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  • sarahg148
    sarahg148 Posts: 701 Member
    I refused to date shorter men. I'm 5'11" and hated to feel like Sasquatch instead of feeling dainty and feminine. Most of my friends are tall, and have boyfriends/ husbands who are over 6'4". I always said the one thing I would never compromise on was dating short guys -- I just had too much of a complex about it and couldn't get over it. Years of being the "bottom layer" of a pyramid or standing in the back of the class had done that to me. Plus I love wearing heels once in a while and yet still being able to see eye to eye at cocktail parties instead of towering above. So I dated and dated and dated through my 20's and 30's and almost got married but called it off...

    Then at age 38 I met the love of my life, although I didn't know it at the time because we were just friends and co-workers...until we got drunk and got busy one night during a storm. :wink: .

    He's 3 inches shorter than me, and I weigh 20lbs more than him (although I'm trying to change this). He is the sexiest, cutest, nicest, funniest, kindest person and he LOVES that I'm taller than him. His confidence changed me.

    At first I was embarrassed to be out holding hands with him, thinking everyone was looking at us. But he was so proud and happy and I saw very clearly that I was a complete moron. The first time he met my mom, who is handicapped, he stayed for the afternoon and built her a ramp so she could wheel into the back door of her house. I thought "how did I get so lucky?" He is the most wonderful person and he is my rock, and although I'm happy that I rejected short guys for years (because it meant I was available when he came along), I still feel bad that I doubted whether it would work between us because of something so minor.

    Bottom line: sometimes you just have to give someone a chance. They may not be in the packaging you expected but it's what's inside that counts. We are getting married in a few months, and I can't wait to bend down to kiss him :smile:

    LOVE this :heart:
  • ColletteNicole
    ColletteNicole Posts: 145 Member
    I refused to date shorter men. I'm 5'11" and hated to feel like Sasquatch instead of feeling dainty and feminine. Most of my friends are tall, and have boyfriends/ husbands who are over 6'4". I always said the one thing I would never compromise on was dating short guys -- I just had too much of a complex about it and couldn't get over it. Years of being the "bottom layer" of a pyramid or standing in the back of the class had done that to me. Plus I love wearing heels once in a while and yet still being able to see eye to eye at cocktail parties instead of towering above. So I dated and dated and dated through my 20's and 30's and almost got married but called it off...

    Then at age 38 I met the love of my life, although I didn't know it at the time because we were just friends and co-workers...until we got drunk and got busy one night during a storm. :wink: .

    He's 3 inches shorter than me, and I weigh 20lbs more than him (although I'm trying to change this). He is the sexiest, cutest, nicest, funniest, kindest person and he LOVES that I'm taller than him. His confidence changed me.

    At first I was embarrassed to be out holding hands with him, thinking everyone was looking at us. But he was so proud and happy and I saw very clearly that I was a complete moron. The first time he met my mom, who is handicapped, he stayed for the afternoon and built her a ramp so she could wheel into the back door of her house. I thought "how did I get so lucky?" He is the most wonderful person and he is my rock, and although I'm happy that I rejected short guys for years (because it meant I was available when he came along), I still feel bad that I doubted whether it would work between us because of something so minor.

    Bottom line: sometimes you just have to give someone a chance. They may not be in the packaging you expected but it's what's inside that counts. We are getting married in a few months, and I can't wait to bend down to kiss him :smile:

    awww, this is so sweet!! Got me get all teary eyed, I love your story! So happy for you! :)
  • Nica_LosN_It
    Nica_LosN_It Posts: 115 Member
    :blushing: Hello everyone. I am new here and I love this group, already. I am 5'11" and my husband is 5'7.5". We have been together since we were 15 and 16 (21 years together). Whenever I was "skinny", it did not look so bad, but now that I am not "skinny" (lol), It feels sort of awkward:ohwell: .
  • idream2bgwen
    idream2bgwen Posts: 424 Member
    I am married to a shorter man. I am 6'0" and my hubby is 5'6". It doesn't bug me but I think it bugged him at first due to his friends and their stupid comments. But here we are still together (for 14 years now, married for 10.5yr). I have always weighed more but am getting darn close to changing that! :laugh:
  • ducklips
    ducklips Posts: 9 Member
    I'm 5'11". My husband is one inch shorter. It's not a big deal, and not that noticeable unless I wear heels. What bothers me is that I weigh more than him. I weighed less than him when we first got married. Hoping to get back to that situation.
  • ethieman
    ethieman Posts: 99 Member
    LOVE the great stories on here :)

    I'm 5'10" and have found that shorter guys with confidence seem to be really drawn to me. All through my early 20s I was like some of the women on here and wouldn't even consider dating them. Then I met a guy who is about 7" shorter than me who was really interested. I did some soul searching and decided that ultimately it was really dumb of me to be picky about something a person has NO control of whatsoever, totally genetic! Just like we didn't choose to be tall women, they did not choose to be short men. In my book, there are so many things that are much more important in a man, height is last on the list.
  • mermaidme23
    mermaidme23 Posts: 60 Member
    Totally a personal preference, but I tend to feel "cuter" with a tall man. Used to date shorter guys, but was always more attractive to taller men. I'm 5'10 and my husband is 6'4.

    You have to prioritize what's important.
  • HermioneDanger118
    HermioneDanger118 Posts: 345 Member
    I refused to date shorter men. I'm 5'11" and hated to feel like Sasquatch instead of feeling dainty and feminine. Most of my friends are tall, and have boyfriends/ husbands who are over 6'4". I always said the one thing I would never compromise on was dating short guys -- I just had too much of a complex about it and couldn't get over it. Years of being the "bottom layer" of a pyramid or standing in the back of the class had done that to me. Plus I love wearing heels once in a while and yet still being able to see eye to eye at cocktail parties instead of towering above. So I dated and dated and dated through my 20's and 30's and almost got married but called it off...

    Then at age 38 I met the love of my life, although I didn't know it at the time because we were just friends and co-workers...until we got drunk and got busy one night during a storm. :wink: .

    He's 3 inches shorter than me, and I weigh 20lbs more than him (although I'm trying to change this). He is the sexiest, cutest, nicest, funniest, kindest person and he LOVES that I'm taller than him. His confidence changed me.

    At first I was embarrassed to be out holding hands with him, thinking everyone was looking at us. But he was so proud and happy and I saw very clearly that I was a complete moron. The first time he met my mom, who is handicapped, he stayed for the afternoon and built her a ramp so she could wheel into the back door of her house. I thought "how did I get so lucky?" He is the most wonderful person and he is my rock, and although I'm happy that I rejected short guys for years (because it meant I was available when he came along), I still feel bad that I doubted whether it would work between us because of something so minor.

    Bottom line: sometimes you just have to give someone a chance. They may not be in the packaging you expected but it's what's inside that counts. We are getting married in a few months, and I can't wait to bend down to kiss him :smile:

    Aww, I love that! :heart:
  • drkuhl2017
    drkuhl2017 Posts: 181 Member
    I am 5'10.5" and my fiance is 1.5" shorter than I am. Personally, I don't mind and neither does he. It's all about confidence in both the man and woman.
  • jetlag
    jetlag Posts: 800 Member
    Dating a shorter man? I MARRIED one! He's almost 4 inches shorter than me. (I'm 5'11", he's 5'7")

    Apart from always wearing flat shoes, it's no problem at all for us. Fortunately, he has a great sense of humour when I kiss his bald spot or ask him if he wants me to get things down off high shelves lol
  • shesacliche
    shesacliche Posts: 5
    I'm 6' and have dated to 5'9 before. It really wasn't a problem for me, but he made little comments all the time that just made it too much. Ultimately we broke up and while height was not the reason, his insecurities were.

    I am now happily dating a man that is 6'3 :)

    Please add me, just returning to the site and am looking for motivational friends!
  • rkleine74
    rkleine74 Posts: 19
    Dating a shorter man wouldn't bother me in the least. I'm 5'11", and I have dated shorter and taller. When I was sixteen, my grandma told me that everyone is the same height laying down. I didn't get what she meant until a couple of years ago (I'm a little naive sometimes). In fact, I really liked a guy that was 5'6", but he felt weird about the height difference. Height and age to me are just numbers, for the most part. I don't want to date way outside a reasonable range, but as long as he's a good man who knows how to treat women with respect, that's what is most important to me. Most of the tall, good-looking, close-to-my-age men kind of screwed me over, so over the past few years I have developed a taste for older, shorter men. I don't know. I don't exactly get it, either. Maybe I subconsciously hope they'll be grateful enough to overlook my flaws.
  • MizTerry
    MizTerry Posts: 3,763 Member
    Back when I dated, most of the fellas I dated were short, but like you, I preferred tall men. I actually went out with a 6'7" basketball player once.
    It's just a date, it's not like you're marrying the guy. You get a great evening out of it, and possibly someone who is a lot of fun to be around.
  • EbbyFrost
    EbbyFrost Posts: 3
    I'm fine with it. I'm 5'8 and my child's father is 5'5
  • danceym
    danceym Posts: 20 Member
    In my dating days of way back when it was always the brave short guys who would approach me so I dated quite a few shorter than my 5'10-3/4" height. My husband of 19 years is a wee bit shorter than I and while I had longed to date someone taller throughout my teens and 20's just to see what it was like it was never in the cards for me. I made an excellent choice though 19 years ago and would make the same choice today. :)
  • Amazon_Who
    Amazon_Who Posts: 1,092 Member
    My husband and my ex-husband are both shorter. I only had one boyfriend that was taller.

    There are more important things than height. Also it expands the dating pool. :bigsmile:
  • Rodderick89
    Rodderick89 Posts: 205 Member
    Whilst I do think that things other than 'looks' are super important in a guy, height is something that I do always find initially very attractive - I personally don't think I'd date a guy who was shorter than me. I'm loving all the variety of responses on here!! xx
  • summy625
    summy625 Posts: 4
    I have dated shorter men...I'm 6ft....no one should be disriminated....but I always felt odd....like a giant
  • Treadmillmom1st
    Treadmillmom1st Posts: 579 Member
    I'm 6 ft and always in heels so on an average day I'm 6ft 3" and have only dated a couple of guys taller.

    I get hit on by shorter men all the time, they luuurrrvvve a taller woman.

    I have been married for 13 years, my hubby is 5ft 7", he loves my height, I was quite firm on the '...I'll still be wearing my heels on our wedding day...', so there are lots of sitting, me sitting him standing or steps (me on the lower, him on the higher) shots in our wedding album.

    We don't care. He loves to put his head on my chest when we slow dance lol.
  • siobhsies
    siobhsies Posts: 30 Member
    I'm 5'9" and would always wear 6 inch heels when I am out. I don't like shorter men, I feel like a giantess beside them. I would walk into a bar and its like I don't even see the guys that are below 6ft. Its hilarious if I have flats - it opens up a whole new world of men! ha!
  • Change_is_Good_
    Change_is_Good_ Posts: 272 Member
    I'm 5'9" and would always wear 6 inch heels when I am out. I don't like shorter men, I feel like a giantess beside them. I would walk into a bar and its like I don't even see the guys that are below 6ft. Its hilarious if I have flats - it opens up a whole new world of men! ha!

    I have started going out more casual and in flats, I actually notice men I wouldn't usually! Then that niggling thought 'he'd be shorter than me in heels' damn my brain :(
  • Pooh1981
    Pooh1981 Posts: 32 Member
    Personally I love shorter men! My bf is about 2 inches shorter than me and he is the most amazing person in the world to me! Treats me better than any other man I have dated! But that is just my preference just remember if people are going to judge you for that then they were never your friend to begin with! I have always wanted a shorter man but until I got with my bf I had never dated a shorter guy because they were so self conscience and didn't ask me out! I would just try it and if it isn't your thing but at least you gave it a shot!
  • pracktish
    pracktish Posts: 18 Member
    I was married to a man about 4 in shorter than me...I am 6'1 and he is 5'8 ish. we were married for 17 years and sad to say he was never comfortable around me. I'm not sure why people have such a stigma on it...who cares right?? But the man I'm married to now is about an inch or 2 taller than me and it does feel good to be the "small" one lol. Maybe I have my own hang ups.
  • shellygressett
    shellygressett Posts: 80 Member
    I'm 5'10 and my husband is 5'3. I never, ever, never dated a shorter guy before him but love is love. He treated me better than anyone before...that was 14 years ago. :) He is confident and could care less what people think about him. My dad makes fun of him and he shruggs and smiles. :) Sometimes, in pictures, I look twice because I really see the difference but rarely does it cross my mind. Life is too short to worry about outward appearances. And yes, I'm attracted to him, especially the size of his heart and mind. :)
  • babyworms
    babyworms Posts: 1,304 Member
    My husband is about half an inch shorter than me, but it's all in his back - He has a crazy long torso and I have crazy long legs, so when we sit next to each other he looks about a foot taller than me!

    The only time it's ever even almost bothered me was when we got married, I just didn't want to be taller than him in the photos - SO I wore flats, and he wore dress shoes that had quite a thick sole, so we ended up the same height :happy:

    As for wearing heels, I never did anyway because I have size 13 feet and can't find nice shoes to fit - hilariously my husband has exactly the same size feet as I do! But now it's just a good excuse for not owning any heels: "yeah, I don't have any heels because my hubby is already shorter than me..." lol!
  • nomayo
    nomayo Posts: 228
    My husband is about 1 inch shorter than me, and I'm not even that tall (I'm 5'8"). He doesn't care and he likes when I wear heels. We've been together since 1998 :)
  • AmazonRDH
    AmazonRDH Posts: 203 Member
    I tried. I'm 6'0" and dated someone 5'9". I hated it. I felt like I could only wear flip-flops, and bending down to kiss him was the most awkward thing in the world for me. ----I'm a little taller than my hubby, but only by about a half an inch. That's OK. Anything more than that............ not for me. You have to be in your comfort zone, there's nothing wrong with shorter men of course, just not my type.
  • thelaurameister
    thelaurameister Posts: 689 Member
    I am 5'9" and have always liked dating taller men...I like feeling protected, I don't like feeling like the man of the relationship (but that's just me, not to say taller women come of as the man when the guy is shorter, I just feel that way when I'm taller than the guy I'm with). My boyfriend is 6'1" so on an every day basis it's fine, but he hates when I wear my favorite heels because it makes me an inch taller than him. He has more of an issue with me being taller than I do.
  • mgobluetx12
    mgobluetx12 Posts: 1,326 Member
    I'm 6'2 and married to a man who is 5'8. What's the big deal? It's just numbers, like weight and age. As with everything, it's what's on the inside that counts. Neither of us care what anyone else thinks. We've been together for 16 years.
  • Junken_Diraffe
    Junken_Diraffe Posts: 716 Member
    I'm 6'. My boyfriend is 4' shorter than me. He LOVES when i wear heels and tower over him. He's always been attracted to tall girls. Guess it's his thing. I've never cared either way about height, i guess.
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