There's somebody for everybody. You just have to be patient. It took me years to find somebody, but yet I still found him. Believe me, I know how depressing it can be.

It's not just chubby chasers that will be after you. In the sea of shallowness that comes with all these skinny guys, there are those that are truly looking for the heart. Those are what you need to look for. He may not be skinny, he may not be fat. But he's out there. The important thing is to get out because sitting at home won't help get your name out. It's frustrating dealing with people sometimes, you just need to be patient and enjoy life in the meantime.

I feel the same and have just realized I'm willing to wait rather than settle or deal with people not worth my time

Well said....................Middangeard

I know exactly how you feel. I am a gay woman that doesn't have one gay woman friend, I just don't fit in. Never knew why until now. It truly is about how you see yourself, how you feel and for most people that's ok But for a select few accepting who you are and loving yourself regardless is almost unimagineable. You aren't alone in this world who feels this way:I am proof of that. Now I do not know what you look like and I do not need to know but I can tell you that looks aren't important to many but you need to believe that. You have never given yourself the chance-probably. I am not talking about highschool crushes. You are at a great age to find someone just for you and you would be surprised by whom. :P I spent half my life looking realatively decent looking10 of those years I wasn't out of the closet and I couldn't find someone remotely close to me. Then when I came out, it was worse! :P Not only was I different, but I was now an outsider in an even smaller playing field (for lack of a better word-forgive me) and I thought-the hell with it. I tried hard to understand what was wrong, why women never approached me. Was I too short? Was I not pretty enough? Was I not a lesbian giving of a lesbian vibe? I dresses like a boy and then dressed like a femme. I tried to be more social etc. But all that was useless. I had no confidence in myself. Never had and that was my problem. It doesn't matter what size you are or anything else for that matter. Try to be good to yourself. Accept yourself but most of all enjoy yourself. Screw what partyline exists. You are definately worth getting to know. You'll see. I can tell you because even as someone who was also an agoraphobic who never went out of the house except for work. I met the right woman for me. Yes I met her at work-completely by chance too since I worked for a big organization. You will meet someone too. You'll meet new people too. Trust me. Sometimes you even have to tak a blindleap of faith and ask them out even if you aren't sure even if you like them Because they may be hiding some wonderful qualities just like you have. One of them being courage. What attracted me to your post was the courage it took to say what you felt deep down inside and that my friend is a rare quality indeed.Be proud of yourself: You'll see. Take that leap and you'll get the best of what you put into it- so I am sure you'll be just fine.:blushing: see I am still shy even online, but atleast I posted a reply I hope helps.

Well said Kyle. Cheers to that!:drinker:

Well, 400lbs is a lot to be sure, but I have found that the more you weigh the faster it comes off. I am halfway through losing my allotted weight, and the first half came off in 2lbs a week basis, but now I am having to work much harder to get the rest off, and of course winter is approaching,and bad weather mostly here.
I have NO diet plan. My entire plan is based on monitoring what goes in, and sticking to the calories, and fitness. Now I like and enjoy fitness so doing a 5 mile walk of an evening comes easily. Easily motivationally anyway, sometimes I do feel tired and just can't be arsed, but I think about my targets and the rewards and just go for it anyway.
If you stick to the calories it will come down, and just keep at it. YOU ARE doing the right thing by tackling this. When I was 20 I had a friend who was huge, I am useless at gauging weight by size, but you couldn't get your arms around him. He didn't make it to 30 sadly and died of heart disease. I would and have recommended this site to everyone. Keep up the good work.

I struggled a lot with this as well, luckily with time and some great friends I've come to realize two things;

1) Even if I never find a person with whom I can share a romantic rest of my life with I will survive.

2)Being me and being loved for that is more important than how I look.

Hopefully you can build an amazing peer group to help you survive the bad times and revel with you in the good times!

I know that feeling, Joselo. When I've been single, I've been deep-down lonely, even though I had a lot of friends. I believe I'm just made to be in a relationship with one man.

That said, I wasn't ready for a relationship until I went through all the things I went through . . . including the loneliness. I have no doubt that you will find your other half, but it may take a while. Hang in there and know that you are loveable, even if you don't find Mr. Right right now.