How my second date went...
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That's horrifying. Does he know where you live? If so, make sure people you trust know that things could get weird and if so it's him. Avoid all contact.0
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Holy crap. I just saw an image of James Holmes in my mind. Don't talk to this guy anymore!0
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I hope you are not feeling too invested in this guy already...I fear that you might be though because of your admission that you are new to dating and writing multiple posts about him. I agree with everyone else here that you need to cut off contact with this one. Don't make a scene or even tell him why. Perhaps mention what he said to those friends of yours he now knows on FB just a s a precaution too. Remember your safety is more important than any sympathy you might feel for him.0
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That actually sounds like a movie quote. You may want to ask him before you assume he's totally nuts.
I had a similar thought, but the detail/multiple messages don't really gel with that. Dude sounds a bit on the crazy side, hit the brakes and back away.0 -
That actually sounds like a movie quote. You may want to ask him before you assume he's totally nuts.
I had a similar thought, but the detail/multiple messages don't really gel with that. Dude sounds a bit on the crazy side, hit the brakes and back away.
Odds are he isn't crazy and is just trying to sound cool. Truly insane people are rare, but I have known a lot of people that talk like this because they think it makes them unique and interesting. Dark and mysterious or something. But there's no good that can come of it - either he's a fake who doesn't know who he is and he's a poser, OR he truly is dangerous. Leave it.0 -
You are young and he's a crazy nut case. NEXT.0
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Now thinking back to all the things he said, it makes him seem even more crazy. He had a weird obsession with the model Kate Upton and I thought, "Whatever it's just a guy thing." BUT the thing is he acted like he actually knew her and said things like, "I can tell what type of person she is from interviews and I can tell she is more than meets the eye."... I thought he was joking.
Then, he told me about this girl he met after he texted the wrong number accidentally. He went on about how she was his best friend and how they are no longer in each other's lives but he prays everyday that she is happy. Oh and he only met her in real life ONCE. He told me she just randomly stopped talking to him... wonder why... He also mentioned he thought he saw her in a mall once with her sister but wasn't sure if it was her and didn't want to go up and bother her. He said something like, "I should be really mad at the way she treated me, but I harbor no resentment towards her." Is it possible they were never friends and he was just stalking her? :ohwell:0 -
The only thing that should occupy your mind now about this nutcase is understanding how much specific info he has on you. You said he added your friends on FB? That's going to end quite badly, trust me. He no doubt has your number and knows your address. Try to think through what else he knows.
How did a nice, attractive girl like you - and with impeccable grammar! - end up with this total lunatic? Stop dating people from your church. I told you, find a lovable rebel.
Let's hope he's just a pathetic poseur, and not a future stalker hoping to act out his violent fantasies. Whatever you do, extract yourself from this situation asap. Really, asap. No more face to face contact, minimal texting (just what is required to let him know you will never be meeting again), etc., etc.
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Yeah. Definitely cut off contact, but do it gently if you can.0
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How did a nice, attractive girl like you - and with impeccable grammar! - end up with this total lunatic? Stop dating people from your church. I told you, find a lovable rebel.
haha I didn't find him at my church. I actually met him at an acting/improv class. He also lives in a completely different part of town than me, so that helps...0 -
i agree with most who are giving you lots of great advice. My advice.. don't wait weeks for the third date. keep it fresh.. try to hang out with him this week and take it from there.. sometimes it takes a minute to break the ice and for people to open up. He was probably shy.. Sometimes I get confused on kissing on the first or second date.. sometimes I'll at least kiss on the cheek.. Just let it flow naturally.
Great story.. Keep us posted on the third date.0 -
And I thought he was a strange one from the date. Yikes! Please be careful, Laura. He sounds a bit unhinged. I would hate for you to become one of those he wants to seek justice against. He sounds like he's got a lot of stalker potential.
I don't think what he said was a movie quote. Something like that you would probably be able to match easily with Google. Although, maybe he's expressing an interest in joining MFP with the whole wanting to train his body?
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That actually sounds like a movie quote. You may want to ask him before you assume he's totally nuts.
Upon further review, get as far away from this guy as you can as fast as you can. Move out of your place and leave all your belongings behind if you have to.0 -
Heck yeah, run away from that nut job. Wow.0
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OMG! The guy sounds like a sociopath, at best! Agree with everyone else, ruuuuuuuuuuuun!! :flowerforyou:0
