periods of apathy
4themoney
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do you experience them? where you just don't care? you're completely indifferent to meeting new people in general? you feel maybe a bit more choosey or intolerant?
i think i'm experiencing this now. not sure what to do about it, other than ride it out.
i think i'm experiencing this now. not sure what to do about it, other than ride it out.
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It's been me for the past few months. I am very happy with most of my life, and the things that I am not happy with won't be solved by going out and meeting someone new.0
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Funny you should mention this. I feel like this today. I have a first date tonight with someone I've known for a while and feel like I'd rather go home and take a bath than go out. I just feel blah.....0
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Ride it OUT Ride Ride Ride
On a serious note I have been in this "period" for the awhile now and I honestly don't think it is a bad thing nor do I think I need to change it. To quote Ferris Buller, "life moves pretty fast if you don't stop and look around once in a while you could miss it" I view this period of apathy that I am in as me stopping and looking around!!!!0 -
Yep! I've pretty much been in that mood all year. Just.can't.be.bothered!
Still, I think life is about phases and this one will surely pass :flowerforyou:0 -
Yup, this is normal. Just stay busy and enjoy spending the time by yourself for now. You'll most likely bounce back to being social sooner rather than later. :flowerforyou:0
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Yeah I've been like that for months now0
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Ride it OUT Ride Ride Ride
On a serious note I have been in this "period" for the awhile now and I honestly don't think it is a bad thing nor do I think I need to change it. To quote Ferris Buller, "life moves pretty fast if you don't stop and look around once in a while you could miss it" I view this period of apathy that I am in as me stopping and looking around!!!!
Oh, good attitude to have. Now to ditch the date....hmmmmmm....(jk).0 -
Since my life is in transition right now...must sell the farm and relocate to God only knows where,this pretty much describes where I am at locally.
There simply is no point given that I don`t want to be here so why should I look for something serious if it can`t continue.
I doubt there would be much interest the other way either knowing I don`t intend to stay in NY.0 -
Absolutely. Sometimes it's because of other things going on in life and sometimes, you just need some you time. I know I was totally like that after my divorce because I felt like I needed some selfish time to just take care of me. Definitely ride it out. You'll be happy you did!0
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Since my life is in transition right now...must sell the farm and relocate to God only knows where,this pretty much describes where I am at locally.
There simply is no point given that I don`t want to be here so why should I look for something serious if it can`t continue.
I doubt there would be much interest the other way either knowing I don`t intend to stay in NY.
I think you would make a good Wisconsin guy Carl.0 -
Funny you should mention this. I feel like this today. I have a first date tonight with someone I've known for a while and feel like I'd rather go home and take a bath than go out. I just feel blah.....
Feeling this way before a date is awful. I've felt it. I've told this story before but the last time I felt this way I faked diarrhea so he'd leave. It worked because we had eaten mexican food for dinner. I didn't ask him in but the last time (which was the first) we went out I did so he just assumed and I didn't have the "balls" to tell him no.
I hope the feeling you have goes away for you end up having a great time tonight.0 -
Since my life is in transition right now...must sell the farm and relocate to God only knows where,this pretty much describes where I am at locally.
There simply is no point given that I don`t want to be here so why should I look for something serious if it can`t continue.
I doubt there would be much interest the other way either knowing I don`t intend to stay in NY.
I think you would make a good Wisconsin guy Carl.
But it is cold there too!!:laugh:0 -
Funny you should mention this. I feel like this today. I have a first date tonight with someone I've known for a while and feel like I'd rather go home and take a bath than go out. I just feel blah.....
Feeling this way before a date is awful. I've felt it. I've told this story before but the last time I felt this way I faked diarrhea so he'd leave. It worked because we had eaten mexican food for dinner. I didn't ask him in but the last time (which was the first) we went out I did so he just assumed and I didn't have the "balls" to tell him no.
I hope the feeling you have goes away for you end up having a great time tonight.
Thank you. I'm sure it will be fine. I'll suggest Mexican just in case!!!!0 -
the house across the street from me is up for rent. if you need some farm chores, i can put you to work in my yard..... you get up WAY earlier than i do. the birds would be happier with you letting them out in the morning than they are with me!!! ;-)Since my life is in transition right now...must sell the farm and relocate to God only knows where,this pretty much describes where I am at locally.
There simply is no point given that I don`t want to be here so why should I look for something serious if it can`t continue.
I doubt there would be much interest the other way either knowing I don`t intend to stay in NY.
I think you would make a good Wisconsin guy Carl.
But it is cold there too!!:laugh:0 -
I dont really have periods of apathy its more like small bursts of it. Usually if I'm tired I start thinking man do I really want to go out yada yada yada. I have discovered a hot shower usually cure this for me and I make myself go out. 9 times out of 10 it was a good thing I made myself go out. I have fun maybe meet new people or just hang out with my current peeps0
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Since my life is in transition right now...must sell the farm and relocate to God only knows where,this pretty much describes where I am at locally.
There simply is no point given that I don`t want to be here so why should I look for something serious if it can`t continue.
I doubt there would be much interest the other way either knowing I don`t intend to stay in NY.
I think you would make a good Wisconsin guy Carl.
Awwww that's a sweet exchange :bigsmile:
Carl, why dont you open your heart up to the possibility of long distance dating down south. That way, if you fall for each other you can just move where she is when the farm is sold etc!! :bigsmile:0 -
Since my life is in transition right now...must sell the farm and relocate to God only knows where,this pretty much describes where I am at locally.
There simply is no point given that I don`t want to be here so why should I look for something serious if it can`t continue.
I doubt there would be much interest the other way either knowing I don`t intend to stay in NY.
I think you would make a good Wisconsin guy Carl.
But it is cold there too!!:laugh:
Well I don't know much about the warm states... Summers are unreal in the midwest though!!0 -
i go through periods of this as well. it's mainly when i start thinking about my chances of meeting guys who a)are attracted to me b)i'm also attracted to c) are available. that's A LOT of lightening needing to strike in one location :laugh:0
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i go through periods of this as well. it's mainly when i start thinking about my chances of meeting guys who a)are attracted to me b)i'm also attracted to c) are available. that's A LOT of lightening needing to strike in one location :laugh:
:laugh: You're funny Mesha! :laugh:0 -
i completely agree with this. too many stars need to line up to find mutual attraction AND emotional availability all in ONE connection.
i am hoping this ends soon. it's been about 5 weeks. and like i said, i'm not sure if it's me expecting too much or what. there was the whatever guy last friday. the friday before i had a first date. it was EH. ya know, just eh. but, i was willing to give him another shot. couldn't tell if he was nervous, lacked confidence, or just wasn't really all that interested.
he seemed to want another date, but for whatever reason couldn't come out and just ask me out again. for one, he couldn't pick up the phone and call.. which is annoying. but then, instead of saying " would you like to go out with me again?" he said something close to that but it was more like " or are you not interested." i told him i was, but like i said, he never really asked me out again and never called and then he poofed.i go through periods of this as well. it's mainly when i start thinking about my chances of meeting guys who a)are attracted to me b)i'm also attracted to c) are available. that's A LOT of lightening needing to strike in one location :laugh:0 -
the house across the street from me is up for rent. if you need some farm chores, i can put you to work in my yard..... you get up WAY earlier than i do. the birds would be happier with you letting them out in the morning than they are with me!!! ;-)Since my life is in transition right now...must sell the farm and relocate to God only knows where,this pretty much describes where I am at locally.
There simply is no point given that I don`t want to be here so why should I look for something serious if it can`t continue.
I doubt there would be much interest the other way either knowing I don`t intend to stay in NY.
I think you would make a good Wisconsin guy Carl.
But it is cold there too!!:laugh:
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there is a southern states and tractor supply here too ;-)
you know you wanna, carl!0 -
My apathy has now lasted for several years. I'm pretty sure it qualifies more as a way of life at this point. If I'm going to bother with a man beyond FWB status, he's going to have to be something extra special, because I just don't have the patience or energy for anything less.0
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I don't care enough to post an answer to this thread. :laugh:
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your level of apathy is RIGHT up my alley!
;-) heeheehee!!!I don't care enough to post an answer to this thread. :laugh:0 -
do you experience them? where you just don't care? you're completely indifferent to meeting new people in general? you feel maybe a bit more choosey or intolerant?
i think i'm experiencing this now. not sure what to do about it, other than ride it out.
I'll get it sometimes. 1-2x a month where I feel "meh" what's the point? I'll focus my time and energy by going to the gym, get a workout in and it helps. Also random cuties will smile at me there. :smooched: That makes all the negativity go away instantly.
I've had a few of the ladies in my Zumba class talk me up and notice I am losing weight, congratulating me on my hard work, dedication, etc. etc. Most are married, have boyfriends, are in relationships but the attention is nice either way. It makes me wonder if they notice, other girls that I don't know about, must be noticing as well. 0 -
Yes. I literally will not go out unless I'm paid to (I work in promotions). However, funnily enough, now that I don't give a crap, guys seem to be coming out from the wood work!!! hahaha0
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Yep, and have been for a while.0
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I don't care enough to post an answer to this thread. :laugh:
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do you experience them? where you just don't care? you're completely indifferent to meeting new people in general? you feel maybe a bit more choosey or intolerant?
i think i'm experiencing this now. not sure what to do about it, other than ride it out.
I'm pretty sure this has been my way of life since 2008.0
