I'll be spending Vday with a certain special lady in my life.:blushing:
We have a great relationship! She's there for me, except on certain days like July 4th and Xmas. Doesn't ask for much other than sweat, tears, and occasionally blood. :indifferent: She doesn't put up with my bull**** and will kick my *kitten* as needed.
Also I will be celebrating a friends bday. Planning on doing a early brunch get together to avoid the mad rush that happens in the evening at restaurants.

Is this a riddle? Are you talking about a trainer or a gf?

I'll be spending Vday with a certain special lady in my life.:blushing:
We have a great relationship! She's there for me, except on certain days like July 4th and Xmas. Doesn't ask for much other than sweat, tears, and occasionally blood. :indifferent: She doesn't put up with my bull**** and will kick my *kitten* as needed.
Also I will be celebrating a friends bday. Planning on doing a early brunch get together to avoid the mad rush that happens in the evening at restaurants.

Is this a riddle? Are you talking about a trainer or a gf?

I'll be spending Vday with a certain special lady in my life.:blushing:
We have a great relationship! She's there for me, except on certain days like July 4th and Xmas. Doesn't ask for much other than sweat, tears, and occasionally blood. :indifferent: She doesn't put up with my bull**** and will kick my *kitten* as needed.
Also I will be celebrating a friends bday. Planning on doing a early brunch get together to avoid the mad rush that happens in the evening at restaurants.

Is this a riddle? Are you talking about a trainer or a gf?

Niether. I am talking about the gym.

What a **** day.... single people get sad about it, and guys in relationships don't want to deal with it.... really the only people that care about it is gals recently in relationships.

Anyway, I'll be setting the tone early in my relationship and not doing much at all.... if she is disappointed, she's with the wrong guy.

I agree that it's much more fun at the beginning of a relationship but I personally want to share this first v-day with him. We are exchanging small gifts and staying in to avoid the madness but I don't think it's such a **** day for new relationships.

It's all in how you want to deal with it. When I was single I would go pamper myself, etc... I would spread the love among my family and friends. Now I have one more special person to do that with. In years to come I don't expect to be doing much for this "holiday" but for now, it's special because the relationship is fresh. :flowerforyou:

If your new girl wants to make it a special night, at least get her a card and some flowers? Or take her to a movie? Or do you not like her enough to care? Then that's something to consider...

So you need this day to tell you/assure you, that your guy cares about you?? I mean honestly if my girl needs the assurance of vday to know I care, I guess I'd rather she find someone else. Just my thoughts.

I didn't say that at all, not sure where you got that from.

What a **** day.... single people get sad about it, and guys in relationships don't want to deal with it.... really the only people that care about it is gals recently in relationships.

Anyway, I'll be setting the tone early in my relationship and not doing much at all.... if she is disappointed, she's with the wrong guy.

I agree that it's much more fun at the beginning of a relationship but I personally want to share this first v-day with him. We are exchanging small gifts and staying in to avoid the madness but I don't think it's such a **** day for new relationships.

It's all in how you want to deal with it. When I was single I would go pamper myself, etc... I would spread the love among my family and friends. Now I have one more special person to do that with. In years to come I don't expect to be doing much for this "holiday" but for now, it's special because the relationship is fresh. :flowerforyou:

If your new girl wants to make it a special night, at least get her a card and some flowers? Or take her to a movie? Or do you not like her enough to care? Then that's something to consider...

So you need this day to tell you/assure you, that your guy cares about you?? I mean honestly if my girl needs the assurance of vday to know I care, I guess I'd rather she find someone else. Just my thoughts.

I didn't say that at all, not sure where you got that from.

Read your last paragraph, you asked me if I did not like her enough to care about getting her some token gifts for Vday.... I don't need a day to show I care, and if she thinks I don't care, then it would suit us better to not be together.

I know it's trendy and all to hate things that bring love and joy but I've not much for cynicism. Yes, I'm aware that valentines day is a "corporate holiday" - but all holidays are "made up" and this one is something that celebrates the love in your life. Why is that so awful? No, I don't -need- to be reminded that I have loved ones, but it's fun to celebrate. So quit your b*tching and just enjoy the f*cking day and realize that you have a lot to be cherishing in your life whether you are single, divorced, married, taken, WHATEVER.

Now eat your godd*mn candy.

I know it's trendy and all to hate things that bring love and joy but I've not much for cynicism. Yes, I'm aware that valentines day is a "corporate holiday" - but all holidays are "made up" and this one is something that celebrates the love in your life. Why is that so awful? No, I don't -need- to be reminded that I have loved ones, but it's fun to celebrate. So quit your b*tching and just enjoy the f*cking day and realize that you have a lot to be cherishing in your life whether you are single, divorced, married, taken, WHATEVER.

Now eat your godd*mn candy.

Why does it require a day to feel any of the above?? I think Vday is more for women to feel special around their friends... "Oh I got flowers" or "we did this." Cause trust me most dudes could give a *kitten*.

Jim, I'm with you. It's a Hallmark holiday that just makes the single feel "bah-humbug" and the together feel they have to get something/do something special. My BF and I are doing what we always do on Thursday, Happy Hour at our favorite brewpub.

I know it's trendy and all to hate things that bring love and joy but I've not much for cynicism. Yes, I'm aware that valentines day is a "corporate holiday" - but all holidays are "made up" and this one is something that celebrates the love in your life. Why is that so awful? No, I don't -need- to be reminded that I have loved ones, but it's fun to celebrate. So quit your b*tching and just enjoy the f*cking day and realize that you have a lot to be cherishing in your life whether you are single, divorced, married, taken, WHATEVER.

Now eat your godd*mn candy.

Why does it require a day to feel any of the above?? I think Vday is more for women to feel special around their friends... "Oh I got flowers" or "we did this." Cause trust me most dudes could give a *kitten*.

Jim, I'm with you. It's a Hallmark holiday that just makes the single feel "bah-humbug" and the together feel they have to get something/do something special. My BF and I are doing what we always do on Thursday, Happy Hour at our favorite brewpub.

You choose to feel "bah-humbug' if you're single... you don't have to be.

I know it's trendy and all to hate things that bring love and joy but I've not much for cynicism. Yes, I'm aware that valentines day is a "corporate holiday" - but all holidays are "made up" and this one is something that celebrates the love in your life. Why is that so awful? No, I don't -need- to be reminded that I have loved ones, but it's fun to celebrate. So quit your b*tching and just enjoy the f*cking day and realize that you have a lot to be cherishing in your life whether you are single, divorced, married, taken, WHATEVER.

Now eat your godd*mn candy.

Why does it require a day to feel any of the above?? I think Vday is more for women to feel special around their friends... "Oh I got flowers" or "we did this." Cause trust me most dudes could give a *kitten*.

Jim, I'm with you. It's a Hallmark holiday that just makes the single feel "bah-humbug" and the together feel they have to get something/do something special. My BF and I are doing what we always do on Thursday, Happy Hour at our favorite brewpub.

It's not about doing it specifically because it's v-day, it's doing it because you care that she finds v-day special. Just because you don't celebrate something doesn't mean you have to bust someone elses bubble.

Beautiully said :flowerforyou: If it matters to your partner, if it has the potential to remind her that you care how he/she feels and to make him/her feel special, even just or a moment, why would you set out to undo that. Of course doing that doesn't need a special day, but the fact is that our society places a special importance on loving gestures made on that one day of the year. I doubt many women/girls didn't have a dream at some point or other of getting a card or a rose or a heart-shaped chocolate from a 'secret' admirer on Valentine's day. You have the opportunity to make that fantasy a reality for her. Major brownie points for you, for a tiny little bit of effort, and something she'll always smile about, even if you go your separate ways further down the line. I can't see how anyone loses.