Men exchange emotional support for physical intimacy. Women exchange physical intimacy for emotional support. If you know a guy likes you romantically and you keep him around just for the conversation (basically friend-zoned), then it is flat out wrong and not fair to the man. Those kind of women make my stomach turn.

Now if you are actually friends, meaning neither of you want anything romantic with each other, than all bets are off and you can do whatever you want.

Men exchange emotional support for physical intimacy. Women exchange physical intimacy for emotional support. If you know a guy likes you romantically and you keep him around just for the conversation (basically friend-zoned), then it is flat out wrong and not fair to the man. Those kind of women make my stomach turn.

This may come of as blunt but, I'm open to sleeping with every single one of my female friends. I wouldn't ever rule that out, just cause the label "friend" is there.

This unfortunately is the story of my life. I become romantically interested in women, and then bend over backwards to make them happy. Even after I know it won't go anywhere romantically I still continue hoping "they will come to their senses".

This is so beyond creepy to me.

I have several platonic guy friends and though I'm sure if I walked out of the bathroom naked saying "let's ****" they'd be down, that doesn't mean we're not friends. It means that we are animals with instincts and fun bits.

On that note if I went to one of the aforementioned guy friends because I was having an emotional issue that I needed advice on and at the end he turned around and said "let's ****" I would be utterly livid. The point of our friendship is NOT sexual and it's very CLEARLY not sexual.

I don't go around expecting all guys to be my emotional support, my feelings are not something I trust someone with lightly so if I found out that after all this time "he" was waiting around for me to give up and settle on him or, as it's so interestingly worded, "come to my senses" that would be betrayal. It means that he never cared about my feelings, he never listened and shared and helped because he wanted to be a good friend and because he saw me as a good friend. It would mean that everything was based on a lie and all that mattered was my poontang and potential access to it.

So I disagree wholeheartedly with the idea that that is the worst thing I could possibly do to a man. I am not USING him (him is arbitrary in this context) any more than I USE any other person I count on, trust and love. That is what friends, real friends, do for each other. That is the basis and entirety of the relationship. I have a different type of relationship with people that I have sex with.

There is something to be said for girls that intentionally use a guy because they know he's interested in them and it is a horrible thing to do to someone. Just like it's horrible for a guy to just use a girl for sex because he knows she likes him and is willing. Hell, you could switch that up and I'm sure everyone would be upset all over again! Using someone is hurtful to all genders not just men.

This is arguable the worst thing you can do to a guy, use him for emotional support, then not give him any physical action. Horrible.

I think the context in which this statement was made is very important to this discussion. If I recall correctly, you asked about a woman who "comforted" men who were going through a break up or other difficult time and then would become annoyed or offended because they had the nerve to hit on her. I think that is appalling behavior on the woman's part.

The woman in question was actively pursuing men who were emotionally vulnerable and encouraging them to discuss their vulnerabilities as if she was a emotional support these men could rely on. For men, this is particularly difficult. It is showing weakness and causes feelings of being less of a man. The natural instinct is to "regain your manhood." The easiest way to do that is through sexual conquest.

Additionally, there is the aspect that emotional intimacy and physical intimacy often go hand in hand and that the combination of the two increases the sense of security and bond between the parties. I think this is true for both men and women. The probability of seeking a sexual connection based on a strong emotional connection is part of the reason that it is unethical for counselors and/or psychologists to enter into relationships with patients. I believe that both male and female patients are vulnerable to such relationships. I do not know which gender would be more vulnerable.

In the context of every day life, i do not agree that this is the worst thing you can do to a guy. That is, if a woman is going through a tough time and a guy offers unsolicited support, the woman shouldn't have to question his motives. If the guy had a hidden intent, that is his problem. I don't feel sorry for him and I don't have any ill will towards the woman who was the target of his agenda. It's the same principle as a woman who thinks she can get a relationship by offering sex. When she is kicked to the curb because the guy finds a girl who he really likes for more than scratching an itch, I don't feel sorry for her either.

If you know a guy likes you romantically and you keep him around just for the conversation (basically friend-zoned), then it is flat out wrong and not fair to the man. Those kind of women make my stomach turn.

I kind of disagree with that. If he's open and honest about his feelings (I love you!) and she's open and honest in turn (I don't feel that way about you) then from that point on it's clear and in the open.