Reflections and Recommitments

Snooozie
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Good morning Hatters!
As the last few days of the year are before us, I thought perhaps this might be a good time for us to reflect ...on our SUCCESSES in 2012, and to share our strategies and thoughts on a recommitment to our goals for 2013.
I chose success for reflection, because it's been a rough week for me, since Christmas Eve I've been sliding back into poor eating choices and making excuses for myself because its the "holidays", but along with those poor choices and some weight gain, came the horrid mental and emotional mind games as well, over the days starting to think I'd messed all my hard work of the past few months up completely, then feeling like crap about myself, the negative thoughts that always begin the destructive circle of feel bad, eat more, feel worse, eat more... this habit is insidious, it can creep in and take root in your thoughts and before you know it, you're spiraling out of control and starting to wonder why bother.. and the scariest part of all is you don't even realize sometimes how deeply those roots run - intellectually I know its years of habit ingrained in me and that I CAN break a habit, but when those thoughts and feelings being to grow, MY intellect seems to have decided its time for a vacation and abandons me!
But today, today i've had enough. I NEED to change my negative thinking, and remember why I started this journey, all the reasons it was so important to me to make changes to my life when I came to MFP. I have forgotten some of them along the way, and I've also forgotten about all the GOOD changes I HAVE accomplished and the progress I've made. That we've ALL made.
I went through my friends list last night - reading the profiles of everyone I've come to know here at MFP again, and I looked at all your tickers and/or updates on your reasons for being here, and your progress.. and I was so amazed and impressed with everything each of you have accomplished in all areas, not just weight loss... so many of you have made such strides in your own goals, as well as discovered so much about yourselves... and as I read, it helped me remember WHY I was here, and how far I HAD come! and it helped me believe in myself again. And to realize I WANT to recommit to my goals.
So today, I choose to reflect on my successes for this year; I'll save the "non weight one" for reply to Janet's post (which follows, and which inspired me as well!) but I AM proud of myself that in 2012, I lost weight, I educated myself about nutrition and exercise, and succeeded in recognizing many of the ways I have always looked at food. I moved more, and for the first time ever, i logged my food every single day for 175 days. I never would have believed a year ago I would ever do that. So for the first time in many years, I will head into the New Year feeling GOOD about me, and looking forward to challenging myself harder and reaching my goal in 2013!
Yesterday Janet did a post that really struck home, so I copied it over here for everyone....and...I've figured out my own reply now.
(FROM HAIRSPRAYHON):
As we reflect on the past year, I think it is important to remember that we are all SOOO much more than the numbers on the scale so here is my challenge (I need to think of mine, so I will fill it in later) can we each finish the following sentence-without referring to our weight! In 2012, I proved to myself how fabulous that I am, when I __________________.
SNOOZIE's reply: In 2012, I proved to myself how fabulous that I am, when I found the courage to start asking for help.
I've never been one to ask for help with anything. But this year, I got up the courage to ask both family and friends for help with situations that occurred, where I would normally never ask. It may not sound like much, but for me, it was probably one of the biggest steps I've ever taken in the past 30 years, and I'm proud of myself for taking that step!
As the last few days of the year are before us, I thought perhaps this might be a good time for us to reflect ...on our SUCCESSES in 2012, and to share our strategies and thoughts on a recommitment to our goals for 2013.
I chose success for reflection, because it's been a rough week for me, since Christmas Eve I've been sliding back into poor eating choices and making excuses for myself because its the "holidays", but along with those poor choices and some weight gain, came the horrid mental and emotional mind games as well, over the days starting to think I'd messed all my hard work of the past few months up completely, then feeling like crap about myself, the negative thoughts that always begin the destructive circle of feel bad, eat more, feel worse, eat more... this habit is insidious, it can creep in and take root in your thoughts and before you know it, you're spiraling out of control and starting to wonder why bother.. and the scariest part of all is you don't even realize sometimes how deeply those roots run - intellectually I know its years of habit ingrained in me and that I CAN break a habit, but when those thoughts and feelings being to grow, MY intellect seems to have decided its time for a vacation and abandons me!
But today, today i've had enough. I NEED to change my negative thinking, and remember why I started this journey, all the reasons it was so important to me to make changes to my life when I came to MFP. I have forgotten some of them along the way, and I've also forgotten about all the GOOD changes I HAVE accomplished and the progress I've made. That we've ALL made.
I went through my friends list last night - reading the profiles of everyone I've come to know here at MFP again, and I looked at all your tickers and/or updates on your reasons for being here, and your progress.. and I was so amazed and impressed with everything each of you have accomplished in all areas, not just weight loss... so many of you have made such strides in your own goals, as well as discovered so much about yourselves... and as I read, it helped me remember WHY I was here, and how far I HAD come! and it helped me believe in myself again. And to realize I WANT to recommit to my goals.
So today, I choose to reflect on my successes for this year; I'll save the "non weight one" for reply to Janet's post (which follows, and which inspired me as well!) but I AM proud of myself that in 2012, I lost weight, I educated myself about nutrition and exercise, and succeeded in recognizing many of the ways I have always looked at food. I moved more, and for the first time ever, i logged my food every single day for 175 days. I never would have believed a year ago I would ever do that. So for the first time in many years, I will head into the New Year feeling GOOD about me, and looking forward to challenging myself harder and reaching my goal in 2013!
Yesterday Janet did a post that really struck home, so I copied it over here for everyone....and...I've figured out my own reply now.
(FROM HAIRSPRAYHON):
As we reflect on the past year, I think it is important to remember that we are all SOOO much more than the numbers on the scale so here is my challenge (I need to think of mine, so I will fill it in later) can we each finish the following sentence-without referring to our weight! In 2012, I proved to myself how fabulous that I am, when I __________________.
SNOOZIE's reply: In 2012, I proved to myself how fabulous that I am, when I found the courage to start asking for help.
I've never been one to ask for help with anything. But this year, I got up the courage to ask both family and friends for help with situations that occurred, where I would normally never ask. It may not sound like much, but for me, it was probably one of the biggest steps I've ever taken in the past 30 years, and I'm proud of myself for taking that step!

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In 2012, I proved to myself how fabulous that I am, when I recognized that my role as a mother of young adults (especially the bride) is not to make their decisions, but to let them help me define what our relationship should be and my role as the wife in an empty nest is to rediscover the reasons we were together before kids.
Snoozie, your recognition of how great it is that you needed help is a huge accomplishment congratulations! Even here, I think most of us hatters, think of you first in the amount of support you give to us, because you always seem to be giving encouragement rather than asking for it, thanks.
Hoping to hear more affirmations of fabulousness and I will work on the fitness success and recommitment challenge made by Snoozie. My MFP anniversary is January 7 and it is time to evaluate and move forward.
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OK, in 2012 I proved how fabulous I am by (1) learning to cook, and in a healthy way (may seem silly to some but really was an accomplishment for me), and (2) by significantly contributing to a formerly frustrated first grader's self esteem, motivation, reading skills, and classroom participation as her tutor and her mother and teacher's consultant.0
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This year I ran in (2) 5K's. Never in my life had I run before, so this was a huge IPO me moment. I also participated in the Dana Farber cancer walk & walked 13.1 miles to raise $ for cancer research. This all lead to a 20 lb weight loss and 30 point loss in my cholesterol.
I have been trying new foods and want to try more meatless days. My goal for 2013 will be to loose 10lb and try to encorporate even more exercise into my schedule.0 -
YAY MAD HATTERS !!:bigsmile:
WE DO ROCK!!
Hoping to see the rest of you gals in here before the end of the year! :drinker:0 -
I'm proud of me when.....
I find myself more at the gym and less about making excuses.....
Every Monday is dance night (zumba)...
Every Friday is dance night unless going for beutification on the way home.... hair care (every 6 wks) eyebrows (every 3 weeks), pedicure (every 5 weeks)....
But do try to find time for the dreadmill on Wed or Thursday...
So, can honestly say make it to the gym once or twice per week.... time allowing.....0 -
Wow you hit the nail on the head for me- I have also been very naughty and berating myself for the naughtiness. But instead I will focus on how even though I was pigging out and being lazy, when I went shopping I am still in the smaller size. And I will focus again on the goal of feeling better, looking better and eating better! Happy New Year everyone!0
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Hiya Glenner!! How lovely to meet you, and welome to the Hatters!
You're not alone, believe me.. I don't know if you've been folowing our posts for long but if so you'll see that being women of our age, we share a lot of the struggles we have with food and it always helps to discover others go thru the same things... and that as women, we are always hardest on ourselves.. that's why here we focus on the positive changes and successes we make, whether its big or small, cause small changes lead to big success! How awesome that when you went shopping you were still in the smaller size!!!! Obviously you have made some great changes and accomplishments already, and its all about progress, not perfection. So congrats too on deciding to focus on your goal again.. we're all here for you (and look forward to getting to know a little about ya! )0 -
In 2012, I proved to myself how fabulous I am when I kept caring for and encouraging others, my students, my friends, my colleagues, my family, my MFP buddies, even when I myself was foundering and fighting off depression and demoralization. To be there for someone else took the focus off me and help me stay (more or less) grounded.:flowerforyou:0
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Successes for 2012 - I have lost 1/2 the weight I want to lose. I have gotten WAY more active. I had become a couch potato - not pretty! Logging for over 200 days. Being aware of what i put in my mouth and making better decisions (for the most part) on what goes in. Knowing that being over 50 it gets harder and harder to maintain healty weight without consistently working at it, so if i get in the habit now hopefully it will be easier to keep it up as the years go on. Joining up with a bunch of wonderful women to walk (or jog) this menopausal path in fellowship with kindred hearts! Let's do this ladies! Here's to a wonderful and committed new year of healthy choices!0
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I have been putting this off, because everytime I came to this page, I was frozen stiff trying to say how I could be fabulous.Fabulous is a word I would quickly use for others, but not myself..I have issues with self esteem, self confidence, anything to do with self is a problem for me. don't get me wrong I have confidence in any thing I need to accomplish, just not in lifting myself up. So I tried to come up with something I could be proud with, and that worked.
I am proud of the fact that I have accomplished EXERCISING....since I hate it so much.. I now look forward to it and can't wait until i can tackle Zumba...maybe even a "slog" as Bisland says.
I am proud of changing my eating habits to where I hardly ever eat too much.
I am proud of breaking up with Sugar...except at times we get back together.
I am proud to know all of the Hatters that log in, ........sorry I can't speak to the one's who stay silent , I would love for this to be the year that you log in and let us know you, though...You would love it!0 -
So, I know I'm probably not the only one who's put on a couple over the last few days... UGH! But still in the smaller sizes - YES! Let's go grab our oars and rock this boat and new year - and drink lots and lots and lots - did I say lots? of water! to get back to the numbers we know enjoy - glad to be getting back to work tomorrow - no more stupid temptations lying around and finding their way into my mouth and stomach!
And off to pack the gym bag now!
See you on the other side of the treadmill in the bleachers......but will have my music:happy:0
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