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i seriously think i need help!
Maggie1moo
Posts: 89 Member
i dont know what the heck is wrong with me!
all my intentions are good, in my mind i so want not to be this fat momma anymore, i even feel depressed at the size of me,
BUT i just cant do it, i eat eat eat, somedays i do good dont get me wrong, but other i just cant stop!!
arrrggghhhhh!
all my intentions are good, in my mind i so want not to be this fat momma anymore, i even feel depressed at the size of me,
BUT i just cant do it, i eat eat eat, somedays i do good dont get me wrong, but other i just cant stop!!
arrrggghhhhh!
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Dear Maggie,You know you aren't alone in what you feel. Most of us in our group are emotional eaters,as well. There are some good books out. Just google Emotional Eating. I suggest one that has a journal. When we eat or overeat,it feeds a part of our brain,that is responsible for pleasure. When emotional eaters binge,they are trying to FEEL better. Then it becomes a vicious circle. Have you ever thought of seeing a therapist? I ate and ate,gained over 50 pounds and became very depressed. Therapy helped me get over the hump,and now take each day as it comes. It takes determination,courage and facing depression and knowing why we eat too much. It would be good not to call yourself names and start loving who you are.How about "Sweet Momma",instead. You are worth,getting healthy. Please keep in touch and know we care. God bless.:flowerforyou:0
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Maggie-
I can relate to what you said. I have been in that cycle many, many time. First with food, then drugs and alcohol, and then food again. And the way I used all three of them was a symptom of something deeper going on inside me. Once a person is able to take those things away and gain new ways of dealing and coping, whether it be with difficult emotions, situations, or negative self talk, things shift and get easier. I know for me, there was and sometimes is a lot of pain I don't want to face. And if I ate, for a small amount of time, it went away and distracted me. Then, when I was done eating, I felt not only the pain of being upset with myself, but also the pain I needed to face.
Reaching out for help is beneficial. Emotionally eating isn't something a person can stop alone; its a process. And where you are at is part of your journey. As you keep learning more about yourself and your patterns, things will change. It does get better. Even though you may have slipped, you have had some success along the way. What worked for you during that time?
Take care and be gentle with yourself.0 -
Maggie, The other ladies here said it so well already, but I just wanted to add my support and let you know you're not alone. Be good to yourself. You are a beautiful person. Sending you hugs.0
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Maggie, The other ladies here said it so well already, but I just wanted to add my support and let you know you're not alone. Be good to yourself. You are a beautiful person. Sending you virtual hugs.0
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Great advice and very insightful!
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Just love my sweet friends. We have such an awesome group. You are so encouraging to others. 0
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I understand...yesterday I over ate and KNEW I was doing it and DID NOT CARE. Overwhelmed with stressful situation and I didn't care if I ate myself into the grave yesterday. I have used food to comfort my feelings since I was 12 years old. I am 45. Will it ever end?0
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Yes, it can end. It takes time to heal and learn healthier ways of handling difficult feelings and situations. And it also takes time to love ourselves enough not use food to comfort ourselves. When in a stressful situation, what else helps during those times? What else brings comfort? If it has been food for so many years, it may take time to find this answer. And it is normal to feel uncomfortable to use something else to bring comfort other than food; its change.
Be gentle with yourself. Change takes time.0 -
Sometimes we eat mindlessly when we get emotional. At least I do. After, I regret it but I can't change what I already did. The horse is already out of the barn. But, I can think about what I should do the next time I get stressed or upset. Having a plan & this is the hard part--following it.
Whatever it is it can't be fixed with food. Don't beat yourself up about it. You have the support of this group with you. {{{hugs}}}0 -
I kinda went on a sugar spree last night but the important thing is to bounce right back the next day. Today,I will make better choices,and step up my exercises so my splurge doesn't affect my program. Be determined and don't beat yourself up. Get rid of thinking that keeps you stuck and know you are worth getting healthy. Think about this...you are on MFP for a reason,and you wouldn't be here,if you didn't care. Be kind to yourself and know you can do this. Every day,you can make it,eating healthy,is a day you should celebrate! Have a great weekend,ladies!
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