When does the urge go away
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There is a possibility that the wait is that long in some areas, if it isn't that serious, you don't live in an urban area or advocate a little for yourself. You hear these one off stories yes...but everyone I know has always had amazing care and hasn't suffered on any wait lists. The very opposite in fact. We do have some options for private testing and procedures as well, but it obviously is nowhere near as common.
I honestly think you just have to know a little about the system, listen to your body and start with a decent GP who is good with referrals.0 -
It's cheaper due to the lack of law suits, regulation, and Govt. interference... otherwise why wouldn't they just do that here??
Fullofwhimsey, I've heard the wait on a regular ACL surgery is 6+ months in Canada... can't prove if this is true though.
No, it's cheaper because of the massive administrative overhead in the US (multiple providers, multiple insurers, multiple plans, etc., etc.). It's an incredibly inefficient system, right out of a Kafka novel.
A recent McKenzie study noted that US healthcare administrative costs are 5 times the average of other developed countries. 5 friggin' times!!!
I have so many stories from when I moved back to the US for a few years. No claim was ever processed correctly. I was always on the phone trying to correct their mistakes, which usually involved multiple people, multiple calls, massive paperwork, etc. So inefficient! Once I got a bill for my wife's blood work and it was outrageously expensive (about 200 dollars or so over what it should have been). I called and asked why, they said the clinic (which was in my company's network) sent the tests to a laboratory that was outside of my company's network. But how the hell should I know where they were going to send the blood work??!! Am I supposed to monitor all of their suppliers??? That one took a week of calls, but they eventually reduced the price. But again, it's so inefficient.
Once you get to an actual doctor, it's great. The problem is the administrative burden of having to manage our complex system. That's is where your costs are. Not in the lawyers.
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OH MY GOD the Canadians must be dying in droves up north with that terrible health care system! Why isn't this in the newspapers! Let's seal the borders before we are overrun!
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I will tell my BF that you are all very upset that his lack of health insurance prevents him from getting Viagra. lol:laugh:0
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There is a possibility that the wait is that long in some areas, if it isn't that serious, you don't live in an urban area or advocate a little for yourself. You hear these one off stories yes...but everyone I know has always had amazing care and hasn't suffered on any wait lists. The very opposite in fact. We do have some options for private testing and procedures as well, but it obviously is nowhere near as common.
I honestly think you just have to know a little about the system, listen to your body and start with a decent GP who is good with referrals.
Agreed. Working in healthcare and also being a patient at times, we get what we need when we need it. No one in an acute situation is waiting for anything. We are also doing more promotion now to show people how to use resources properly - ie strep throat is not an ER trip.
I don't think anyone can real bash one or the other unless they have used it, but I am proud to have Canadian healthcare coverage.0 -
You should never ever trust businesses or governments to act in the interests of the people.It's cheaper due to the lack of law suits, regulation, and Govt. interference... otherwise why wouldn't they just do that here?
The difference is that, while governments are crooks as well, they are at least accountable to every voter to some extent, not just their shareholders.0 -
Will someone please create a healthcare topic so we can debate that there and help the OP with her issue here? I want to participate too.
OP, depression is a hell of a thing and it sounds like your man is in it big time. Unfortunately there is nothing anyone can do until he wants to help himself. In the meantime you have said you stopped initiating sex because it frustrated you when his ED kicked in - what about having a handy drawer of backup plan? Invest in a nice toy for yourself so you can discretely finish what he couldn't. That might help things short term, if he thinks you at least want him that little boost could help. You could even name your toy after the Greek lover
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No worries for the hijack. My main thing had nothing to do with the ED, just thought it was probably a contributing factor. Just wanted to get opinions on if fantasizing about sex with other people while you are in a relationship is a bad sign. I think I just have to battle my own urges to flee when I feel constricted or deprived (mostly of variety). I am used to having options. He is not depressed really, just stressed about the job partly because he does want to fill a "provider" role and marry me and all that stuff. He's much more traditional and sentimental than I. So I am satisfied that I am not horrible for thinking about doing other guys, as long as I don't do it. Within my relationship, we will have to see what kind of effects the other bedroom problems play but even when things are working, I still probably have to reconcile that I have had better. But that's the drawbacks with experience, more to compare to!0
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i would sooo be thinking of other guys0
