Disconnect from main MFP forums

firstsip
firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
Do you guys ever feel like a major disconnect from the main forums?

I'll read success stories for motivation, or read topics like, "How long did it take you to lose weight?"

But then I get so dragged down. I'll be the same heights, weights, frames, age, exercise plans, diet, etc... but I will have generally lost half the weight these people did.

Sometimes when I talk about my own progress, I feel I have to disclaim it with, "Also, I have no thyroid."

Does anyone else feel that sometimes they'll read the motivation/success stories boards and feel like you're on a different planet?

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  • fiberartist219
    fiberartist219 Posts: 1,865 Member
    I never compare myself to others. It is discouraging.

    I try to look at the big picture. I know I haven't lost weight over the last month or so, but I look back over the last year... maybe year and a half, and notice that I've lost 18lbs. That's a lot, especially for someone as short as I am. My coworkers compliment me on my loss all the time.

    I also know I feel a lot better than I did a couple years ago. When I first started to exercise, it only took ten minutes before I felt awful. Now, I can go for 45 minutes and still have energy to go do something else, like make a healthy dinner. I'm sleeping only 7 or 8 hours a day compared to 10-12 like I used to.

    Do what you can, and be proud of yourself for doing it.
  • SLE0803
    SLE0803 Posts: 145 Member
    @ Firstsip....I absolutely feel a disconnect. I think we just replied to the same post where the OP said that being hypo is just and excuse.

    I am 243lbs and I "should" be losing 1-1.5lbs a week with the way I am eating and exercising. However, I am losing closer to .5lbs a week. It is frustrating. I see so many people lose faster than me and I get discourage. Then I see the ignorance and misconceptions of other people and I just want to SCREAM (the thread we both replied on).
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    @ Firstsip....I absolutely feel a disconnect. I think we just replied to the same post where the OP said that being hypo is just and excuse.

    I am 243lbs and I "should" be losing 1-1.5lbs a week with the way I am eating and exercising. However, I am losing closer to .5lbs a week. It is frustrating. I see so many people lose faster than me and I get discourage. Then I see the ignorance and misconceptions of other people and I just want to SCREAM (the thread we both replied on).

    YES, THANK YOU! That's why I'm on this forum--so many of us in the same boat can support each other. That post made me want to scream, and I almost wanted to make a post in this group about it to rouse everyone up to go respond! Sigh, things like that make it even more frustrating.
  • cdparmer
    cdparmer Posts: 21 Member
    As it was said earlier, we shouldn't compare our progress to others. The Hypo advantage, I think ,is we have to work harding and it takes longer , so it does become a life style change that we can maintain for years. The habits we develop are all good, health food choices, exercise that stuff will help long term. I plan to be active well into my 90's and what I do now will make sure that happens.
  • Shelbert79
    Shelbert79 Posts: 510 Member
    I understand how you feel. Before I had my thyroid removed, I thought it was just an excuse for people who were overweight "oh, I have a thyroid issue" (yeah right) But holy cow, it's SUPER hard to lose when you don't have a thyroid. I just have to keep working at it. I have a month where I'll lose 3-4lbs and then a month when I gain back a 1lb. So far (since the beginning of the year) I've lost a little over 30lbs. It's possible, but it's a lot more work than it used to be. I think by having to work harder, I feel more pride in how far I've come. And I don't want to quit because I know how fast I could be back up into the 200's. Good luck, hon!
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    I understand how you feel. Before I had my thyroid removed, I thought it was just an excuse for people who were overweight "oh, I have a thyroid issue" (yeah right) But holy cow, it's SUPER hard to lose when you don't have a thyroid. I just have to keep working at it. I have a month where I'll lose 3-4lbs and then a month when I gain back a 1lb. So far (since the beginning of the year) I've lost a little over 30lbs. It's possible, but it's a lot more work than it used to be. I think by having to work harder, I feel more pride in how far I've come. And I don't want to quit because I know how fast I could be back up into the 200's. Good luck, hon!

    Thank you! That's exactly where I'm coming from :) Thank you for your response! After seeing your pics (wow, and you're a mom of 4?!) I feel more inspired.
  • TXBelle1174
    TXBelle1174 Posts: 615 Member
    @ Firstsip....I absolutely feel a disconnect. I think we just replied to the same post where the OP said that being hypo is just and excuse.

    I am 243lbs and I "should" be losing 1-1.5lbs a week with the way I am eating and exercising. However, I am losing closer to .5lbs a week. It is frustrating. I see so many people lose faster than me and I get discourage. Then I see the ignorance and misconceptions of other people and I just want to SCREAM (the thread we both replied on).

    I have the same issue - with my plan I should be losing AT LEAST 1lb per week and that is if I sat on my butt and never moved. However, I have only lost 2lbs in the past 4 months. I still have all my hypo symptoms and the Dr. just looks at me like I am a fat, lazy cow and tells me my results are normal.
    I DO read the success stories but I take them with a grain of salt because their situation is not my situation and if I try to "be" them I will only set myself up for heartache.
    I am coming back off of a lapse in motivation or whatever you want to call it. For the past two weeks I havent logged and I have been somewhat careless in my eating choices. Now by careless I mean - I had a chicken salad sandwich and waffle fries one day. A vendor at work brought me incredible cupcakes. I ate two of them in the same day. Then a yesterday we had an event at work and I ate two more cupcakes. They were totally worth it by the way. Best cupcakes EVER! That's it though. Otherwise, still on plan. I have gained 3lbs in those two weeks. It took me 5 mos to lose those lbs and three days of indiscretion to gain it back.

    Hang in there. Dont get too discouraged and try to ignore the idiots that claim "Calories in vs calories out is the bottom line" and other statements that dont apply to us. We ARE different and it is harder but that doesnt mean it cant be done. It just means you will have to be patient and persistent. You can do it! Good luck!
  • missigus
    missigus Posts: 207 Member
    I agree fully. No one can understand the" hypo/ no thyroid thing" until they've lived it. It's like claming a seizure disorder wouldn't affect the brain. Geeze people!
  • fiberartist219
    fiberartist219 Posts: 1,865 Member
    I agree that it is definitely NOT a calories in versus calories out situation for us, but I also don't think we should sit around feeling sorry for ourselves in any way. Yes, our progress is slower, but that doesn't mean it is non-existent, or not worth doing.

    I think a lot of times people who have this diagnosis get discouraged and stop trying to be healthy because they see it as a goal that cannot be achieved, which is not necessarily the case.. It just makes the goal that much more awesome when it is reached.
  • miracle4me
    miracle4me Posts: 522 Member
    I agree that it is definitely NOT a calories in versus calories out situation for us, but I also don't think we should sit around feeling sorry for ourselves in any way. Yes, our progress is slower, but that doesn't mean it is non-existent, or not worth doing.

    I think a lot of times people who have this diagnosis get discouraged and stop trying to be healthy because they see it as a goal that cannot be achieved, which is not necessarily the case.. It just makes the goal that much more awesome when it is reached.

    This ^^^^
    Thanks for writing that, I also have hypothyroidism and was on Synthyroid for years that only made the problem worse as it would work for a few months and than stop working dosage kept getting increased. I no longer take meds I refuse to be an experiment now I am controlling what I can control and that is what food goes into my mouth. I do make the mistake at times of comparing myself with others weight loss the truth is I am in my 40's have many health issues that affect my weight so of course I will not have the same results as my MFP Friends in their 20's or 30's we are all individuals with different activity levels.

    I did think my health issues were so overwhelming that I just gave up and ate unhealthy foods full of sugar. Now I am determined to not give up it may take me longer but I will get the victory and be the butterfly that is locked in this cocoon of flesh. I read a woman who has hypothyroid will lose 1 lb where the woman doing the same calories, same height, same activity level loses 5 lbs. This means I have to work 5 times harder. The above poster is right on when she says this makes the victory so much more awesome when we reach it! My health does not even allow me to exercise to lose weight I depend on the deficit in my calories to do it.
  • RitaB19
    RitaB19 Posts: 221 Member
    I totally agree with the other posters. It has taken me 9 months just to lose 4.5 lb. My Dr. finally put me on Thyroid Med (Armour Thyroid) back in May, then increased in August and only now in the last month is the weight really coming off and staying off. I had gained 5 lb in the last 18 months and had struggled with losing 2 then gaining it back over and over again. I am a Dietitian too and I agree it is much, much harder to lose weight when you are hypo vs. normal person. And yeah I had to work alot harder at it.
  • renstwin
    renstwin Posts: 66 Member
    Absolute disconnect for me too. Truthfully, I really stay away from the success part especially. I am happy for everyone that is successful, but so envious of the rate that normal people lose that I stopped looking and commenting.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    Thanks for your comment, Renstwin.

    The thing that some of you are saying just doesn't apply to what I'm saying. The, "we shouldn't feel sorry for ourselves and give up."

    That's not what this post is about. I didn't say, "I want to give up" or "I'm going to stop trying."

    With all due respect, I've been dealing with these issues longer, and younger, than many of you. I had to go through puberty without a thyroid--that's something I wouldn't wish on anyone, because the complications are miserable.

    I still maintained my weight until my doctor kept me too high, despite my complaints, until my adrenals started shutting down. Cortisol put weight on my body--my highly unstable thyroid levels keep me from losing it. I am 23, getting married, and have weighed more now than I ever have... and I never stopped being active. I never ate ****ty.

    So I keep being active, and I keep eating well.

    So, really, this whole thread was to try and find some empathy/sympathy from other people that get it: the people in the success forums that go, "Wow I just watched my portions and worked out and it all came off!" is sometimes excruciating when an obese mother of five at sixty rocks a six-pack after some work and six months, and I'm a 23 year old who never ate so poorly or stopped being active... and I can't even lose more than 1lb a month, and I've been on here since January.
  • fiberartist219
    fiberartist219 Posts: 1,865 Member
    That can be discouraging, and yes, we do feel like that from time to time as well.
  • I actually came to this site from a different one that my friends use because i had such a disconnect from THEM (and the other boards here, i just try to avoid them). Not only am I hypothyroid, but I also have PCOS which makes things just stupidly difficult. I've always eaten rather minimal and am moderately active (albeit somewhat lazy :p). But after they dropped like 30lbs in 3 months or so while I lost... less than 5 was painful. What made it even more painful was i got a "just eat 300 less than your allotted calories!" Trying to explain that your metabolism is faulty AND your insulin is broken just didn't seem to click.

    But you guys are awesome (I've been lurking around a few days) and I'm so glad I came here and left them behind <3
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    I actually came to this site from a different one that my friends use because i had such a disconnect from THEM (and the other boards here, i just try to avoid them). Not only am I hypothyroid, but I also have PCOS which makes things just stupidly difficult. I've always eaten rather minimal and am moderately active (albeit somewhat lazy :p). But after they dropped like 30lbs in 3 months or so while I lost... less than 5 was painful. What made it even more painful was i got a "just eat 300 less than your allotted calories!" Trying to explain that your metabolism is faulty AND your insulin is broken just didn't seem to click.

    But you guys are awesome (I've been lurking around a few days) and I'm so glad I came here and left them behind <3

    We're here for you girl!
  • x4mygirlsx
    x4mygirlsx Posts: 129 Member
    Sending sympathy ur way. I dont truly know what your going through as ive only had problems with my thyroid for just over a year. (Hashimotos completely destroyed it) but u must be a very strong person. Alot of people give up trying when they dont see results but ur still fighting and havent given up. You should be proud of yourself, i hope i can be as strong as you and not give up when it gets too tough. I hope one day things will get easier for you. Take care xx
  • motherbetty
    motherbetty Posts: 170 Member
    There is clearly a difference between hypo and "regular" on MFP. It is extremely discouraging to me, so like a previous poster, I avoid the main forums. Add perimenopause to the mix and weight loss is almost non-existent. I fight my body constantly to drop a half pound. I figure it this way: I am at least maintaining. I am not gaining. That's progress - baby steps!

    Hang in there everyone. :drinker:
  • yeshualovesme
    yeshualovesme Posts: 121 Member
    That is exactly how I feel. A total disconnect, and a slight bit of depression upon reading success stories. I want my success story, it will just take longer. I love the point about it taking longer for us and therefore will be a forever change :)