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jamie31
jamie31 Posts: 568 Member
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I am not a super religious person but do believe in the Bible and God. Lately i have been thinking that I may be embarresed to tell my child that me and his/her father were not married before they were born. I have been thinking of maybe having a pastor marry us in our home ( my best friends uncle would do it). But what has been keeping me from this is that I want to have wedding pictures to share with my kids and grandkids, and I dont want to try to plan a small wedding before the baby because i do not want to be pregnant for the pictures.

Has anyone else done a quick marriage before a baby? did you regret not having a real wedding in a church with all the bells and whistles????

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  • lilchino4af
    lilchino4af Posts: 1,292 Member
    I've heard of people who had a small private wedding before the baby came, then later had a formal ceremony for friends and family after the baby was born. You could always think of it as renewing vows :) That's one idea for you anway. Hope it helps!
  • MonkeyFlower
    MonkeyFlower Posts: 92 Member
    hey i had the same thing, i thought i was fine and then i dont know if it was just the hormones but suddenly at 7 months pregnant i decided we needed to be married first and not wait as was the plan! anyway we had a small private wedding with just us at 8 months and then a year later on the same date we did a big wedding ceremony with all our friends and family - i wore a white dress and we had a priest bless us in the church - it was great!!
  • blink1021
    blink1021 Posts: 1,115 Member
    With my first child we were not married and did not get married before he was born. Not sure what happened because we talked about getting married before I ever got pregnant. I think it was the pressure from family and I did not want to get married just because we were having a baby. Eventually we did get married and we eloped just the two of us and a witness at the court house and I have no regrets. In fact thinking back on it it was very romantic. We didn't tell any of our family before we did it in fact we waited almost a month before we told anyone. We didn't want all the pressure that comes with a wedding we wanted it to be about us. Before we did it we had been to 2 weddings where we were sitting at the tables listening to guests ***** about the food, the bridesmaids dresses, the reception hall etc. and we did not want to listen to that. Why was I going to spend or have my parents spend money where people were just going to *****. It kind of soured us on weddings after that. Do what is right for and not what you think you should do.
  • helenmelon29
    helenmelon29 Posts: 787 Member
    Hi

    We arent married and no plans to marry at the mo. (been together nealy 11 years though). Totally up to you - just depends what the most important reason are.

    Good luck with whatever you decide.
  • FitMama2013
    FitMama2013 Posts: 913 Member
    I did both, but for a different reason :) Ours was so my husband could transfer from DC to TN with me - so, we had a ceremony with my parents and a pastor (and the dogs) outside, and then 8 months later had our traditional wedding where everyone celebrated with us. I loved doing both! We have 2 anniversaries now, although a lot of people don't know about the first one (including my in-laws - oops!).

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