytime I was tagged in a picture or posted one myself (a rarity), but know it will be a long time before I get those again. Maybe I can use that as motivation. I do join in on the comments on her pictures because she deserves every compliment she gets, and, oddly enough, it makes me feel better.
Point being, I struggled with this issue for a while before and during pregnancy, and while I've come to terms with it, I know I will begin to struggle with it again afterwards. Additionally, I don't want to mess up my chance at breastfeeding - I had major supply issues the first time around, and I'm hoping to succeed this time. I am deathly afraid that I will be one of those people for whom breastfeeding means your body holds on to weight rather than drops it, that I won't be able to really start losing weight until I wean, and that I'll have to make the choice between being selfish and stopping breastfeeding/pumping so that I can lose weight or continuing to do so and being miserable because I'm still fat.
I'm just trying to get through it. The more I "talk" about it, the better I feel. Thankfully my husband is very supportive, and I know my sister will be as well.
I know that's a lot to read, so I apologize for that. I hope some of it makes you feel better! Feel free to add me if you like :flowerforyou:0 -
Also, there are others in this thread, too, who are having similar issues. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/891581-self-esteem-and-gaining-weight
ETA that I'm cross-posting on that thread to refer here as well, since that thread is still active. It's not the exact same thread but has similar themes, if that makes sense!0 -
I've been working on losing 20lb..... so far I have 8 to go.... and the main reason is because I want to get use to workout and eat as healthy as possible.... in that way I hope!!! I wont gain too much weight during the pregnancy.... I plan on working out during pregnancy.... at least 10 minutes... and I'm a bartender.... that will keep me moving at least 5 hours a day...0
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I had lost 130 lbs prior to my last baby... and gained 80 during his pregnancy! I lost 40 of it and then gained it all back and started this pregnancy weighing more than the end of last baby. I realize now I had adrenal fatigue issues after beginning to drink a lot of coffee. I am off the coffee now but I am quite down about the fact I am only 40 lbs from my highest weight ever and only beginning my 18th week of pregnancy. I hate looking and feeling so close to my old fatty self and have fallen out of shape> That is why I joined here.. I need the support and encouragement to keep from gaining a large amount and then to supercharge me to lose weight afterwards0
