Well after 2 weeks of not seeing the non-boyfriend boyfriend he missed me and told me so.

I'm really focused on listening to my gut and not hesitating. I don't know these guys and don't owe them ANYthing, even slack for crossing the line quickly.

Well after 2 weeks of not seeing the non-boyfriend boyfriend he missed me and told me so.

nooooo don't fall for it again! Of course he missed you, you get along so well! The age thing and the parents thing might just be an excuse... I hope he had a true change of heart, but watch out in case he hasn't... please don't be this guy's gap filler.

Guy always has a reason why you just can't be "together" (religion, waiting for marriage, kids, age, whatever). So he doesn't commit. Then he miss the girl (they get along great and he has no one else going) so he acts like he's changing his mind/ways. But she's still not 100% what he wants. So he still finds reasons not to commit. And eventually walks away when just hanging out/having fun/having sex with no labels is no longer satisfying to the woman. And this cycle plays over and over. I wish I had known about this cycle a couple years ago.

Gotta agree with Janie on this one.. "redos" really never work out IMO, especially when they never really succeeded on the first try to begin with. But I wish you luck, girl!

Agree with Ashley and Janie about "redos" not working. One of my cousins got himself into a tangly mess with a re-do. He and a woman were together for 3 years. He goes a work related trip. He comes back from the trip and the first words the woman says to him are "Your stuff is packed up, Get out". About 8-12 months after that breakup, they get back together. Less than 6 months after reuniting, he gets her pregnant. She decides to keep it and they end up married. I hear stories from other relatives about their life and occasionally from that cousin. Not the world's most stellar arrangement. They have kept it together for the time being, but a lot of it is because of interjection of my uncle and aunt.

But we never really "broke-up" or anything. It just got to the point of me knowing how I felt and making it known and him getting scared. I am being careful and not closing out any other options but I enjoy him and want to keep doing so. And yes, I know if it goes bad all of you can tell me "I told you so!!!"

But we never really "broke-up" or anything. It just got to the point of me knowing how I felt and making it known and him getting scared. I am being careful and not closing out any other options but I enjoy him and want to keep doing so. And yes, I know if it goes bad all of you can tell me "I told you so!!!"

This is what I said to myself: We aren't "dating" and I'm having fun so it's no big deal. Would go weeks with him doing things to make me think he wanted us to be a couple despite his previous reasons why a relationship with me wouldn't work. Then he'd disappear. And he'd be back. I knew -intellectually- that it was going nowhere and I even continued dating others but my feelings got so intertwined that when I met a man who really was into me I wasn't in a place emotionally to really give him a chance.

And then, dumb as a box of rocks I guess or maybe I thought the first time was just a fluke...? I fell right for the exact same thing with friend #2. Publicly. So not only did I have a hurt heart, but also a bruised ego. Very embarrassing. And I'm honestly not sure my emotions have truly recovered (which hurts to admit). Even though it was good to see the other party's true colors, it doesn't change the fact that your emotions are so hurt. And that hurt takes time to recover.

He might be more fun...and I'm glad you're having some fun!! Just please keep in mind what future fun might you miss out on!! What might come down the pike in 6 months that you're not emotionally ready for because you spent so much time with Mr Fun Non-Committment?

Worked late Friday night to make up for spending Friday afternoon at the DMV to replace my stolen license plates.

Tubing plans Saturday were cancelled so I went to Zumba and did Day 5 of JM 30DS... needless to say, I ate like a pig after. I met a friend to plan a future trip to Paris. Not sure if we'll make it but it's worth dreaming :ohwell: I volunteered at church, did some shopping then hung out with the dog Saturday night.

Sunday I cooked, cleaned, gave the dog a haircut, did laundry, ugh... not fun! But I did get a chance to talk to someone from POF and we're planning to meet this week. So far, he seems pretty decent! On the more funny side, I chatted with someone on OKC and he really seemed ok for the first 20 minutes. Then he asked to play 20 questions (10 each), telling me they should be serious probing questions so we could decide if we wanted to go to dinner this week. I played along even though there were already a few red flags, and I didn't like how pushy he seemed. He was fine until he asked me question 6 on whether I preferred "Top or Bottom"... I cut him slack and coyly sidestepped that one. For question 7, his probing deep question was "Cs or Ds"? I wanted to make a joke about grades then realized I'd only been talking to him for 30-40 minutes and what loser heads down that path... and why should I be letting him?! I told him goodbye and shut down chat. He messaged me 4 times saying I shouldn't have left him and that I could have just asked for a PASS.... WHATEVER?! Weirdo! What is WRONG with people?! It's funny to me now anyway!

Wow that is crazy about the 20 questions!! I stepped back from a dude when I asked where do you see yourself in 5 years and he said hopefully married to me (mind you we had only just started talking - CRAZY !!)

For question 7, his probing deep question was "Cs or Ds"?

For question 7, his probing deep question was "Cs or Ds"?

What does that even mean? Your bra size?

Yes, that's what his deep probing question was to determine if we wanted to go to dinner. He could see my pics so he was taking a guess. I shut it down but the smart @ss in me wanted to say, "They are DDs, not that you'll ever see them, @sshole." I was a lady though haha:bigsmile: