Tier System
Replies
-
Unlike Mike, there isn't any man on SP that I wouldn't approach in a bar. However, I'd approach for good conversation... not necessarily a hook-up.
I don't find any man in this group too beneath me to be my friend. But then again, I'm in a special tier -- the 40-year-old-divorced-single-mom-tier.
So, Mike... really? No one? Is that completely honest?
I think Mike answered the question as it pertained. This topic isn't about who you would be friends with but who you think would be a good match based on looks and then why or why not you think it would work.
Thanks, MM, that is exactly the point of the thread.
P, sorry, I mis-labelled the title. Zach was right, I was just posting in regard to the crap storm we've been having today.
Aha. Yeah, I hadn't bothered to follow the other thread as it devolved. Just caught up.
--P0 -
I can honestly say there are quite a few women here I'd like to go out with, just because I've enjoyed some of the discussions, and would be curious to see how they are in "real life," to see if there is a real spark. Even when I've clashed with someone on a thread, I don't necessarily take it as a bad thing. In fact, sometimes it's the opposite: if someone has a different opinion, but can discuss it intelligently, that's a great turn on.
I realize it's not just about personality, there has to be a strong physical attraction. But from my experience, people look quite different in "real life" than they do in random photos on the interwebs. Sometimes even better, usually worse. The only person I've met in real life from SP is Daisy, and she turned out to be even more beautiful and more interesting in person. Doesn't always work out that way, unfortunately...
And I can honestly say that, from personal experience, looks are not nearly as important to me as personality, wit, humor, etc. My ex wife was very attractive (still is) and intelligent, but that means very little when you are not close friends, when you fight about ridiculous things, when you don't typically have interesting conversations, etc. Don't get me wrong, I still only date women that attract me. It's just that looks are no longer so critical in the selection process. To put it in numbers, in the past I may have been looking for a 9. Now I'm happy if she's a 6-7 or greater, and then I'll let her personality decide.
--P0 -
Well, I haven't been on in a very long time, and a lot of these people I don't recognize, I got to admit, I don't mind approaching anyone. Especially at a bar. We're there to be social and have a good time. If conversation goes well, cool. If conversation dries up after introductions, time to move on. I don't know much about the whole tier thing, but conversation goes a long way. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure there has to be some type of attraction to kick it off, but, if you never talk to that 8 or 9, how will you ever truly know?0
-
I agree with the fact that people would look quite different in real life... Though my experience is that people look "better" in 3D, with their own body language and their own "life & attitude" (when compared to the crappy pics on a small square that are our avatars).But from my experience, people look quite different in "real life" than they do in random photos on the interwebs. Sometimes even better, usually worse.
I also think that most people would come across as less confrontational in real life (the "forum" format forces you to type a monologue as opposed to a real time interaction where you can react more quickly and clarify things on the spot).
All of this to say what?
While I would say I wouldn't hit on anyone from just my interactions on this forum, I believe that IRL it would be quite different: people would be more attractive and probably less confrontational (so we would go along just fine).
Bonus points for you if you wear a short skirt (can't see this on these avatars).0 -
Blimey, it's actually turned into a reasonable thread :bigsmile:
Agree with Poncho, in a bar I'm a drunken bundle of friendships and laughs. I totally love catching up with my mates and most of them have big personalities so I dont have time/inclination to mingle with strangers. In fact I've been told I've missed many an opportunity as I'm usually totally oblivious to strange men unless it's my round and I get chatting at the bar with someone (which I did on Friday :bigsmile: )
So, how I rate myself: Hmmm! If I was still in my prime, and if you like short, cute, bubbly brunette's, probably an 8. If you prefer svelte blondes with big bazooks, probably a 3....lol if you like quiet, unassuming, submissive, barbie types, then a zero!
Personality wise, I rock a 10!! I get on with anyone and everyone. It's rare that I can't carry a conversation about 'some' thing.
But if I were to pick out the characters I like, and we met in a pub, I think my personality would gel best with:
Florian (we have met, and talk non stop for hours
Poncho (We would be having shot competitions....lol)
Joshua (well, I'd just like to sit on his knee and talk about the first thing to come up....lol 6'7" and me 4'11"....:laugh: )
Roadie
Will
Chris
DavidBrightwell
I think those are the guys that I find cool and sassy, witty and easy going gents and we would get along just famously :bigsmile: (there are probably others, but I haven't read enough to form an opinion yet)
Mentioning no names (Patrick, Zach, Mike), but 'aggressively' opinionated guys freak me out (as they remind me of my Father! And I know I have an issue with this, so dont hate me....lol), so not sure we would last long in a pub! I'm more about laughs/conversations than heated debates....... although, I think Patrick would tone it down for me IRL and be the perfect gent
Poncho - when you put that sweet pic up (not the current one, the 'other' one) you were my wet dream!!! :laugh:
How's that for honesty? :bigsmile: 0 -
I'm horribly excited that I didn't cause a crap storm here. Thanks everyone for playing along!
I think you are all 10's and I'm so happy to be able to come here and share what's going on in my life and here about all your great/funny dates. Thanks for letting me participate in the group even though I have a BF, I still like to live through you peeps vicariously! I'd miss every single one of you if I was forced to leave the group.0 -
Mentioning no names (Patrick, Zach, Mike), but 'aggressively' opinionated guys freak me out (as they remind me of my Father! And I know I have an issue with this, so dont hate me....lol), so not sure we would last long in a pub!
I have to be honest, I think you are extremely aggressively opinionated (as I can be on occasion). But, don't you think if you *weren't* so aggressively opinionated in a conversation, the guy wouldn't be either?
I'm mild mannered given a calm, relaxed situation. If someone starts being aggressive with me, then naturally I get more aggressive. I'm not a naturally aggressive person like so many other are. This is evident when someone says something they disagree with, they fly off the handle instead of engaging in a civil discourse.0 -
Ok I kept my nose out of this thread but since everyone played nice let me see...
I'm a natural flirt and at the bar I'm in my comfort zone . I think Ceasar and I would spend the whole time geeking out like the nerds we truely are. Poncho is right I think after the booze faded so owuld are intrests. Flim however I think I could have fun conversations with. Mike and I would probably get along like white on rice but neither of us is the others type so it would be wing man time lol...SV abd Zach would be fun to hang with... Honestly though Will is who I would want to hang with the most cause I think he could probably keep up with me if we went bar hopping......
I think I'm a 6 however according to my gay guy friends I'm a 7 when I get all dolled up to go out.0 -
After reading the happy time thread, I'd have to say that I would definitely approach jenbit, Danielle, and Kit.
Probably also Anna, because she seems fun even though I can't understand what she's saying half the time, and Sam because of her all-around awesomeness.0 -
I have to be honest, I think you are extremely aggressively opinionated (as I can be on occasion). But, don't you think if you *weren't* so aggressively opinionated in a conversation, the guy wouldn't be either?
I'm mild mannered given a calm, relaxed situation. If someone starts being aggressive with me, then naturally I get more aggressive. I'm not a naturally aggressive person like so many other are. This is evident when someone says something they disagree with, they fly off the handle instead of engaging in a civil discourse.
I can hold my own Mike, but most of the time I choose not to bother. Hence why you haven't seen my responding to your comments for months.
No offence was meant. It was just an honest opinion (as is yours) of how I see personalities on here. IRL I have no clue what you'd be like as I've never really seen your calm, relaxed side on here - you always seem to be in the hub of aggressive threads. But I'm sure you know yourself far better than anyone else here so we should take your word for it. After all, the internet is a far cry from f2f :flowerforyou:0 -
Yay Roadie...I have had a mini platonic mfp crush on you since you talked about how thoughtful you were towards your girlfriend. You have fun pictures in your profile too!0
-
Probably also Anna, because she seems fun even though I can't understand what she's saying half the time,
:laugh: :sad: :laugh: I dont know if I should laugh or cry at that one honey!! :laugh: :laugh:
:smooched:0 -
Definitely laugh. I learn new words every day just by reading this forum. I had no idea what cheeky meant before I started posting here. :laugh: :blushing:Probably also Anna, because she seems fun even though I can't understand what she's saying half the time,
:laugh: :sad: :laugh: I dont know if I should laugh or cry at that one honey!! :laugh: :laugh:
:smooched:0 -
Definitely laugh. I learn new words every day just by reading this forum. I had no idea what cheeky meant before I started posting here. :laugh: :blushing:Probably also Anna, because she seems fun even though I can't understand what she's saying half the time,
:laugh: :sad: :laugh: I dont know if I should laugh or cry at that one honey!! :laugh: :laugh:
:smooched:
Great big grin here! :bigsmile: You cheeky monkey!! That's what we say in East London to people that have crossed the line but in a very affectionate and endearing way :laugh:
My new favourite word, that seems to encompass all that I love about people, is 'sassy'!!
Sassy = lively, bold and full of spirit; cheeky!0 -
Anna over here we (well I do) do tend to say "sassy monkey" vice your cheeky monkey!! I think we can agree that you are a sassy cheeky monkey!0
-
Anna over here we (well I do) do tend to say "sassy monkey" vice your cheeky monkey!! I think we can agree that you are a sassy cheeky monkey!
:laugh: :laugh: Perfect!! You have me sussed William!! :smooched: 0 -
Stickinthemud... I mean run, seems laid back and cool, pending the removal of the Clay Mathews jersey.
LMAO! Love you too Ponch....just don't think I could keep up with you. :drinker:
Forgot all about boobie Friday, however I'll fix that jersey issue for you when I get home. 0 -
Anna over here we (well I do) do tend to say "sassy monkey" vice your cheeky monkey!! I think we can agree that you are a sassy cheeky monkey!
:laugh: :laugh: Perfect!! You have me sussed William!! :smooched:
I've never heard sassy monkey, only cheeky monkey 8x
Oh wait, I grew up in Germany, close enough?0 -
I’ve been gone for a bit… but I’ll bite…1) Gents...if you ran into any of us in a bar who would you approach just on looks? If you talk to us for 10 minutes, who would you turn away for personality?
2) Ladies, same question...
3) What # would you rate yourself?
If I was in a social spot with all of you, and DIDN’T KNOW you from your SP interactions, then based just on looks alone I would have approached Dave, Zach, Will, Jon, and Florian (even though I typically like stocky guys he’s a cutie). Then, if they weren’t interested (which I wouldn’t have known but do NOW based on their SP posts) I would expand out. I generally talk to anyone at social gatherings that doesn’t appear to be hunkered down with friends or in “find some booty” mode.
TBH... after getting to know some of you guys online there's noone still active that I would go after (and I'm sure the feeling is mutual).
I would rate myself an 8- maybe an 8.5 before I went on vacation (thank God that vacation weight is FINALLY starting to budge!!). 3 years ago I would never have ranked myself so high, but a friend’s dad runs a dating advice site and he told me that a huge part of my problem with men is that I look better than I realize.
So don’t worry about whoever said no one here is over a 7. Don’t ask me, cuz I’ll be honest and some of us are NOT cute, but I’ve seen all ranges – including some beautiful “10” women here on MFP.0 -
Really, nobody mentioned MY Name in this thread...totally disappointed. I am taking my keyboard and going home now.0
-
Really, nobody mentioned MY Name in this thread...totally disappointed. I am taking my keyboard and going home now.
oh bruce!!! you know how i feel about you ;-)0 -
Thanks, I'm actually stockier than ever at the moment thanks to a complete lack of activity! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:and Florian (even though I typically like stocky guys he’s a cutie).
My vacation weight hasn't stared to budge unfortunately... :sad:0 -
There are very few people anywhere that I would turn my head for, real life or otherwise. Obviously, I have my own distorted version of what a 10 is whether it's based on the media or what have you. I appreciate a strong jaw line, good hair, nice teeth and a six pack, but what makes me look at a picture or a face is very different than what makes me attracted. Attraction is so much more than just liking the way someone looks in my opinion. I've been around and with super hot, sexy guys but sometimes the heat isn't there or their brains or personalities just make them meh. And sometimes those crazy pheromones make a 5 into a 9 sexy wise. I don't know how many guys on here based on their pic, I would drool over, but there are decently attractive guys that I would probably hang out with and/or be attracted to. Based on my limited views of pics and cool posts, I like Prahasaurus and Flim.
In general, I would take overweight with a nice face over ripped with an average or fugly face any day, but it seems like a lot of men are the opposite. I'm always confused when a guy points out an average girl and says she's so hot just because she is skinny but her face is just okay. So it's hard to say what tier I would be or anyone else. I've generally in life been deemed as attractive and I think I'm pretty cute. But I didn't get many hits on online dating either, maybe cause the extra pounds was marked or maybe I also have reverse image dysphoria and think I am cuter than I really am. :ohwell: I have some extra pounds but I am hourglass shaped and active so in my mind I don't warrant a low tier. So based on the average population I might see at the mall or local buffet, I think I can be a 7 even with some extra junk in the trunk. lol
(As an aside, all the tier talk in this group was really getting to be a little self esteem busting even though I have a pretty good self image and thick skin. I'm over 30 and chubby, OH NO! Nobody is ever going to approach or love me!!!):sad:0 -
That's a good comment... I don't know if I would prefer a nice face or a nice body personally.In general, I would take overweight with a nice face over ripped with an average or fugly face any day, but it seems like a lot of men are the opposite. I'm always confused when a guy points out an average girl and says she's so hot just because she is skinny but her face is just okay.
I guess I would be fine with both "normal face + nice body" and "nice face + normal/chubby body" (the second one being a better long term investment).
Well, that top-tier talk (normally top 33%) seemed to focus more on the top 1% if you ask me... I don't think anyone can ever reach the top 1% without extremely good genetics, however I think anyone can be in the top 33% by working hard... Which is quite an achievement in itself! I believe that this is valid in any domain.As an aside, all the tier talk in this group was really getting to be a little self esteem busting even though I have a pretty good self image and thick skin. I'm over 30 and chubby, OH NO! Nobody is ever going to approach or love me!!!0 -
If I was in a social spot with all of you, and DIDN’T KNOW you from your SP interactions, then based just on looks alone I would have approached Dave, Zach, Will, Jon, and Florian (even though I typically like stocky guys he’s a cutie). Then, if they weren’t interested (which I wouldn’t have known but do NOW based on their SP posts) I would expand out. TBH... after getting to know some of you guys online there's noone still active that I would go after (and I'm sure the feeling is mutual).
Hmmmm we dont always agree...actually we dont disagree that often either, but I like your posts and find most of them eye opening or at the least a wholly different perspective, with the exception of the ones about your guy friends in the military...ive totally given up on those guys.0 -
If I was in a social spot with all of you, and DIDN’T KNOW you from your SP interactions, then based just on looks alone I would have approached Dave, Zach, Will, Jon, and Florian (even though I typically like stocky guys he’s a cutie). Then, if they weren’t interested (which I wouldn’t have known but do NOW based on their SP posts) I would expand out. TBH... after getting to know some of you guys online there's noone still active that I would go after (and I'm sure the feeling is mutual).
Hmmmm we dont always agree...actually we dont disagree that often either, but I like your posts and find most of them eye opening or at the least a wholly different perspective, with the exception of the ones about your guy friends in the military...ive totally given up on those guys.
Lol, aren't you a Marine??? I've been out here with all marines and army and WOW these guys are something else!! This tour has been VERY eye opening! Though I *will* say that I've met more "decent" men out here than I have in my AF career. But the ones who are mean to their wives/gfs are very, very mean.0 -
I am a Marine, but in a totally different field then you which means probably a different field then the guys you work with. Which, without going into the whole Marine Corps mentality of grunts v non grunts, means they are most likely overcompensating.
That is of course said, without ever meeting them and making assumptions based on my career experiences. But I still stand by my, "Ive given up on them" statement.0
This discussion has been closed.