When someone compliments you, do you believe them?
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JanieJack
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The body confidence post got me thinking… do you believe it when someone compliments your appearance? BB tells me all the time I’m the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen. I don’t believe that. Don’t get me wrong: I’m pretty good looking, but I feel like I can’t possibly be the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen. There are so many better looking women out there.
When someone compliments you, do you believe them? Or do you feel like they’re just saying what you want to hear?
When someone compliments you, do you believe them? Or do you feel like they’re just saying what you want to hear?
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I take it in context....
If it's someone I know and trust (family/friend/coworker/boyfriend): I absolutely believe them. They have no reason to lie about what they say.
If it's someone random (not trying to pick me up): Yep, still believe them. Again, why would they say it unless they truly felt it?
A guy trying to pick me up: I'll take it with a grain of salt. I do believe he thinks I'm attractive. If he didn't think so, he wouldn't be talking to me. I'll chat with him a bit and feel out the situation. If I'm interested, he gets my number. If not, I still take the compliment and feel good about it.
Ref: BB's comment to you.... I would believe him. Outer beauty is only one portion of a person's beauty. As you get to know each other, your inner beauty is coming out. That is makes you more and more beautiful to him. So, while you may not "physically" be the most beautiful woman in the world. You are the most beautiful woman in the world to him. Own it.0 -
It depends on the person and tone. Maybe to BB you are the most beautiful person in the world to him and it isn't all about looks.0
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I do believe it, why not? The only exception is if I give someone a compliment and they say something back...when people complement me I accept it graciously and will compliment them at a later date on something I like!0
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I will randomly compliment strangers in the elevator usually. It might come off creepy but they need to know why I am staring at their shoes.
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It really depends on what is said and who says it. My old department secretary said something like "Oh My God! You're so skinny" yesterday. I believe she thinks I have lost more weight and look better but I am far from skinny. I believe the owner of my gym when he says he can really see the changes since I started lifting more and that my midsection has really trimmed down. If my mom tries to compliment me, I don't believe a word of it. She's always been the type to try to boost my ego. If a girlfriend says, she likes my arms or legs or some other feature I usually believe it. In general, I believe compliments along the lines that I look better and the weight loss is noticeable. I think often times the compliments are exxagerated though.0
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I will randomly compliment strangers in the elevator usually. It might come off creepy but they need to know why I am staring at their shoes.
Same here except they need to know why I am staring at their blouse. 0 -
I do believe it, why not? The only exception is if I give someone a compliment and they say something back...when people complement me I accept it graciously and will compliment them at a later date on something I like!
I agree!
I also agree about the context - if it's some guy at the bar I may take it with a grain of salt, but I think I am far from nasty so I own it!0 -
No... I don't. I have so many years of hearing negative things I can't really hear the positive.0
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It depends on the compliment and who it's from. If my mom tells me I look good I believe her because she's such a negative person that she hardly ever says nice things - so she really means it when she does. My sister, on the other hand, always says "OMG YOU'VE LOST WEIGHT" even when I haven't so I just shrug it off. If it's a random guy responding on OkCupid saying "You are so hot" I don't believe or disbelieve it, but if a random guy from OKC says "I like your eyebrows" I'm more likely to be flattered (generic vs. genuine in my head).
I used to be that person that didn't believe compliments, but would fish for them anyway. Now, since my heightened self confidence I can thank people and actually believe them.0 -
Yes, usually. Unless it's something ridiculous like "wow, your legs are so long".
I'm under 5ft :laugh: :laugh:0 -
I had a hard time believing it in the past when I was much heavier. It was rare when someone complimented me. Family and friends, sure, they do all the time. Strangers though, was a different story. As others said, I am learning to accept and believe it. The weight change does help big time in boosting myself confidence and in turn, I believe people when they do compliment me.0
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Ref: BB's comment to you.... I would believe him. Outer beauty is only one portion of a person's beauty. As you get to know each other, your inner beauty is coming out. That is makes you more and more beautiful to him. So, while you may not "physically" be the most beautiful woman in the world. You are the most beautiful woman in the world to him. Own it.
Run hit the nail on the head here!
And if you don't believe the person you're in a relationship with, then who else in the world will you believe? Let go and trust him.0 -
JJ, If my bf told me I was the hottest girl he's ever seen.. I'd call BS. If he said I was the most beautiful, I'd believe him.
And yes, I believe all compliments.0 -
Ref: BB's comment to you.... I would believe him. Outer beauty is only one portion of a person's beauty. As you get to know each other, your inner beauty is coming out. That is makes you more and more beautiful to him. So, while you may not "physically" be the most beautiful woman in the world. You are the most beautiful woman in the world to him. Own it.
Run hit the nail on the head !
She said exactly what I meant but didn't feel like typing!! Ha0 -
Cross-posting my response from the other version of this thread:
It's very, very rare that I get compliments. Even then, I think they're just trying to make me feel good, and they're not genuine. I'm just hard wired to hear negative all the time since that's what I've gotten most of my life. My outlook is changing, but it's a long road.
I compliment people all the time, and I mean every single one of them.0
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