Guess I am single again.................
Moe4572
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So, the bf sent a text tonight saying that we have nothing in common and he is not feeling a connection, so he doesn't want to lead me on..................... very sad for me as I did not see this coming AT ALL!!!
Heartrbroken, but will heal eventually....................
Heartrbroken, but will heal eventually....................
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awww
Sorry!
I am glad you have a positive attitude, though.0 -
sorry that sucks....I am curious, how long you were dating? You said the BF broke up with you but he did it over text. If I am in a relationship with a woman and she is my no **** gf, im not going to end things over text.
If we had been out a few times and I felt no connection text is fine.0 -
sorry that sucks....I am curious, how long you were dating? You said the BF broke up with you but he did it over text. If I am in a relationship with a woman and she is my no **** gf, im not going to end things over text.
If we had been out a few times and I felt no connection text is fine.
I'm sorry to hear that! But I am curious... to consider him a BF but then to have him break up with you via text is weird...do you think that you both considered the relationship much differently? AKA not on the same page.0 -
Sorry./ I really don't get text dumping, especially if it got to the point of actual commitment. I was dating a girl maybe about a month and got a text dump, nothing serious really happened so I kind of shrugged it off. However, I still wished she had enough maturity to actually say something rather than text.0
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Aw, Moe...I'm so sorry. The blindsides are the worst. I know words don't really help, but we're all here for ya. And way to go on the great attitude!!! You rock! :flowerforyou:0
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I am so sorry to hear this!!! My last serious relationship was ended via text as well. It killed me because we had just laughed about his teenage son doing the same a month earlier, and about how times had changed. Guess the apple didn't fall far from the tree.... (we had been dating a little over 4 months). He tried getting back together later, but the act of breaking up via text sealed his fate for me.
Keep your chin up and be the bigger person!!! :flowerforyou:0 -
I feel for you as this was me a couple of months ago.
Away on a business trip, got a text that we just wouldn't work out, and she was going to try to mend things with her ex husband.
This was 4 months into the relationship and I was completely blindsided as well. Hang in there, it hurts.0 -
Texting is death to romance, intelligence and grammar.
Sorry by the way!0 -
I am so sorry :-(
Hugs!0 -
A TEXT?!?!?! A TEXT BREAKUP?!?! This guy is clearly a coward and a douche bag. Sorry to put it so bluntly. Hang in there, you'll find much better
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this. that totally sucks. :frown:A TEXT?!?!?! A TEXT BREAKUP?!?! This guy is clearly a coward and a douche bag. Sorry to put it so bluntly. Hang in there, you'll find much better0 -
Text breakups seem to be a fairly common thing now, they are so cold and crappy. I'm really sorry that happened to you too.0
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Maybe I'm the odd one here but the last two times someone broke up with me one did it via text and the other asked me to come to her place so we could talk. She lived 35 minutes away. Not only did I have to wonder what was so important for the entire 35 minute drive, I wasted 70 minutes driving round trip and 20 minutes talking about how messed up she was and how it's not me it's her blah blah blah. When I got dumped via text I replied with "are you sure?" went to the gym and worked out until I was sore and got rid of some of the disappointment. I think I'd rather be broken up with via text.0
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Moe, I'm so sorry to hear that. :flowerforyou:0
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Maybe I'm the odd one here but the last two times someone broke up with me one did it via text and the other asked me to come to her place so we could talk. She lived 35 minutes away. Not only did I have to wonder what was so important for the entire 35 minute drive, I wasted 70 minutes driving round trip and 20 minutes talking about how messed up she was and how it's not me it's her blah blah blah. When I got dumped via text I replied with "are you sure?" went to the gym and worked out until I was sore and got rid of some of the disappointment. I think I'd rather be broken up with via text.
I personally would rather be broken up with a phone call where he tells me reasons why... but I remember when i was thinking of how to tell a guy I was no longer interested...I wanted to invite him to lunch and explain it... the OVERWHELMING response in this group was not to waste his time taking him out but to just shoot him a "it won't work" text.0 -
To those that asked..... we were exclusive and had been for 3 months... last week he asked if I would be interested in going to Maine. With him over the summer on Friday we were talking about a present from me for his daughters birthday ( Dec 21) so very strange the way it happened.....0
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Texting is death to romance, intelligence and grammar.
U r so rite!
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After 3 months he owes you more than a text!!! :grumble:
I dont mind the test thing after 3 or 4 dates. But when you're on your way to building a relationship, poofing and texting just sucks!
However, I guess he just didnt have the heart (or balls) to tell you to your face. It IS very difficult telling someone, so I can understand the 'easy' way out.
Moe, I'm really sorry hun, but you are a fab lady and I'm sure someone will swoop you up soon :flowerforyou:0 -
Maybe I'm the odd one here but the last two times someone broke up with me one did it via text and the other asked me to come to her place so we could talk. She lived 35 minutes away. Not only did I have to wonder what was so important for the entire 35 minute drive, I wasted 70 minutes driving round trip and 20 minutes talking about how messed up she was and how it's not me it's her blah blah blah. When I got dumped via text I replied with "are you sure?" went to the gym and worked out until I was sore and got rid of some of the disappointment. I think I'd rather be broken up with via text.
I agree 100% with you. I'd rather be broken up via text than in person or on the phone. A text message is quick, clean, and gets the message across. Much better than a slow, drawn out, awkward conversation in person.
I'd liken it to taking a band-aid off. Would you rather rip it off quickly or slowly?0 -
I broke up with my last boyfriend via text while he was on vacation. Yeah I am that *****. The thing is it was a long distance relationship and our main way of communicating was via text. I actually think he passively agressively broke up with me prior to that but couldn't really truely poof so I just put the nail in the coffin.0
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Oh, no!! I am sorry!0
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I am sorry! Hugs.
I wished my last bf broke up via text than on FB by going from Relationship to Single..yeah, that sucked major!0 -
Maybe I'm the odd one here but the last two times someone broke up with me one did it via text and the other asked me to come to her place so we could talk. She lived 35 minutes away. Not only did I have to wonder what was so important for the entire 35 minute drive, I wasted 70 minutes driving round trip and 20 minutes talking about how messed up she was and how it's not me it's her blah blah blah. When I got dumped via text I replied with "are you sure?" went to the gym and worked out until I was sore and got rid of some of the disappointment. I think I'd rather be broken up with via text.
I agree 100% with you. I'd rather be broken up via text than in person or on the phone. A text message is quick, clean, and gets the message across. Much better than a slow, drawn out, awkward conversation in person.
I'd liken it to taking a band-aid off. Would you rather rip it off quickly or slowly?
No No... I wholeheartedly believe that awkward feeling is meant to be there... you are meant to "feel" it...because if you actually have a "feeling" when you are either doing the breaking up or getting dumped, you can see how it affects the other person....AND how it affects you (in the case you are doing the dumping)
People who break up and don't have those core "feelings" and experience first hand, the reactions....are in the "I don't like it....I'll just get a new one" aka "Throw Away" generation..... that is a topic I don't care to get fired up about right now.
Those awkward, uncomfortable, sad, powerful, powerless feelings are all what builds character.0 -
Sorry, Moe. That's really rough how he was acting like you had a future together, then hit you with this out of the blue. I, personally, think the text was very cowardly and he owed you more after the time you had been together.
I can understand the timing since 3 months is a typical time frame when you get past the initial rush of the new relationship and start to see the reality a bit more clearly. It's unfortunate thought that there was no indication from him that this was coming, although, maybe looking back now, you might see some signs that you hadn't noticed? Maybe him being a jerk about it and dumping you so abruptly will be a good thing in the long run for you to get over him and move on without looking back.
I'm also in the camp of thinking a phone call is the way to go. I don't understand how we have come to a point where we don't think of cell phones as being a means to talk to people by calling them on the phone first and texting has become the primary mode of communication with them. It's so cold.Maybe I'm the odd one here but the last two times someone broke up with me one did it via text and the other asked me to come to her place so we could talk. She lived 35 minutes away. Not only did I have to wonder what was so important for the entire 35 minute drive, I wasted 70 minutes driving round trip and 20 minutes talking about how messed up she was and how it's not me it's her blah blah blah. When I got dumped via text I replied with "are you sure?" went to the gym and worked out until I was sore and got rid of some of the disappointment. I think I'd rather be broken up with via text.
I personally would rather be broken up with a phone call where he tells me reasons why... but I remember when i was thinking of how to tell a guy I was no longer interested...I wanted to invite him to lunch and explain it... the OVERWHELMING response in this group was not to waste his time taking him out but to just shoot him a "it won't work" text.
I would rather have a phone call than someone set up a date in public for the breakup (eg. inviting him out to lunch) or having me drive a long way in a LDR - the person breaking up should be the one doing the long distance driving in that case. That's pretty heartless.0 -
Aw Moe. That F'ing sucks! I am sorry. :grumble: :explode:
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I'm sorry -- really weird that he was doing future talk and then this out of the blue. Relationships can be so precarious.
I think he owed you a phone call. Breaking up via text is so lame after 3 months together. I know texting is all the rage these days, but I really hate it.0 -
I am sorry! Hugs.
I wished my last bf broke up via text than on FB by going from Relationship to Single..yeah, that sucked major!
Now that is just cold!
Sorry OP, about the text breakup, seems more common these days. I had another friend have the same thing after 5 months.0 -
the (now) ex had also been holding my table and chairs for me as he told me his basement had plenty of room and was he would be happy to store it for me. Then, when he texted the breakup, I asked about the table & chairs....he said he would drop it off this weekend-I thought maybe then I would get a chance to speak to him face to face. DID NOT HAPPEN---he dropped the furniture off to day---left it in front of my house---whichis on MAIN ST, and right next to a small, very busy grocery store--could easily have been ripped off.....grateful that it was there. He clearly does not want to see me face to face, and I really just don't get it, but I need to just move on, and so that is what my friends are having me do, putting me back on dating sites and telling me I am going with them to see a band on Sat. night. My one friend says that the dating site can serve as more of a distraction now than anything else, and if I see/talk to someone I want to meet...YAY! If not, it will pass the time....0
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the (now) ex had also been holding my table and chairs for me as he told me his basement had plenty of room and was he would be happy to store it for me. Then, when he texted the breakup, I asked about the table & chairs....he said he would drop it off this weekend-I thought maybe then I would get a chance to speak to him face to face. DID NOT HAPPEN---he dropped the furniture off to day---left it in front of my house---whichis on MAIN ST, and right next to a small, very busy grocery store--could easily have been ripped off.....grateful that it was there. He clearly does not want to see me face to face, and I really just don't get it, but I need to just move on, and so that is what my friends are having me do, putting me back on dating sites and telling me I am going with them to see a band on Sat. night. My one friend says that the dating site can serve as more of a distraction now than anything else, and if I see/talk to someone I want to meet...YAY! If not, it will pass the time....
Moe, It sounds like you have some amazing friends! Definitely let them support and distract you. This guy is obviously not worth any more of your time to even think about!0 -
So sorry!
Text?!? Wtf!!!0
