waiting....
nolachick
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Saw this picture....
...and got me thinking...
do you agree or disagree? thoughts?
...and got me thinking...
do you agree or disagree? thoughts?
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Yes and no....
I get the idea of go with the flow, let things happen naturally, have fun, etc. don't rush, you don't need 0 to 60 in 1 month.
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You also have your wants and desires ... And what is ok for you in a partner and relationship.
So if you want someone who can only give you a portion of what you need and you feel it's too much compromise to meet his level of whatever, then no I don't think it's ok to wait. You may wait and wait and wait and he can just never give it.0 -
mostly no because get a life, stalker.
I'm not really that romantic. I did the pining thing when I was a teenager but since then I've learned to not pass on other opportunities when the other person is dragging their heels or just not interested.0 -
Hell no!
I stuck around in my marriage for an extra 4 years waiting on him to catch up. Though it was helpful in my personal growth, that is time I'll never get back. Nobody is worth me putting my precious life on hold for!0 -
I'm with everyone else here. No to waiting. Been there, done that, no more thanks.0
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lol0
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Depends on the situation, I probably wouldn't wait around for anything but if things rekindled in the future then there's nothing wrong with that.0
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I'm with everyone else here. No to waiting. Been there, done that, no more thanks.
Totally agreeing.0 -
Yes and no....
I get the idea of go with the flow, let things happen naturally, have fun, etc. don't rush, you don't need 0 to 60 in 1 month.
But...
You also have your wants and desires ... And what is ok for you in a partner and relationship.
So if you want someone who can only give you a portion of what you need and you feel it's too much compromise to meet his level of whatever, then no I don't think it's ok to wait. You may wait and wait and wait and he can just never give it.
^^This!0 -
Depends on the situation, I probably wouldn't wait around for anything but if things rekindled in the future then there's nothing wrong with that.
I do believe in the if they are meant to be standing beside you in your future then they will catch up, but I agree with this because you can't just wait for something that may never happen. If they catch up later on and it works out then great.0 -
lol
Holy crap your alive lol0 -
Depends on the person and the circumstances and also how that person defines "waiting."
Roadie touched on something that I think is reasonable ... maybe you have a brief interlude with someone, but the timing isn't good for them, so nothing happens. Then, weeks or months later, you reconnect, and it works out. So I would not totally write off someone who isn't ready right now. I understand that things happen that throw your life off balance (losing your job, for instance) and cause you to want to put dating on the back burner. And for a truly good guy, I'd be willing to keep things on a friendship level until he has his ducks in a row and is ready to devote himself to developing a relationship.
What I would never do, however, is stop seeing other people. Just because his life is out of order doesn't mean I turn into a nun, especially considering I am not 20 years old anymore, and I don't want to be alone forever.
But if I felt like the reason things weren't working for us was because he just wasn't sure about me, then we're history. I am who I am, and if I'm not right for him, that's fine. I don't expect him to apologize for what he does or doesn't feel for me. But he doesn't get another chance to evaluate me and decide I'm not right for him either.0 -
I very much believe that good relationships are all about timing!! So while I dont believe you should put your life on HOLD, I think that what is meant to be, will be!
'Picking up later' sounds about right Roadie :bigsmile:0 -
I very much believe that good relationships are all about timing!! So while I dont believe you should put your life on HOLD, I think that what is meant to be, will be!
'Picking up later' sounds about right Roadie :bigsmile:
agreed
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