I'm actually headed the other direction as I age. I preferred men much older than me (10-15 years) in my twenties and early thirties. Now, to be quite frank, the average man over 40 seems to act like his life is over, so I'm struggling to find common interest and activity levels with guys much older than my own 36 years. I'm actually starting to notice men younger than me, haha, which I avoided like the PLAGUE before. Still not comfortable below 30 at this point, but at the rate I'm going, who knows, HA!

I don't think there is anything wrong with it in general. Each person is unique, so a 30 year old female may work best with that particular 50 year old man. I've never crossed the 19 year difference myself though :bigsmile: So open yourself up to the possibilities and see what works for you!

Im currently going with someone who is 6 years older. at first it bugged be but i was seriously putting the cart before the horse...like thinking about him retiring before me dying before me etc...... lol

thus far its not bothered me. I do find myself cracking "ol man" jokes tho....so I ought to knock that off..

I'm 33. I prefer guys that are in the 28-31 age range. Usually guys my age or older act too serious for my taste. I'm a goofball and I don't think I look my age as I'm always told I look like I'm 26/27. So it all works out.

I actually typically get much older men messaging me online. Tonight actually I got a message from a 55 year old. I'm SO not intending to be mean, but he looked like death warmed over. I'm not saying all men that age do, but I seem to attract all the ones that look like my grandfather....maybe that's why I'm noticing younger men now?!

Every person answers this individually. What is important to each person varies.

If a woman in her 30s is okay with the very real possibility of being a widow around age 60, she can proceed. Otherwise, I would think some serious hesitation is in order.

It all depends what you're comfortable with. When I go out on Miami Beach or Fort Lauderdale, I constantly see young women (early-mid 20's) with men in their late 40's and early 50's. Of course, the men most likely have a ton of cash and charm to win them over. It's a VERY common sight here in south Florida.

The last woman I dated seriously (Erin) had 2 roommates that signed up for sugardaddy.com. These women were bonafide 9-9.5's but loved rich older men. The one ended up shacking up with a 48 yr old finance guy who drove an S-Class Benz and had a beachfront condo.

Mike, all I have to say is MIAMI. MIAMI = Money is a Major Issue. Money talks. A 48 year old man usually has to have a good sum of cash or the illusion of cash financed with debt up to their eyeballs to have a pretty young thing around. To me, money is bull poop. People should be attracted to each other based on who they are, not because of the number of perceived or real digits in a bank account.

I'm 41 and the guy I'm currently seeing is 60, I wouldn't have ever dreamed of that much of an age difference years ago, but now I can't imagine life without him, just taking things one day at a time...guess its just a matter of what you are comfortable with

Your post just made me think that I hope mine didn't sound judgmental. I don't judge other people for finding love and/or companionship where ever they will. I was just stating what would work for me and didn't mean to offend anyone else who has made different choices.

oh not at all it didn't sound jugmental, I was just meaning a huge age difference could work if it's what the couple is interested in for others it may not, which is what i thought the first post was asking about how people felt about a really big age difference

I haven't been out on many dates in the past six months, for a variety of reasons. However, I'm 45, and my last three dates were 47, 29, and 24 years old. I dated the 29 year old semi-seriously for a few months. The others were just 2-3 dates. So I don't necessarily think I'm typically dating older or younger women. I'm just trying to find an intelligent, fun, kind, attractive woman with whom I get along quite well. The last thing I want to do is filter out my possibilities further.

Lots of men become angry, bitter and boring once they hit 35+. Beer belly, not active, etc. Probably looking for a "mother" to take care of them after a divorce, etc. Certainly one of the reasons I decided to get fit was to slim down so I'm not perceived as one of those men.

Women don't typically turn angry and bitter, but they do let themselves go. I really need someone who will play tennis/golf with me, or go bike riding, cross country skiing (I can take the tram from my apartment to the bottom of the mountain), etc. Lots of women around 35 or so don't make time for activities, and it shows. In their defense, they are oftentimes alone raising a child or two, having to work a full time job, etc. But that's me, too. I'm doing all of those things, and I find time.

The 29 year old I dated was very mature, well traveled, etc., more so than the 47 year old. So it really varies. On the other hand, I doubt I could date anyone much older than me, and my preference is for younger. I feel younger and more energetic when I'm around young people. 29 year old women are still looking to accomplish something in their lives, and I like that attitude. 45+ year old women, at least here in the Czech Rep., are oftentimes looking for someone to retire with. Not my style.

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I am 35 but I tend to attract guys 27-32 mainly because I look and act like I am in that age range. I don't base who I am attracted to on their actual age but on the age they act.

I've been known to chase an older woman every once in a while. When I meet a girl, I can size her up in a few seconds and immediately tell if I want to pursue something romantically with her or not. If I meet someone and she's 10-15 years older, but is a knockout and has fake boobs and money, I'll certainly be attracted. Shallow.. perhaps. But it's the absolute truth.

I'd much rather date someone older and very attractive than younger and just average.

However, I don't think this is the norm. My neighbor had a party a few months back (not the hot Spanish neighbor, but another one) and their niece was in town visiting. She was 19 and just graduated high school. I thought she was nice, but definitely wasn't interested. Well, let me tell you, a lot of men at the party (most were in their mid-late 40's) were all over her. I guess I'm just a little different than most.