I consider myself a casual cusser. I don't think about swearing, if it just seems to fit then it happens all on its own. As a receptionist I do not swear within hearing of the owner of the company (who has the office RIGHT next to me) and not in front of my boss (unless we're at an office party) and certainly not in hearing range of customers. Everyone else knows I have a filthy mouth and no one has yet complained about it. IF someone does, I will no longer swear in front of them. I also do not swear in front of children, unless they're in a PG-13 environment anyway (Oh, you brought your three-year-old kid to the new batman movie? Yeah, welcome to the real world kiddo). That's the parents choice, not mine.

I have no problem with swearing, and if someone (that I care about for one reason or another) asks me not to swear and I find it a reasonable request then I do stop around that person. I do not judge people for not swearing.

I do not swear (as much) if I am having a serious debate because I feel like saying "politicians" or "taxes" (and other comparable terms) covers enough dirty language for me.

At work...yes,probably too much.

In public...very little,just consider it a respectful thing to others.

A date...well since I am looking to move far away from where I am I don`t date but no,unless it was comfortable for all and even then would not cuss like a sailor.

It makes no logical sense so won`t even try to rationalize it,just a feeling I have in that it is not polite or appropriate to use coarse language in the presence of a lady.
Others can think differently,and is fine to.

This attitude really, truly and utterly p!sses me off:

It may not seem like it from my posts on ATL, but I tend to hold women to a much higher standard than I do men - which is probably why I get so enraged when women do stupid things.

Holding women to a higher standard in the work place is one of the best ways to keep them down. Gender bias is still alive and kicking, and there's going to be no way to get that glass ceiling lifted for women who have to achieve more and meet a higher standard than the men they work with.

I swear at work... rarely. I do at home or in the car alone frequently. Otherwise, it depends on the company. I swear around my parents, but there are some words I don't use in front of them (and one word I find so repugnant, I never use it and never want to hear it).

I wouldn't swear on a job interview and I thought it was highly inappropriate when a (male) candidate did so twice during a search at my old company. I wouldn't swear on a first or very early date either, but some language is eventually going to come out. Hopefully, you find someone who has a similar use of vulgarities. My new guy is teaching me all the French curses and words for people's naughty bits that didn't seem to be in my Catholic high school curriculum for some reason.

The quotes in the article about women holding other women to a higher standard are pretty much hammered into us since birth, and not regarding swearing specifically, but everything. I work with small groups of kids, and I feel like I spend a lot of time fighting my instinct to let boys get away with more disruptive behaviors than the girls. Ugh- I hate that I have to be super conscious of it.

I swear. I swear at work with adults when it's safe/appropriate. I swear with my friends when it's sometimes inappropriate. I have finally succeeded in getting my mom to try some baby swears. Right now, I effing hate my dog because she just peed in my daughter's room. I swear at my dog pretty constantly (with love).

I tend to gather women friends who swear- they seem to have less control issues than the ladies that I've known who don't swear.

Do I swear? **** yeah! I'm Australian.

Do you swear at work?

Rarely. I work nights so there isn't that many peeps around period. In building I work in there's 3-6 people total. Even less on the weekends, 2-4. I rarely swear over work related things too. When I swear it's mostly it's because of MFP. I am forced to use IE7. Yes, I know it's very outdated. Many websites don't work or are really laggy. When I have a lengthy post typed up, MFP sometimes glitches on me and I have to start all over from scratch. :grumble: My co-worker, a woman in her early 50's, she drops bombs at her computer all the time. I've had to calm her down when she can't get her PC to bring up the news and other things. :laugh:

In public?

Again it's rare. I try to be careful around little ones.

On a date?

Ha ha ha....I wouldn't remember it's been so long. :frown:

Do you look at men and women who do similarly or not?

I'm trying to understand this question. Do you mean if I look or think less of someone who does? No, not at all. Male or female, it doesn't matter to me.

when I say every 2 words, I mean every 2 words!! lol

That's true of any word.

I am more likely to be annoyed if they say "like" or "you know" all the time, or talk in questions. People that swear can generally turn it off or on, but people that say those... it's more like a tic than expression of any real meaning. If someone was incapable of controlling themselves swearing that would bother me as well, but it's just not as common as, "like, we went to the store, you know, to pick up stuff?"

when I say every 2 words, I mean every 2 words!! lol

That's true of any word.

I am more likely to be annoyed if they say "like" or "you know" all the time, or talk in questions. People that swear can generally turn it off or on, but people that say those... it's more like a tic than expression of any real meaning. If someone was incapable of controlling themselves swearing that would bother me as well, but it's just not as common as, "like, we went to the store, you know, to pick up stuff?"

I thought all Americans started a sentence with 'like'!!! :laugh:

Like, TOTALLY!

Oh wait, maybe that's because I'm from So Cal, hahahah!

I think swearing offends me most when the swearer is not aware of his/her audience...in public where people not intended to hear it, especially children or others who will be offended by it. Or when it is used like ketchup (smothering everything else) rather than seasoning (lightly and judiciously sprinkled).

I find I swear often in the car (stupid drivers) and whenever I talk about me ex. Don't get me started. Which means, I swear in front of my counselor, my friends, etc.

Personally, I love British swear words because they don't seem naughty to me. And I loved the way the movie "Fantastic Mr. Fox" used "curse" in place of swear words. I thought that was funny. "Curse you!"

when I say every 2 words, I mean every 2 words!! lol

That's true of any word.

I am more likely to be annoyed if they say "like" or "you know" all the time, or talk in questions. People that swear can generally turn it off or on, but people that say those... it's more like a tic than expression of any real meaning. If someone was incapable of controlling themselves swearing that would bother me as well, but it's just not as common as, "like, we went to the store, you know, to pick up stuff?"

I thought all Americans started a sentence with 'like'!!! :laugh:

Like, TOTALLY!

Oh wait, maybe that's because I'm from So Cal, hahahah!

I met with a student Thursday who kept throwing "I mean" in his sentences so much, I wanted to scream stop!!!! He used it three times in one sentence, spaced with one friggin' word!! I know he's using it as filler in his sentences because he's not taking time to think what he wants to say before saying it - it's just babbling.

Last week, I spent 10 minutes in a Starbucks line on campus with an extremely talkative girl standing behind me, telling a story to her friend that like made my IQ drop like 20 points by the time I like got to the register, you know? So Cal girls!

I like the article, very funny.
Personally I find TOO MUCH cursing from male or female to be unattractive and shows lack of intelligence..

I used to think this way. I work with a group that is full of PhDs, CPAs, PEs, and the like. Everyone is a subject matter expert who often has to testify as an expert witness in Administrative hearings and everyone of us can carry ourselves in a professional manner. However, almost every meeting and every lunch gathering turns into an f-bomb laden argument. The only ones who aren't cussing up a storm are usually the less knowledgeable, less educated employees who can't stand up to the scrutiny.

As far as outside of work, I usually think it provides a poor presentation of oneself. To some degree, it's a case that the fundamental rule of effective communication is to know your audience.

Personally, if someone swears a lot or every other word, I wonder about his/her vocabulary. I agree that sometimes nothing will quite fit in a situation other than a particular curse word. However, if one is dropping F bombs in every sentence, I wonder about his/her intellect. I prefer to be around those who can be more creative and more precise in their wording.

This. And this, too:

I'm more likely to swear when angry/upset/passionate/drunk!

In general, I try to avoid swearing - or at least anything other than very mild expletives. I don't always succeed in private (and a few spicier words may creep in when I'm really angry or upset) but would never swear at my day-job, in public or on a date, beyond something very, very mild, and depending on the atmosphere and situation - it seems highly inappropriate to me to do so, and discourteous to others who might overhear. I might occasionally swear in rehearsals, but the atmosphere in a rehearsal room is usually fairly intimate and quite relaxed in regards to most standard etiquette (and almost always adults-only).

I dislike the indiscriminate use of ugly and imprecise language that has seemingly become a part of our 'culture', and I have to admit I probably do wince more when I hear women lacing their speech with unnecessary and meaningless profanity than when I hear the same from men, though both make me cringe. I don't however see being ladylike and being liberated as mutually exclusive, which shapes my views on this, as well as other issues.

Until the last few, very difficult, years, I had never heard my mother - a very, very liberated lady - swear, beyond the mildest of expletives, and my father only rarely, so my tolerance is low and had to be built up when I went to music college! As an occasional emphasis, and used in consideration of appropriate time and place, I have learned to let foul language roll off my shoulders. From a potential date, though, a stream of foul language, or an every-other-word situation would be a turn-off the balancing of which would take a LOT of positives.

The thing to me is not all swearing is the same to everyone. I am more offended when someone says "bless your heart" then when someone says "fu%k you" since I can't stand that passive agressive crap.

I do have a story to share though. When I was about 20 I was working at subway and was up front doing inventory. I said something like "oh hell, we are out of ..." to myself, I was bent down looking in a cabinet and had no clue people were in line. One of the customers got PISSED and went off on me on how I was disrespecting her and I shouldn't be swearing in front of customers. Really I had no clue what she was talking about as I don't even consider hell a swear word. She went off on me for a good 15 mins and I just kept saying "I am sorry but I don't remember swearing, what did I say?" It took her that long to tell me what I said that offended her.

Moral of this story is what might not offend you might offend the person next to you and you don't even know it.

I consider myself a casual cusser. I don't think about swearing, if it just seems to fit then it happens all on its own. As a receptionist I do not swear within hearing of the owner of the company (who has the office RIGHT next to me) and not in front of my boss (unless we're at an office party) and certainly not in hearing range of customers. Everyone else knows I have a filthy mouth and no one has yet complained about it. IF someone does, I will no longer swear in front of them. I also do not swear in front of children, unless they're in a PG-13 environment anyway (Oh, you brought your three-year-old kid to the new batman movie? Yeah, welcome to the real world kiddo). That's the parents choice, not mine.

I have no problem with swearing, and if someone (that I care about for one reason or another) asks me not to swear and I find it a reasonable request then I do stop around that person. I do not judge people for not swearing.

I do not swear (as much) if I am having a serious debate because I feel like saying "politicians" or "taxes" (and other comparable terms) covers enough dirty language for me.

I am pretty much the same. Depends on who I'm with and who's around ,me. I don't ever, ever, ever curse in front of family, though all the guys in my family let the f bomb fly every other word.

I don't really do it in front of new people until I'm closer to being friends with them. And once we're friends, oh it's on.

One time I was at the gym, and there were two guys next to each other on the treadmill loudly cursing away. Worst part was, there was an older lady next to them. It made me so angry that I suddenly went up to them and said "Excuse me, you're cursing very often and very loudly. Do you realize there's a lady next to you here? Show some respect and watch your language!" and scurried off once I realized I'd spoken up. :laugh: