Funerals and all that jazz
ahende3
Posts: 46 Member
So I have not been a very active member of this group since I joined and I must apologize for that. I joined this group a week before my dad got sick. He died 2 weeks ago from pancreatic cancer, we only knew he was sick for about a month (because things got really bad). Anyway, so I took some time from logging in order to attend to him and then plan the services and what not. What I found was that I did not want to eat at all. I had to force myself to eat meals, small ones at that.
NOW, however, the sadness is truly sinking in. I want to eat the dozen donuts my roommate brought in, or the whole box of cheez-its. I still don't want to eat meals, but I could eat snacks all day. I also have no motivation to work out. I have been going to the gym about 30 minutes a day, but before I was spending up to two hours in the gym. I feel so upset because I do not want to back track, and I know this is from the loss of my dad, but I just can not get it together.
I am wondering steps others might have taken to shake these feelings and get back on track and motivated!
NOW, however, the sadness is truly sinking in. I want to eat the dozen donuts my roommate brought in, or the whole box of cheez-its. I still don't want to eat meals, but I could eat snacks all day. I also have no motivation to work out. I have been going to the gym about 30 minutes a day, but before I was spending up to two hours in the gym. I feel so upset because I do not want to back track, and I know this is from the loss of my dad, but I just can not get it together.
I am wondering steps others might have taken to shake these feelings and get back on track and motivated!
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I am so sorry to hear about your dad. We lost my grandpa a couple of years ago to kidney cancer, but we didn't know either until he had an accident at home and had to go to the ER. It's really hard. Have you looked into any grief counseling or support groups? That might be a way to help get though the emotional part of it without having to do it by yourself.
As for the other stuff, I would suggest just starting small. I'm not sure what your exercise regimen was before, but if you were doing a lot of stuff, I'd definitely start out small and slow to work my way back to whatever the program is. The food part is tougher. I know what you're talking about with not wanting meals, but can snack throughout the day. I guess start small there too. One thing I found when I'm feeling really low and don't want a meal is having mashed up avocado on toast. That may not be for everyone, but it's just an example of something small to eat that's a little better than eating a bunch of cookies or ice cream or something. Maybe cereal/oatmeal, salads, or sandwiches?
I wish you the best and hope you can get back to where you want to be again. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.0 -
My prayers and sympathy are with you and I am very sorry for the loss of your dad. I lost my dad several years ago,and it was very difficult. He also died from cancer. Take comfort in knowing that you were there for him,in his last days. My dad was such a strong,independent person,but on his death bed,I also got to care for him. That has helped me heal,but allow yourself to grieve. It takes time. Surround yourself with people that love you,and that you love. Maybe try to schedule some long walks for exercise with a friend or a good massage. I am sorry,and we are here for you . (((hugs)))):flowerforyou:0
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Very sorry for your loss. My Grandmother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer as well. Like in your situation, once the diagnosis was made - her passing came very quickly.
It's great you returned to the gym. Perhaps set a goal for longer periods of time -- add 5 - 10 minutes more each week.
Food is tough. Perhaps set a goal -- today, I will have 6 small meals. Or this week, I will limit the donut intake to 3 per week.
Or if I eat 2 donuts, I will do xxx of amount longer at the gym.0 -
I don't really have any advice. Just wanted to say sorry for your loss. Don't be too hard on yourself. Take some time to grieve, do your best and you can get back into your routine later. Hugs.0
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I have decided to put my grief and being upset into a positive motivation to do better. My dad took great care of himself and was quite an inspiration. He lifted weights, ran everyday and ate rather healthy. He was diagnosed with Diabetes like I am, but he continued to monitor and take care of himself.
As a tribute to him I am going to try harder to lose this weight. Before he got really sick he weight 230lbs, but only had about 12% body fat. I am working to lower my weight, then work on the BMI information and all that.
To date I have lost 37lbs...and I have been on MFP for the last 14....its time to kick some of my own *kitten* since he isnt here to do it for me!0 -
Good for you! Yay for making such great goals!0
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Agree... awesome goals..... we're here for you!0
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Super goals! what an inspiration. Keep up the good work.
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So sorry for your loss.
That's awesome how you're going to honor him. I'm sure he's smiling on you from Heaven.0
