ChristianMingle.com
MissingMinnesota
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So I am sitting at home on a saturday night bored watching bad tv and I keep seeing commerical for ChristianMingle.com. This got me wondering if any of the people on Single Peeps has that requires their SO to be "A God lover" has tried.
Has anyone tried and and what kind of results have you have?
If you haven't tried it but are on other online dating sites why haven't you?
Has anyone tried and and what kind of results have you have?
If you haven't tried it but are on other online dating sites why haven't you?
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i have heard it's good for it you aren't divorced and don't have kids. i have not tried it.
i did pay for 1 mo at match and then by accident ended up signing up for another month :-/ and i did have an acct on ldsplanet for like 3 weeks. that's it though.0 -
No single men at church MM??
A problem with Christian dating sites is likely to be that Christianity (as a faith) is extremely diverse. eg the differences between a Catholic and say a Seventh Day Adventist.
You might be better off looking for single men within your own faith community. You are more likely to have similar values and beliefs that way.
Just my opinion.0 -
I tried it once awhile back. Was the biggest waste of time ever. The men were not interested in divorced women with children because they were not "holy" enough. There also weren't very many in my area. Just a very bad taste in my mouth.
Cassius - I know you didn't ask me, but I think it depends on what church you go to. Single women outnumber single men greatly. In my church there are not many single men my age. I've had 3 men that were 50+ ask me out, but that's just not my thing.0 -
I tried it once awhile back. Was the biggest waste of time ever. The men were not interested in divorced women with children because they were not "holy" enough. There also weren't very many in my area. Just a very bad taste in my mouth.
'Not HOLY enough'?!?!? That's appauling. Last time I checked "... all have fallen short... "0 -
I wonder if it's a good thing that the internet allows us to drill down to such a specific niche when looking for mates? On the one hand, it's always good to find someone who shares your values (a much abused word) and interests. Islam, volleyball, S&M*, whatever...
On the other hand, the risk is we confine ourselves to that well lit prison of one idea, one philosophy, one Weltanschauung. Meeting new and interesting people, who look, act, and think completely differently from us, can be quite enlightening. Opposites attract, as they say. It's so hard, anyway, to find that special someone. Why limit yourselves to looking from within on particular religion, or interest, or even sexual fetish... :-)
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* I know, I know: that escalated quickly... ;-)0 -
I wonder if it's a good thing that the internet allows us to drill down to such a specific niche when looking for mates? On the one hand, it's always good to find someone who shares your values (a much abused word) and interests. Islam, volleyball, S&M*, whatever...
On the other hand, the risk is we confine ourselves to that well lit prison of one idea, one philosophy, one Weltanschauung. Meeting new and interesting people, who look, act, and think completely differently from us, can be quite enlightening. Opposites attract, as they say. It's so hard, anyway, to find that special someone. Why limit yourselves to looking from within on particular religion, or interest, or even sexual fetish... :-)
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* I know, I know: that escalated quickly... ;-)
Hahaha... yes it did.
You are mostly right P.... broadening ones horizons and interests can be a great side-benefit to meeting (and dating) new people. Believe me I'm all for 'mixed' relationships and marriages whether it's mixed race, mixed culture or mixed religion... hell... even mixed politics... but the couple involved have to go into such an arrangement with eyes WIDE open to the 'challenges' that might be thrown up.
Religion is a special place for some people... a 'sacred' place... at the very core of who they are. For some people a compatable partner is important at that level. Vital even to their happiness.
Hell... how someone votes is almost a deal breaker for me... let alone what God they worship. :bigsmile:
PS I'm not 'religious' per se by the way. I was.... a loooooong time ago. So I'm not sure I should even be posting here :huh:0 -
A site for 'genuine people looking for a relationship' would be good!!! :bigsmile:0
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No single men at church MM??
A problem with Christian dating sites is likely to be that Christianity (as a faith) is extremely diverse. eg the differences between a Catholic and say a Seventh Day Adventist.
You might be better off looking for single men within your own faith community. You are more likely to have similar values and beliefs that way.
Just my opinion.
Oh I am an athiest I was thinking about the other people that require someone that has their same beliefs.0 -
I tried it once awhile back. Was the biggest waste of time ever. The men were not interested in divorced women with children because they were not "holy" enough. There also weren't very many in my area. Just a very bad taste in my mouth.
Cassius - I know you didn't ask me, but I think it depends on what church you go to. Single women outnumber single men greatly. In my church there are not many single men my age. I've had 3 men that were 50+ ask me out, but that's just not my thing.
I think this quote makes sense on the points it addresses.
I like the idea of meeting in church. For those who practice a religion, church is a routine life activity. But if the church one goes to has the wrong kinds of singles (in Becky's case 50+ men), it is better to go to a church with the audience that you want, provided that the audience is relevant. I also like Cassius' idea of keeping things in the same denomination. If religion is a real big deal, keeping things intra faith could make things easier.
How much more difficult is it for divorced women with kids, or never married women with kids, to find compatible dates?0 -
Those commercials make me want to vomit.
And I personally would never use a "Christian" site because I've found that what people call Christianity today is anything but Christ like... I think you meet genuine people in genuine situations. Someone can be on one of those sites claiming to be a Christian, but run around radiating hatred and passing judgement on others. (ex: Run is very sweet, she's beautiful, and I think she's a good person in general, yet she was judged on that site just because she had a divorce.)
In the real world, I'd very rarely put myself around those kinds of people on purpose.0 -
my personal feelings is because MOST christian denominations feel that divorce goes against the Bible. that you are not actually single and worthy if you are divorced. there are only two exceptions listed in the Bible that would permit a divorce. and now a days, every and their mom gets divorced......I tried it once awhile back. Was the biggest waste of time ever. The men were not interested in divorced women with children because they were not "holy" enough. There also weren't very many in my area. Just a very bad taste in my mouth.
Cassius - I know you didn't ask me, but I think it depends on what church you go to. Single women outnumber single men greatly. In my church there are not many single men my age. I've had 3 men that were 50+ ask me out, but that's just not my thing.0 -
I tried it once awhile back. Was the biggest waste of time ever. The men were not interested in divorced women with children because they were not "holy" enough. There also weren't very many in my area. Just a very bad taste in my mouth.
'Not HOLY enough'?!?!? That's appauling. Last time I checked "... all have fallen short... "
Exactly....I laughed at the first email I received of this nature, but will admit that after I received a few more, I was hurt. I closed my account shortly after. When I spoke with some friends about it a year or so later, I found that it was not just me and that it was the general tone of the site. That did make me feel better.
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I tried it once awhile back. Was the biggest waste of time ever. The men were not interested in divorced women with children because they were not "holy" enough. There also weren't very many in my area. Just a very bad taste in my mouth.
Cassius - I know you didn't ask me, but I think it depends on what church you go to. Single women outnumber single men greatly. In my church there are not many single men my age. I've had 3 men that were 50+ ask me out, but that's just not my thing.
I think this quote makes sense on the points it addresses.
I like the idea of meeting in church. For those who practice a religion, church is a routine life activity. But if the church one goes to has the wrong kinds of singles (in Becky's case 50+ men), it is better to go to a church with the audience that you want, provided that the audience is relevant. I also like Cassius' idea of keeping things in the same denomination. If religion is a real big deal, keeping things intra faith could make things easier.
How much more difficult is it for divorced women with kids, or never married women with kids, to find compatible dates?
I agree that it would be ideal to find a church that has a higher population of single men in my age range, however it's just not realistic in today's world. I do not attend church to look for a man, I attend to worship God as a family. I have attended a few different churches in the area and this one is the one that fits our family's needs (I specifically needed somewhere that my son would connect with). When dating, I do make sure the man is Christian up front. I'm open about denomination as long as he is practicing and attending church.
I do think it's more difficult to find compatible dates, but that's the nature of the beast. Everyone has things that are important to them. I don't think it will be impossible to find "him", it will just take me a little longer. But, I know what I want, so it's worth it.0 -
My friends have been telling me to make a profile on there for quite some time now. It would be interesting to see what happens when I get to date #47 (that's when Christians get naked, right?) and take my shirt off. Explaining the massive pentagram tattoo might take some tact.0
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My friends have been telling me to make a profile on there for quite some time now. It would be interesting to see what happens when I get to date #47 (that's when Christians get naked, right?) and take my shirt off. Explaining the massive pentagram tattoo might take some tact.
I was just thinking how fun it would be to mess with a "you're not holy enough" guy. I used to attend one of these type of churches a long time ago...before the judgment and hypocrisy of the congregation became seriously off putting.
I do have faith in my ability to sexually corrupt innocents though...hmmm.0 -
Those commercials make me want to vomit.
And I personally would never use a "Christian" site because I've found that what people call Christianity today is anything but Christ like..
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A site for 'genuine people looking for a relationship' would be good!!! :bigsmile:
Yes Anna, Exactly!
:flowerforyou: and a drink too:drinker:0 -
I tried it once awhile back. Was the biggest waste of time ever. The men were not interested in divorced women with children because they were not "holy" enough. There also weren't very many in my area. Just a very bad taste in my mouth.
Cassius - I know you didn't ask me, but I think it depends on what church you go to. Single women outnumber single men greatly. In my church there are not many single men my age. I've had 3 men that were 50+ ask me out, but that's just not my thing.
lol wow, go holy yourself!0 -
i havent cuz even tho i am catholic, people who are overly religious creep me out. lol.
i know thats probably wrong, so don't judge, I just don't think I could have a LTR with them.
I love God, but overy religious fanatics is not my thing.0
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