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Annoying comments

mommycline

I get a lot of comments and compliments now that I have dropped a ton of weight (100+ pounds). I think the most annoying one I heard was, "Wow, you lost a lot of weight. You are so pretty now." Really!?! Guess fatty me looked liked something out of the garbage disposal. LOL What are some things you have heard that have irked you? Just looking to start a conversation...

-Rebekah

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mommycline

Other one was recently, I think the lady didn't want to tell me I was so fat and lost so much weight so instead she said, "You look different." Umm thanks.

kasmusic3PA

I like the one when someone asks what was your weight before surgery and they come back with
"Unbelievable you didn't look that big" What do they think. That is absolutely why I had the surgery
because I was that big. DUH...........

miss_erynn

I like the one when someone asks what was your weight before surgery and they come back with
"Unbelievable you didn't look that big" What do they think. That is absolutely why I had the surgery
because I was that big. DUH...........

YES! THIS!! Every single time, all my friends say, "You didn't look that big." I sum it up as them being able to see past my weight issues.... and they didn't judge me based on how much I did weigh.

smokeywolf57

I haven't really said too much to anyone but it was commented at me that I took the easy way out.

healthybabs

I have not had surgery yet but one of my favorite pre-surg comments...."You have such a pretty face, just think of how you would look if you lost some weight!"....thanks *kitten* hole!! I have pretty much decided I am not going to tell "people" I am having it. Of course my parents and husband and a few close family members know but that is going to be it. Everybody in my life pretty much knows how I have changed my eating habits and exercise regimine over the past few years. Since I look at this as another tool to help me become healthier I am going to respond to their questions/comments with a kind smile and affirmation that I have been working my butt off. Hopefully I can get away with that!

mandyabraio

I haven't really said too much to anyone but it was commented at me that I took the easy way out.

I am getting my surgery on Nov. 5th..and let me tell you THIS IS NOT the easy way out!!! About to start my pre surgery diet Friday and I am scared to death...

mommycline

I have not had surgery yet but one of my favorite pre-surg comments...."You have such a pretty face, just think of how you would look if you lost some weight!"....thanks *kitten* hole!! I have pretty much decided I am not going to tell "people" I am having it. Of course my parents and husband and a few close family members know but that is going to be it. Everybody in my life pretty much knows how I have changed my eating habits and exercise regimine over the past few years. Since I look at this as another tool to help me become healthier I am going to respond to their questions/comments with a kind smile and affirmation that I have been working my butt off. Hopefully I can get away with that!

I didn't tell hardly anyone except family and a handful of friends. Almost 7 months out and when people comment on my weight loss I thank them, smile and then I am on my way. It is non of their business how I got here. I still work my butt off, sweat, and sacrifice to lose this weight.

grim_traveller

I always take comments as compliments. I find that people are trying to be nice, even if it comes out as awkward and less than appropriate at times. Hey, I do look better than I used to, and I did used to be wicked fat.

smokeywolf57

I haven't really said too much to anyone but it was commented at me that I took the easy way out.

I am getting my surgery on Nov. 5th..and let me tell you THIS IS NOT the easy way out!!! About to start my pre surgery diet Friday and I am scared to death...

good luck to you lady and you can do it. we are here for you

oh I know all to well it is not the easy way out.

I did almost 2 weeks pre-surgery diet of 600 cal a day. then 2 weeks liquid diet post surgery and it was hard trying to find stuff that I wouldn't dump.

anyone that says it needs their head examined.

gspea

I had lapband on 6/28. Only family and a few friends know. I don't feel it is an easy way out. It takes dedication and commitment to alter your body. I am doing this to help me finally get to a healthy bmi and to feel better about myself.

I think that the most annoying comment has been - what are you doing to lose weight? When I reply watching what I eat and exercise - seriously this is what was said - What do you mean watching what you eat and exercise. No = aren't you on a plan? I jsut shake my head and smile.

mandynsnuf

Just today someone looked at my work badge and said, "I don't remember you being THAT fat!"

Cheekybookworm

I have not had surgery yet but one of my favorite pre-surg comments...."You have such a pretty face, just think of how you would look if you lost some weight!"....thanks *kitten* hole!! I have pretty much decided I am not going to tell "people" I am having it. Of course my parents and husband and a few close family members know but that is going to be it. Everybody in my life pretty much knows how I have changed my eating habits and exercise regimine over the past few years. Since I look at this as another tool to help me become healthier I am going to respond to their questions/comments with a kind smile and affirmation that I have been working my butt off. Hopefully I can get away with that!

Oh yes, my family's favorite quote "You're such a beautiful girl when you're thin" - what the Heck?! Healthier - okay maybe. More active sure....but good grief.

katiebug1982

My favorite is when they ask, "How much do you weigh?" like it wasn't okay for them to ask me that when I was big but now that I am small it's okay? my other is, "what have you eaten today?" I know it is just out of concern, but come on now! Really? They didn't dare ask something like that when I was big but now that I am not it's perfectly fine? Oh, and" what size are you?"

sneed818

This really made me laugh. Through out the years my weight has been a roller coaster. It aggrivates me when I want to complain about my weight (because I am feeling sorry for myself at the time) and some one says but you are so tall and you carry your weight well. I'm like tell my knees and ankles how well we carry it at 6ft tall!!

** Here's to surgery at the end of January**

spfldpam

The ones I love is "how much weight have you lost" then you tell them then they kinda look at you and are thinking "you weight that much to begin with?!?!" They don't say it but ya know they are thinking it. I think some people are being kind and they just kinda don't think what they say when they see ya. I went to a recent event for a dog training club I am a member of and saw alot of people from out town I haven't seen in over a year. Some didn't even recognize me after loosing 100 pounds. One woman came up to me saying how good I looked and how pretty I was but then said you were also pretty though. Then she pinched my cheek! What the hell!?!? Some people don't have good boundaries or invading a persons personal space I guess. I know she was trying to be nice but it was weird.
I haven't told hardly any one I had WLS Sleeve surgery, My mom knows, my hairdresser and 2 co workers and my boss knows. People at my support group know too of course but that is it. I decided it is easier just to keep it to a few people and less of hassle. One day I might tell more but for now that works for me.

Jamielynn_77

my favorite is, 'ooh...you look so...sick.' :grumble: really? or, there is, 'well you only lost that weight cause you cheated'

some people will never know what its like to struggle. I just roll me eyes and walk away. I am proud of my choice and proud of who i am today!

karen_golfs

I'm scheduled for gastic sleeve surgery onb December 10, 2012.

karen_golfs

I always take comments as compliments. I find that people are trying to be nice, even if it comes out as awkward and less than appropriate at times. Hey, I do look better than I used to, and I did used to be wicked fat.

That is such a good attitude. That is my plan.

Newbody72

Now since the weight loss people say Wow you loss a lot of weight. I say yeah, then they respond yeah you were really big. You used to woddle and now you walk normally. I say thanks, and then say why wait until now to say something. They respond by saying I didn't know how I would take the criticism.

Newbody72

At the end of the day that is what matters. As long as you can look yourself in the mirror and be alright with your decision then hell with all the haters.

imakimm

Most people just tell me how great I look. Some have said that they never realized I was so big. A few of my family members and a few friends (who know I had surgery) tell me I now look sick because I am too thin, or I am melting into nothing and they are worried. And the biggest one that I just laughed at was when a friends husband asked if I was doing drugs!

grim_traveller

Everything is relative I guess. I've had a couple of people tell me they were worried because I was getting too thin. I weighed in this morning at 301! There aren't many "too thin" folks out there at 300 pounds.

But really, it's when people say nothing that I should worry most. As Newbody said, they won't say anything when you pack the weight on. But when it comes off, they really do mean to compliment you. My favorite recently was my friend's 93 year old grandmother, who told me I looked "almost handsome." Hey, I've been called much, much worse.

annwyatt69

I have not had surgery yet but one of my favorite pre-surg comments...."You have such a pretty face, just think of how you would look if you lost some weight!"....thanks *kitten* hole!! I have pretty much decided I am not going to tell "people" I am having it. Of course my parents and husband and a few close family members know but that is going to be it. Everybody in my life pretty much knows how I have changed my eating habits and exercise regimine over the past few years. Since I look at this as another tool to help me become healthier I am going to respond to their questions/comments with a kind smile and affirmation that I have been working my butt off. Hopefully I can get away with that!

I tried not telling anyone, but one of my sons told one person at my church and then the whole world knew. Sad that most of my weight was lost pre surgery. By the time I had the procedure, I only had about 60 pounds left to lose.

AnotherAustinGirl

I only told two or three people that I was having the lapband surgery which I had in April, 2011. I was afraid that I would be a miserable failure even after the surgery. I did have a problem for the first nine months. They just couldn't seem to get the band tight for some reason. The reason I had the surgery was because of a compulsive eating problem and I quickly found that I could still eat whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. I complained every time I went in for a fill which they would only do once a month. FINALLY on that ninth visit it started working. So, I was glad I didn't say anything because people would have expected something I really wasn't able to deliver.

Happily, my compulsive eating issue has completely resolved since the lapband has been correctly tightened. I don't have the constant desire to eat all the time that I once had. I know what it feels like to have enough! And now I'm out of the 200's for the first time in more than 20 years. Still have about 50 pounds to my goal. If I went by the weight charts it would be nearly 80 more pounds to go but I can't see myself being that skinny and still being strong and healthy.

Good luck to those still waiting for their surgery. I was scare, too, but now I think it was the best decision I've made for my health and sanity.

minkakross

My husband and I were just talking about comments and compliments today and how even if someone says something positive I sometime add my own negative sub text. I think for many people it's a damned if you do damned if you don't scenario... just look at your comments above. Let me just lay it on the table. When I was 100 pounds heavier I was morbidly obese and even though I thought I had good self esteem I AM prettier now, I DO have a better shape, I have lost a TON of weight, and even my husband and I can look at my work badges or last years family Christmas pictures (which also happen to be on our Christmas photo cards) and not only did I not feel as fat or see myself as being as fat as I really was in those pictures, but my husband didn't see it either. I can't expect my friends, family, coworkers, general acquaintances, etc, to speak perfectly, but I can take the best parts out of the comments and compliments and ignore the misspeaks or subtexts, because frankly they probably aren't thinking about it as hard as I am. They are trying to offer a compliment, imperfect though it might be, politically incorrect though it might be, it's still a compliment; so I do my best to turn off the suspicious, negative voice in my head, and just be proud of my hard work, and accept in the spirit it is meant that others have noticed too.

beckybernardo

I havent really had anyone notice the weight i have lost. I do remember a comment that was made to me close to my heaviest weight. A friend of mine said "this girl would have made you look small." I wasn't even in the conversation, but was just plain shocked when they said that. The worst part was, she was only about 15 to 20 lbs smaller then me..... oh well, maybe one of these days I will lose enough to get noticed.

mandynsnuf

I had this said to me yesterday "Some people are beautiful when they are fat but I didn't realize how pretty you were" LOL people kill me !!