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What Do I Do About the Birthday?
kls13la
Posts: 380 Member
I've recently started seeing a new guy. We've been on two dates, with a third coming this weekend. It's going well and I really like him. His birthday is next week. I hate it when traditional gift giving stuff comes so early on in a relationship! I know I need to acknowledge it, but how?
Can you help me think of an appropriate, unique, thing to do or get him that isn't going overboard for where we are? Guys, what would you expect at this point? (I personally would expect nothing, but I hate birthdays.)
(The thought of handing him a card thrills me not in the least...)
Can you help me think of an appropriate, unique, thing to do or get him that isn't going overboard for where we are? Guys, what would you expect at this point? (I personally would expect nothing, but I hate birthdays.)
(The thought of handing him a card thrills me not in the least...)
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So early in the relationship I think just sayIng happy birthday is enough.0
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So early in the relationship I think just sayIng happy birthday is enough.
This...if in person maybe with a hug and little kiss.
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I wouldn't expect much. Birthdays in the early stages before you are truly established are difficult. I don't like that scenario.
A very nice kiss is a good thing,
And telling him how much you're enjoying spending time with him is good as well. 0 -
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I would invite him out to dinner...your treat. Let him pick the date (give him a couple of options) and time and place!0
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Aye, birthdays early on in a relationship are soooo tricky! I definitely agree with the birthday hug/kiss idea (and I've used it before, for a guy I'd only been on 2 days with prior to his bday).
If you want to get an actual something, I've given a birthday cupcake (with a candle) to a guy I'd been dating for a few weeks. The guy in question had a sweet tooth and appreciated the gesture.
Another time I insisted on paying for our dinner + activity... It would have been awkward to have him pay, the day before his birthday!
And in another case, though we'd been dating a few weeks prior to his birthday, I gave a guy a book we'd talked about and which I thought he'd enjoy. Turns out he loved it, read it from cover to cover, and we're still dating.
Wow, I seem to have a history of starting to date guys shortly before their birthdays. What awful timing I have!0 -
I personally would go with inviting him out to dinner to celebrate or cooking him something special (if you feel ready to invite him over), and I'd pick out a light-hearted humorous birthday card to give him.
I like the cupcake idea above too.0 -
And in another case, though we'd been dating a few weeks prior to his birthday, I gave a guy a book we'd talked about and which I thought he'd enjoy.
I was gonna say "steak and BJ" but the suggestion above stole my heart a bit. I love that idea so much I want to use it.0 -
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I was gonna say "steak and BJ" but the suggestion above stole my heart a bit. I love that idea so much I want to use it.
Materialistic things aren't important (save that for Valentine's Day) your suggestion is much better :drinker:0 -
If you really like the guy why not just incorporate it into a date and take him out to a restaurant or even better to see his fave sports team in a game, neither have to have much financial outlay and I'm sure he'd love it.0
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A funny card and a six pack of his favorite beer.0
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Dinner or drinks on you. I wouldn't buy him a card or a gift.0
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A funny card and a six pack of his favorite beer.
^^^ This is good...combine that with the steak and a bj from an above poster and it will be world class!!0 -
^^^ This is good...combine that with the steak and a bj from an above poster and it will be world class!!
All at the same time?? Men are so simple.
I can't imagine a card, some oral and a bottle of wine for my b-day.. Hmmm or can I?0 -
You most certainly can imagine that!0
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You most certainly can imagine that!
Forget diamonds!!! Haha0 -
Cook or take him out to dinner as a few others have mentioned. Or perhaps drop off a cupcake to his house or work if you can't get together for a full date that week? Just something small to let him know you remembered. I wouldn't go with a card because you don't want him to over analyze some Hallmark writers words.0
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ANything works really. Depending on what he likes . Personally if it were me I'd get him a t-shirt from his favorite band or something like that. Silly simple yet personal0
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Thank you some much for the input! I really appreciate it. I like the six pack idea a lot, as well as the cupcake idea. (Who doesn't love a great cupcake?) You've all given me some food for thought...0
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I was gonna say "steak and BJ" but the suggestion above stole my heart a bit. I love that idea so much I want to use it.
Um, my birthday is in October. Just sayin'...
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My birthday is in December and I'll be in Vegas the week before.0 -
My birthday is in December and I'll be in Vegas the week before.
I sure seem to be dating a lot of people I didn't realize I was dating! I wonder if you guys would stick around for my birthday! HAhaha0 -
A funny card and a six pack of his favorite beer.
This for sure. Beer is like flowers for men.0 -
I was gonna say "steak and BJ"
So, you guys, wouldnt you feel like manwhores accepting a bj for a birthday gift? I mean, wouldnt it be nicer to get one not as a gift, but as an act of lust?
And, bear in mind, if you set the birthday bj as precedent, then you're only going to be getting one once per year!! :laugh:0 -
So, you guys, wouldnt you feel like manwhores accepting a bj for a birthday gift? I mean, wouldnt it be nicer to get one not as a gift, but as an act of lust?
What makes you think those are mutually exclusive?And, bear in mind, if you set the birthday bj as precedent, then you're only going to be getting one once per year!! :laugh:
That's silly, it's obviously a special birthday BJ! They also appear on Christmas, Valentines day, Anniversaries, and any other occasion deemed a "Let's do this" day.0 -
So, you guys, wouldnt you feel like manwhores accepting a bj for a birthday gift? I mean, wouldnt it be nicer to get one not as a gift, but as an act of lust?
And, bear in mind, if you set the birthday bj as precedent, then you're only going to be getting one once per year!! :laugh:
Two thoughts Anna.
1) There was steak involved. It's been longer since I had a steak than it's been since I had a BJ. :laugh:
2) As far as feeling like a manwhore: I learned long before I was sexually active that as a man you have to give up a whole lot of self respect and pride when dealing with women. I might as well get a BJ out of the process. Especially if it comes with a steak too!0 -
I learned long before I was sexually active that as a man you have to give up a whole lot of self respect and pride when dealing with women.
You are dating the wrong women. Your woman should make you FEEL like a MAN, not like you have to give up being one.0 -
Two thoughts Anna.
1) There was steak involved. It's been longer since I had a steak than it's been since I had a BJ. :laugh:
2) As far as feeling like a manwhore: I learned long before I was sexually active that as a man you have to give up a whole lot of self respect and pride when dealing with women. I might as well get a BJ out of the process. Especially if it comes with a steak too!
:laugh: you do make me laugh David. I, of course, was being ironic.
When the day arrives that a man refuses a BJ, with or without steak, would be the day I eat my hat! :bigsmile:0
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