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craudi
craudi Posts: 126 Member
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Okay, who here would LOVE for their mom to be involved in their wedding planning but can't stand it when she is?!?! *Points to self* Anyone need to rant about their mom (or dad) here??

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  • kokoshiba
    kokoshiba Posts: 3 Member
    Aha! I definitely feel you here! My parents are traditional Catholic Hispanics, so have a lot to say about how my wedding "should be." Some of their ideas are not so great (like dad offering to pay for a Mariachi band at the church) and some are awesome (like my mom allowing me to cut up her old wedding dress so I can make it a part of my own dress). Either way, parents may drive you crazy, but they mean well. Just got to know when to pick your battles, it is YOUR wedding after all <3
  • Hummingbird82
    Hummingbird82 Posts: 79 Member
    I now exactly how you feel! I've learned through the first 3 months thatt the best way to deal with parents is not to just ask them to "help with the wedding", then they will have their own ideas and agendas but instead give your mom or dad (or both) a specific task to help with and a general idea of what you want then they have something to work on that they can have total control over. So far it seems to be doing great for me, I gave my mom the task of organizing my bridal shower as my maid of honor lives out of town and it was the best decision I made! Now she's running wild planning that and feels a part of the planning without getting to involved in the actual wedding planning. :)
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    My mom doesn't seem to have much to say about it. On the other hand, my stepmom has already said, "when we have your bridal shower for our side...". I am making it very clear to my family that if someone does not want to act civil and get along, they will not be involved. I am also not having a shower for moms side and a shower for dads side. One shower, one bachelorette party one wedding.

    My parents have been divorced for 23 years, I know they CAN be civil, I've seen it. My stepmom cannot and has mortified me in the past (screaming at my mom in a quiet cafeteria in front of 100 classmates and families at my middle school sports banquet, just for sitting at the same table with us). Our wedding is pretty much being paid for the traditional way, his mom is doing the rehearsal, half of flowers, etc.. My dad and stepmom are picking up reception, photographer dress. Anything that they disagree with or don't want to pay for, we will. My fear is that my stepmom will stop the wedding arrangements that they are committed to if she doesn't get her way. In which case we have a back up wedding plan. :grumble:

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