Online dating: Married vs single
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Has anyone ever dated someone online but was concerned they were married or in a relationship? I met a doctor on Match.com very recently, but I have found it very odd that he only calls right after work and says he goes to bed at 9 pm. Like seriously? What guy doesn't have time to talk to a new woman for 5 minutes? Today he texted me around 7 or so, and asked if I was busy or not to talk. I responded that I would be home very soon and to call in 10 minutes. He never did! Maybe I am paranoid or overreacting, but it just seems off to me in my dating experience. Most men are so eager to call a new woman to set something up.
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that sounds fishy.0
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If he's on hospital shifts (ie. not a GP or consultant), it's entirely possible he does go to bed at 9! My sister's also a doctor, and often at the hospital from well before dawn to late at night, or vice versa. If he's on call, he may not have phoned because he got beeped to attend a patient. We're very close, but now only manage to speak about once a month (time zone issues as well!). Ask a few questions about his work patterns before jumping to any conclusions.0
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I think married people are a major concern in this internet age. I can only suggest in the first instance, that you ask him!! And if you progress to meeting and having a relationship, then you check out his living arrangements!!
I've just been told that my friend was seeing someone for a year and he was married!! She never saw his home in all that time :grumble:
But as Castadiva rightly said, it could just be that the guy is busy working and sleeping - Doctors are busy people - so, if you like him, best not to jump to conclusions until you know more about him. :flowerforyou:0 -
Not just married, I'm sure people with girlfriends/boyfriends, fiancé, trend to stray from their significant other. Maybe they're not happy in the relationship, maybe they like the excitement, 100's of reasons. I would definitely have my guard up and dig a little deeper if you have interest in this person.0
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Doctors do work crazy schedules sometimes and if you met him on Match.com it is possible he is talking to other people also.0
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You will never know unless you ask!0
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Doctors do work crazy schedules sometimes and if you met him on Match.com it is possible he is talking to other people also.
this. drs have crazy schedules. and as much as I think they are hot I don't trust them. lol. they have patients and nurses throwing themselves at them LOL. I am too jealous of a person to deal :blushing:0 -
Not just doctors either. I go to bed as early as possible and have a weird schedule because there are farm animals and whatnot that need to be fed at certain times. That means when I can't get someone to cover for me that I'm mucking around a barn, showering and then passing out ASAP. I've told several suitors that I can't call them at certain times because my schedule is weird, I never imagined they would assume I'm married (or otherwise taken). Good to know I guess.
Basically, if you don't like his availability that's a perfectly good reason to not pursue someone. But unless they give a reason to not trust them, there's no point is getting your guard up and keeping it there. Relationships are built on trust and if you can't even start with it then there's a problem.0 -
Could be a doctor's schedule if he is real; however, I just experienced my first scammer on a dating site. We exchanged phone numbers, but he wanted me to text him before I called so that he'd know it was me. Or if he called, it was at specific times. Turned out he just won a "bid" for some new business for a company he owned, and he had to go to Turkey to get the project started (had visions of him asking me for money so that he could get back home). His wife died ## number of years ago. I googled dating scammers and his story fit it to a T.
Anyways...just be careful!! The scammers always make their professions sound promising.0 -
I have a weird schedule too cause I work nights! So anything is possible.0
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Doctors do work crazy schedules sometimes and if you met him on Match.com it is possible he is talking to other people also.
this. drs have crazy schedules. and as much as I think they are hot I don't trust them. lol. they have patients and nurses throwing themselves at them LOL. I am too jealous of a person to deal :blushing:
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I only date married guys.0
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I only date married guys.
Oops, didn't realize this wasn't in the main forums.0 -
The thing is he texted me on Sunday when he wasn't working, and then a few minutes after 9 he said he was tired. Then I didn't hear from until the next evening. No goodbye...nothing, I did date a doctor before him briefly, and I work in the health profession, and I do understand they are busy. However, no one is that busy that they can't manage a 5 minute phone call at 8 pm. Then I found out he may have been involved in an insurance scam when I googled him.0
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I only date married guys.
Me too.
Unrelated note, how's your hubby doing?
He's fine, but always coming home late from work and sneaking off to make phone calls.0 -
I met a doctor on Match.com very recently, but I have found it very odd that he only calls right after work and says he goes to bed at 9 pm. Like seriously?
I'm a French model. You should date me.
Bonjour!
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I only date married guys.
Out of pure curiosity, what's the draw for that?0 -
I dunno... Sounds a little fishy. Ask him what's up. But honestly, his availability may not get any better, if it's his work schedule that's the problem. So if you hate it now, maybe it's a bad idea.
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What guy doesn't have time to talk to a new woman for 5 minutes?
a doctor0 -
I met a doctor on Match.com very recently, but I have found it very odd that he only calls right after work and says he goes to bed at 9 pm. Like seriously?
I'm a French model. You should date me.
Bonjour!
Best Commercial EVER!!!!!!!!!!0 -
I met a doctor on Match.com very recently, but I have found it very odd that he only calls right after work and says he goes to bed at 9 pm. Like seriously?
I'm a French model. You should date me.
Bonjour!
Best Commercial EVER!!!!!!!!!!
Disagree
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tLV1ssUQHME 0 -
What guy doesn't have time to talk to a new woman for 5 minutes?
a doctor
I know plenty of doctors, and date one previously...every one has time! Believe it! Regardless, I did talk to the guy today so we shall see what happens.0 -
maybe he isnt married. Maybe he's just not into you.0
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So you have met him AND he's still calling... So he's into you, at least somewhat.
Still, I can understand your concern and it sounds fishy to me.
How long do the phone conversations last??? How was the date? Do you ever call him?0 -
no one is that busy that they can't manage a 5 minute phone call at 8 pm. Then I found out he may have been involved in an insurance scam when I googled him....
I would keep looking and leave the door open.0
