Heartburn, baby shower, older sibling care, BFing, etc...
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BBeccaJean
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By this time last pregnancy I had stressed myself out, my blood pressure went up and they thought I had pre-eclampsia...don't want to do that again! At 36 weeks, heartburn, fatigue and being uncomfortable are pretty much the norm right now. Hubby and I still have to figure out someone we trust who is available and would be willing to watch our 20 month old son if I go into labor before my mom can come back. We're having the baby shower this week, but we'll probably still need to get a few other things. I wanted baby to have a lamb theme, but there's not a lot out there! It seems like it's all pink-princessy stuff! Baby is moving around a lot and I've pretty much completely given up on keeping calories within normal limits! Oh, and I'm completely nervous about breastfeeding! It didn't go so well last time and I'm hoping it goes better this time...so those are all my random thoughts for the day...
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You sound like me, except I'm 38 weeks tomorrow! The biggest thing is who will take care of our son (27 months), since my only family nearby all work full-time and have their own kids. My sister agreed to help, but I still feel like I'm putting her out (not because of anything she's said/done). My in-laws drive me f@$!ing crazy, so they are NOT handling him, plus they're three to four hours away. My parents live a plane flight away, and my mom is a teacher but is in school until the end of June. She also just had a knee replacement last Tuesday and is not yet ambulatory anyway.
But yeah, bad heartburn and overall fatigue/discomfort means I just eat whatever makes me feel good. Sometimes I skip dinner because I just don't feel like eating. I'm still gaining week-to-week and having a ton of baby movement (including right now), so I know I'm ok.
My BP is up, too, but that happened last time as well towards the end, never into pre-eclampsia territory, though.
For me, BFing was a total disaster last time. I plan on being incredibly persistent this time so I don't have to spend do damn much on formula, among other things.
I don't know if we're having a boy or a girl, but I am so not buying into the whole frilly tutu princess crap we are supposed to stuff down our daughter's throats! It exists; you just have to look hard! My brother only has on child, a daughter, and she's the biggest tomboy going (she loves The Avengers and stuff like that) but still dresses like a girl - she just doesn't wear glittery fairy wings and stuff. I'm so proud of her for admiring strength rather being into princesses!0 -
Awwwww bless your hearts! It WILL work out because there is no other choice, but sometimes it doesn't seem that way!
I have a friend in Colorado who didn't have anyone to watch her 20 month old daughter when her baby was born, and she just brought a port-a-crib to the hospital and kept her there! Nobody said a word about it not being okay!
If you're in my area (North Davis County, Utah), I'll help! I'm only 28 weeks, so not likely to deliver before you.
Really try to mediate each day and stay calm. Go to a pet store and pet a puppy, or go visit the flower section at Lowes. Sit under a tree in your yard and read while the other littles play in a little (safe) pool or sprinkler.
Eat lots of Tums or drink lots of Mylanta (my favorite) and don't worry so much about calories at this point, just healthy eating!
You're going to do GREAT! You're in a difficult time of the pregnancy, but this too shall pass! (I'm having my 6th in July!)
Breathe deeply!!! 0 -
I forgot to talk about breastfeeding. I had a very difficult time breastfeeding my first baby, but the second went much better! I was able to bf the second until she was 8 months old, at which point my milk dried up due to a third pregnancy. Babies 3 and 4 never once had bottles! I bf #3 until 18 months and #4 until 13 months. #5 until 19 months even though I was teaching full-time. I would pump on my prep and my lunch!
I don't mean to come across as the breastfeeding Nazi, but just wanted to show you that even if it didn't go well the first time (my first time was AWFUL!), it very well might work with subsequent babies!
And even if it doesn't, just hold and cuddle your little baby while you give him/her bottles, and your love will be felt, appreciated and reciprocated. You're going to do great no matter what!0 -
Thank you I have four dogs, and they chill me out! They are good pups and don't give us a lot of trouble. I think I will learn from my BFing mistakes from last time... My sister had the same experience with her first and then produced like a maniac the second time (her baby wouldn't latch, so she EPed and said she'd get 8-10 oz per pumping session).
My dad is a pediatrician and, knowing what a hard time I had last time, asked me what my plan was this time about nursing. I told him I planned to be more persistent and hoped that would make a difference. He said the vast majority of moms he talks to do way better the second time around because they know what to expect and know how persistent you need to be. I'm hoping I can do the same. If it doesn't work out, hopefully I won't have the extreme guilt I had last time, but I know s/he'll be ok. I'd just like to avoid the cost of formula. Even with my dad's sending me coupons and samples, I still spent a lot of time figuring out the cheapest way to buy it, as well as plenty of money on it! That's putting aside all the other benefits of BFing, too.
I lost my mucus plug Friday and yesterday, so right now I'm playing the waiting game. With my son, I lost my mucus plug over the course of a day and then went into labor that night. I was hoping for the same this time (especially because it would have meant that we might share a birthday), but no dice!0 -
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Sounds like it will happen soon, at any rate! How exciting! Best wishes for your delivery and beyond!0 -
It's probably too late but Pottery Barn kids has a lamb theme.0
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Sounds like it will happen soon, at any rate! How exciting! Best wishes for your delivery and beyond!
Thanks, and I hope so! Still pregnant 3 days after starting to lose my mucus plug, plus getting increasingly uncomfortable very quickly...0
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