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MyNewZen
MyNewZen Posts: 101 Member
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Hi all, so I want some advice on how to not be “that guy” (the annoying one that hits on girls at the gym).

Being over 30 and an engineer I don’t get a lot of chances to meet girls (or even new people), my friends are all coupled up and don’t get out much and there are not a lot of females in my line of work.

I started yoga as a way to bring some balance to the heavy lifting I was doing in the weights room, I have been going to yoga for about 8 months now so I don’t think I fall into the category of guys that are there for a laugh or a perve.

So any way, I’m friendly with a few people there but that’s only after the instructor has had us do some stuff in groups. Would, and if so, how would you want to be approached at yoga? I just want get to know more people there and if I click with one of the girls one maybe even ask them out.

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  • Yogi_Carl
    Yogi_Carl Posts: 1,906 Member
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    From the guy's side of things, I wouldn't be hitting on another yogi or yogini actually in the yoga studio. Many people who go to studio see the training area as simply that or even sacred space and don't want to socialise there.

    Do groups of people go from class to an eating place, cafe maybe? Maybe go with the group and get to know people socially and don't push for something to happen - if it's right it will just happen.

    Do you have a yoga camp week in your area or region? Best place to hang around with other yoga mad people and get to know people over a longer time period, eat with them, talk with them and see what evolves.

    In short, keep the class area sacred and see if there are ways to socialise outside and afterward.

    All best
    Carl
    (Anusara Yoga)
  • yoginimary
    yoginimary Posts: 6,783 Member
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    I would start by talking to people before/after class. I wouldn't direct my attention at anyone in particular at first. You can always talk about yoga - make that part easy. It might naturally evolve after that.

    Some friends of mine met at a yoga workshop (they are now married). I would think women who are serious about their yoga practice would like to meet a man who does yoga as well.
  • yogibella
    yogibella Posts: 321 Member
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    I like chatting up other yogis and seeing familiar faces at my studio... and wouldn't mind more of it! The place I go to is pretty friendly and is community minded so it makes socializing easier perhaps. I like getting to know my teachers too, which is always nice:)

    Whether it's girls or just making friends, I would do it before/after class, maybe outside in the hall etc. During class is difficult and awkward when you are trying to concentrate on your practice. Unless it's a laid-back free-style class. It's funny, the guys always seem to chat up other guys...I think it's because there's so few of them so they sense an instant camaraderie!

    Just start with a smile & a 'hello'. Can't go wrong with that. And suggest a group tea/coffee/drinks afterwards or a yoga social? Good luck!
  • GiddyupTim
    GiddyupTim Posts: 2,819 Member
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    There is a saying that people refer to when someone suggests dating in the workplace: "Don't s*** where you eat!"
    I think it might apply here. If you really like your studio, and your classes, why do something that might jeopardize them?
    Course, it is not a hard and fast rule. Nothing is. But there are internet dating sites, where you might meet someone who also practices.
    It is interesting that the guys here seem to be the ones saying 'Don't.'
  • Apocalypse_Meow
    Apocalypse_Meow Posts: 90 Member
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    Walk out of class at the same time as she does and ask her if she'd like to get a cup of chai together afterwards. Just be cool about it and if she says no, don't sweat it.

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