Maybe him being courteous because it was a work thing? Maybe him being a chicken, maybe a he's not into you...guess it depends on how he contacts you after?

Who knows,it very well could mean nothing...in this day and age many guys are going to be cautious about physical contact early lest they be accused of something.

Stop over thinking it and see if he asks or better yet accepts when you ask a third meeting.

If I was on a second date that I thought was going great and you leaned in to suggest a hug instead of a kiss, I'd figure you weren't very interested.

Well, my first reaction is that he wasn't interested... BUT then I wondered how date #1 ended? Did it cool off from the first date or stay the same?

Generally I would say there was no interest... but did you also said this was directly outside your workplace?? That is awkward regardless so I don't know what to say here. If you like him, just text him to say thanks and leave an opening for him to write back.

If I was meeting a man for a second time I would think my life had taken a radically different direction and I'd be afraid I had to start liking Cher and Madonna.

lol thank you I spit coffee on my computer screen cause of you :flowerforyou:

Well, my first reaction is that he wasn't interested... BUT then I wondered how date #1 ended? Did it cool off from the first date or stay the same?

The first date ended with him standing a good 10 feet from me in the parking lot of the restaurant and chatting for a couple of minutes. The second ended with the loose hug and pat ; ) And he wonders why I didn't think he liked me.

Sounds to me like you made PROGRESS! Pretty good considering it was day time in front of work!

If I was on a second date that I thought was going great and you leaned in to suggest a hug instead of a kiss, I'd figure you weren't very interested.

It was a second meeting but we were also outside of my workplace. I am still seeing the guy and things are good. I am really just taking a poll to see what you would think if you got the loose hug and pat.

It sounds like he is trying to be careful not to invade your "space".
Let him know that physical contact is desired...touch his arm or shoulder in talking.

In short be willing to give to him what you want,don`t sit there being standoffish waiting to see if he will break the barrier.
If you like him,show him and let the chips fall where they will.

This is where the "lady has to be passive" mindset falls apart because if you are not doing this already (you may have,don`t know) then why one expects a guy to with the possibility of not just rejection but also being called a creep is just a mystery to me.

You woman send a lot of mixed singles... maybe he came on strong with the last girl and it blew up in his face. Lots of possibilities.

THAT sort of thing has been my curse,everything always seems to be one person ahead of the one that likes it.