What's in a name?
MissingMinnesota
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So I had a conversation a while back with a guy and thought I would run it by you all. We were talking about first impressions and names and he had said "If I can't imagine screaming out a girls name when we have sex I will not persue her". I of course burshed if off at the time but it must of offended me deep down since it stuck with me since I do not have a typical sexy name. When most people hear my name, Ruth, they imagine a 80 year old woman bible thumping and if I go with "Ruthie" (which I hate) they would imagine a little girl.
So how much stock do you put into a name when you meet someone? Are some names just more of a turn on to you?
So how much stock do you put into a name when you meet someone? Are some names just more of a turn on to you?
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I think it's ridiculous to let that determine your interest in a person since nobody (almost) chooses their own name. It's given to us by our parents. Of course, a small number of people will change their name, go by a middle name or a some other nickname, which is more of a personal decision, but for the rest of us, we use the identification stamped on us by someone else. I think this guy really needs to rethink his priorities.0
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Names don't really have much of a effect when I meet someone.
But some names do happen to be more sexy to me but it's not going to bother me when we are having sex :laugh:0 -
Well .. I can't imagine screaming out "oh Apple" .. but that didn't stop Gwenyth Paltrow from naming her child that.
I don't usually say a persons name .. it is mostly the f word .. lol. So .. no .. a name doesn't really mean a whole lot to me.
I once hated the name Fred .. but I "met" .. cough .. the hottest guy in college who was named Fred and when i hear that name .. wooo .. I swoon just remembering that night. So .. I think a name can conjure up an image, good or bad.
But .. I think that you find a person sexy or not sexy before you even know their name.0 -
A guy's name doesn't matter to me, with one exception - I don't think I could date anyone who has the same (very common) name as my long term ex. That would just be too weird.
When it comes to my own name everyone has called me PJ since I was a kid. It's actually been an interesting point for dating...anytime a guy says it's cute or fun, he's usually worth a shot, and anytime one says "huh?" or "I'll give you a new/better nickname" they are not. :laugh: I find it to be a point of accepting who the other person already is, take it or leave it.0 -
I try not to scream out names............just in case I scream the wrong one!!! :laugh:
But seriously, I honestly never gave it a second thought! :huh:0 -
The 2 hottest guys I've dated and my 1st love all had the nerdiest names. Funny.
I pronounce my name Deeawna. That's how my parents say it and fortunately for me, it's more exotic than Die-Ana.0 -
After my string of guys with names starting with J I tend to shy away from them. Which sucks as I am surrounded by James, John, Jason, Jeff, and Jordans. It got to the point where I had a friend call me after seeing one of my posts on facebook asking which of the J's that commented on my post did I like.0
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In the heat of the moment I don't really think "Damn, I can't say his name, it's awful nerdy" cause I'm too busy getting mine.
I've never cared much for my name, it's been on the 10 ten girls names for decades, usually coasting in at #1
Doesn't help that it's coupled by THE most common last name.
And another common middle name.
While it's neat that it basically makes me an internet ninja (there are thousands of girls with my exact name in so cal alone, as well as a couple artists and stuff) I do wish I had something more... interesting.
I know that when I do have kids their names are going to be AWESOME.0 -
Ha! I never really thought about that.
I dated a guy named Ryan, so it'd be "Ohhh, Ryan." Then I'd start thinking about the constellation.0 -
Solution: Pet name! . . What kind of dim bulb passes on a good thing over a name? That being said. .I did date a girl named Missy and it did kind of bug me. . but not enough to dump her over it!0
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No more Joes for me.
Lately, I'm surrounded by Davids and Daves.0 -
Ha! I never really thought about that.
I dated a guy named Ryan, so it'd be "Ohhh, Ryan." Then I'd start thinking about the constellation.
that's sexy, he's got a big dong.0 -
Ha! I never really thought about that.
I dated a guy named Ryan, so it'd be "Ohhh, Ryan." Then I'd start thinking about the constellation.
It's always good when a girl sees stars during sex. .0 -
Solution: Pet name! . . What kind of dim bulb passes on a good thing over a name? That being said. .I did date a girl named Missy and it did kind of bug me. . but not enough to dump her over it!
Well he was an ex-minor league athlete now in the pilot in the Navy. AKA a top 1% guy that had the pick of the litter.0 -
Solution: Pet name! . . What kind of dim bulb passes on a good thing over a name? That being said. .I did date a girl named Missy and it did kind of bug me. . but not enough to dump her over it!
Well he was an ex-minor league athlete now in the pilot in the Navy. AKA a top 1% guy that had the pick of the litter.
Top 1% or 10%'ers have their pick of their litter, and usually have 'tude problems. But they have no problems attracting the opposite sex because of what they possess. A top 10%'er woman has a really good body and a top 10%'er guy is probably good looking and/or makes great money.0 -
Very few female names are not going to work for me. I think I would be challenged to seriously consider someone with my mom's first name.0
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Ha! I never really thought about that.
I dated a guy named Ryan, so it'd be "Ohhh, Ryan." Then I'd start thinking about the constellation.
It's always good when a girl sees stars during sex. .
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Very few female names are not going to work for me. I think I would be challenged to seriously consider someone with my mom's first name.
Very true, except switch it out for my dad's name lol. I think that if you could come up with a different name it might work. For example, if your mom is Elizabeth and the girl goes by "Lizzie" or "Bethany" or "Betty" it could work.0 -
Probably couldnt date anyone with my two LTR exes names. Just seem to weird for me ... so no Tony or Mike for me lol
Edit to remember hot to spell a number lol0 -
I think you can make almost anyone's name sound good when you scream it (admittedly, I can see your point though, Ruth). I agree with the issues of the names of exes. I seemed to chase or be chased by Daves for a long time so truthfully I just laugh and think NO THANK YOU now when a guy has that name, haha...
My friend's and I called my last ex Satan so I don't suppose I have to worry about that name coming back up... oh wait, his given name was Patrick so I really DO avoid those, ha!0 -
I don't put much stake in someones name as far as giving them a chance. I have dated A LOT of guys with A names and that hasn't stopped me from dating another. (My current boyfriend's name is Aaron) He is amazing. How silly would I feel if I had said no based on his name?!0
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Hahaha thats funny, I dont think theres much in a name. Some names will sound better than others sure, but I wouldnt knock someone back on the base of that.
Funny how people seem to have the common trend of being surrounded by people with similar names. When I was teenager and early 20's just about all my gf's first names ended élle... Michelle's, Janelle, Shanelle, Rochelle. Weird.0 -
I think dating a girl with the same name as my mother would bug me. Other than that, there isn't really a name that would make me consider "deal-breaker" quality.0
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I've run into alot of Johns...and that is my fathers name...so its alittle odd.
Also a lot of Capricorns..which I am as well (not that I put much stock in that stuff..but I've never had good luck with them so trying to avoid).
But really meh a name isn't that big of a deal. Probably the guy who had the most unique name was the guy I was most attracted too but it didn't last. And it really had nothing to do with the name.0 -
I went on dates this year with guys named Ralph, George, Randy and Gerald.
No second dates.
I can only hope my name doesnt sound stupid to people when they run that idea through their head. Do I realyl want to holler out a kind of cheese in the throes of passion?
shrug.
If I go by my middle name, they'll think im some tan spanish princess which im the opposite of.0 -
I went on dates this year with guys named Ralph, George, Randy and Gerald.
No second dates.
I can only hope my name doesnt sound stupid to people when they run that idea through their head. Do I realyl want to holler out a kind of cheese in the throes of passion?
shrug.
If I go by my middle name, they'll think im some tan spanish princess which im the opposite of.
I'm a tan spanish (and German) princess (tomboy) but my name could not be more white. ANY of them!0 -
While it's neat that it basically makes me an internet ninja (there are thousands of girls with my exact name in so cal alone, as well as a couple artists and stuff) I do wish I had something more... interesting.
Guess the grass is always greener. I am the only 'me' who comes up when my name is Googled, providing the person googling spells both names correctly, which is a rarity. Neither my first or sur-name is desperately unusual or difficult to spell, I just got the less-common spellings of both. Means that I spend half my life either correcting mis-spellings/pronunciations or gritting my teeth and answering to the wrong name!
Mis-spellings/hearings can have interesting unintended consequences though... I was scheduled for a college campus-visit/overnighter, and the administrator added a letter to my name, which led the person allocating potential students to current students to think I was a boy. As I was a (14-year-old) girl, this resulted in some (very) red faces and swift re-working of plans when it was realised that I was supposed to be sharing a dorm room with a 19 year old male student...:laugh:0 -
While it's neat that it basically makes me an internet ninja (there are thousands of girls with my exact name in so cal alone, as well as a couple artists and stuff) I do wish I had something more... interesting.
Guess the grass is always greener. I am the only 'me' who comes up when my name is Googled, providing the person googling spells both names correctly, which is a rarity. Neither my first or sur-name is desperately unusual or difficult to spell, I just got the less-common spellings of both. Means that I spend half my life either correcting mis-spellings/pronunciations or gritting my teeth and answering to the wrong name!
Mis-spellings/hearings can have interesting unintended consequences though... I was scheduled for a college campus-visit/overnighter, and the administrator added a letter to my name, which led the person allocating potential students to current students to think I was a boy. As I was a (14-year-old) girl, this resulted in some (very) red faces and swift re-working of plans when it was realised that I was supposed to be sharing a dorm room with a 19 year old male student...:laugh:
Haha, you should have rolled with it! It would have made an interesting visit to say the least!
I get excited when people (usually non-english speaking countries) get my name wrong. I love all the fun reactions I get about having a different name for that culture.0 -
Hahaha thats funny, I dont think theres much in a name. Some names will sound better than others sure, but I wouldnt knock someone back on the base of that.
Funny how people seem to have the common trend of being surrounded by people with similar names. When I was teenager and early 20's just about all my gf's first names ended élle... Michelle's, Janelle, Shanelle, Rochelle. Weird.
You wouldn't knock someone back on the basis of that? Hmmmm..I distinctly remember you not wanting to be associated with Butkquida. :sad:0 -
I just read about a Victoria's Secret model named Martha that just got married...clearly her older-fashioned name didn't stop her!0
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