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  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Christine.. I think you are awesome. You don't have to defend your personal taste or need for space at all. Everyone is different. You do however make me feel pretty slutty (LOL), but I can roll with that. :laugh:
    I have to say that there is something endearing about her innocence though, it reminds me of when I was young and awkward.

    Not to be mean but I don't think I was ever that young and innocent
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    Christine.. I think you are awesome. You don't have to defend your personal taste or need for space at all. Everyone is different. You do however make me feel pretty slutty (LOL), but I can roll with that. :laugh:
    I have to say that there is something endearing about her innocence though, it reminds me of when I was young and awkward.

    Not to be mean but I don't think I was ever that young and innocent

    I am more old and innocent.... than young and innocent, I've done a complete 360 haha
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    We had just been standing by each other and he leaned across far and it was just...sort of like "whoa way to burst my bubble!" I appreciate when people take physical contact slow.

    It was a third date. I think he was moving slow.

    Maybe he thought that but we hadn't even hugged or held hands! It was very zero to 360 too quickly!

    I'm sorry but IMHO if you aren't feeling it for a kiss at the end of date one (whether you actually do kiss at the end of that date or not) and definitely if you aren't comfortable with a kiss at the end of date 2, you are doing him and yourself a disservice even accepting a third date. Had he not kissed you on date 3, would you have accepted a 4th date? If so, why?

    I agree with this, if I am not wanting a kiss by date 2 I am left wondering why.... but I am anti date one kissing... but to each their own and what we are comfortable with!!
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    im a 33 year old with all the wide eyed wonder of being 8 - but with all the horniness and irrepressible libido of a 33 year old chick.
  • fullofwhimsy
    fullofwhimsy Posts: 218
    I am more old and innocent.... than young and innocent, I've done a complete 360 haha

    I am getting older and dirtier by the day! :laugh:
  • AZ_Gato
    AZ_Gato Posts: 1,270 Member
    I am more old and innocent.... than young and innocent, I've done a complete 360 haha

    I am getting older and dirtier by the day! :laugh:

    My libido has worsened through the years...I wish it would stop already! That being said, I love 30 year olds! They should make a federal holiday for you guys!
  • UrbanLotus
    UrbanLotus Posts: 1,163 Member
    I am more old and innocent.... than young and innocent, I've done a complete 360 haha

    I am getting older and dirtier by the day! :laugh:

    God me too, they weren't kidding about 35 being a woman's sexual peak!!
  • fullofwhimsy
    fullofwhimsy Posts: 218
    God me too, they weren't kidding about 35 being a woman's sexual peak!!

    Okay.. so it isn't just me?! Good!
    My 25 year old self would be completely shocked at my 35 year old self in terms of libido and preference/ variety of adult activities. Things do change!
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    I am more old and innocent.... than young and innocent, I've done a complete 360 haha

    I am getting older and dirtier by the day! :laugh:

    My libido has worsened through the years...I wish it would stop already! That being said, I love 30 year olds! They should make a federal holiday for you guys!

    If my libido get much worse (only 32) I might die from exhuastion ........ But I'll die wih a smile on my face lol
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    by the time im 35 im going to have to just give in and hire someone to help.
  • UrbanLotus
    UrbanLotus Posts: 1,163 Member
    God me too, they weren't kidding about 35 being a woman's sexual peak!!

    Okay.. so it isn't just me?! Good!
    My 25 year old self would be completely shocked at my 35 year old self in terms of libido and preference/ variety of adult activities. Things do change!

    Nope! I thought I was sexual a decade ago LOL...nothing compared to now!
  • grum84
    grum84 Posts: 428 Member
    by the time im 35 im going to have to just give in and hire someone to help.

    Now there is a job that I think I would find fulfilling and enjoyable. Need to start looking for ads from women posting for this.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    Christine.. I think you are awesome. You don't have to defend your personal taste or need for space at all. Everyone is different. You do however make me feel pretty slutty (LOL), but I can roll with that. :laugh:

    Thanks Danielle! I realize I am in the minority but I do have a big personal bubble and if it gets invaded I panic! If I let someone in it is much different. I would appreciate someone respecting the bubble and asking before coming inside!
  • fullofwhimsy
    fullofwhimsy Posts: 218
    Christine.. I think you are awesome. You don't have to defend your personal taste or need for space at all. Everyone is different. You do however make me feel pretty slutty (LOL), but I can roll with that. :laugh:

    Thanks Danielle! I realize I am in the minority but I do have a big personal bubble and if it gets invaded I panic! If I let someone in it is much different. I would appreciate someone respecting the bubble and asking before coming inside!

    You are sweet and innocent and lovely... but my dirty, dirty mind is LOL-ing at your last sentence..
  • RunIntheMud
    RunIntheMud Posts: 2,645 Member
    Christine.. I think you are awesome. You don't have to defend your personal taste or need for space at all. Everyone is different. You do however make me feel pretty slutty (LOL), but I can roll with that. :laugh:

    Thanks Danielle! I realize I am in the minority but I do have a big personal bubble and if it gets invaded I panic! If I let someone in it is much different. I would appreciate someone respecting the bubble and asking before coming inside!

    You are sweet and innocent and lovely... but my dirty, dirty mind is LOL-ing at your last sentence..

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • dbrightwell1270
    dbrightwell1270 Posts: 1,732 Member
    Christine.. I think you are awesome. You don't have to defend your personal taste or need for space at all. Everyone is different. You do however make me feel pretty slutty (LOL), but I can roll with that. :laugh:

    Thanks Danielle! I realize I am in the minority but I do have a big personal bubble and if it gets invaded I panic! If I let someone in it is much different. I would appreciate someone respecting the bubble and asking before coming inside!

    You are sweet and innocent and lovely... but my dirty, dirty mind is LOL-ing at your last sentence..

    I'm glad it isn't just me.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    Christine.. I think you are awesome. You don't have to defend your personal taste or need for space at all. Everyone is different. You do however make me feel pretty slutty (LOL), but I can roll with that. :laugh:

    Thanks Danielle! I realize I am in the minority but I do have a big personal bubble and if it gets invaded I panic! If I let someone in it is much different. I would appreciate someone respecting the bubble and asking before coming inside!

    You are sweet and innocent and lovely... but my dirty, dirty mind is LOL-ing at your last sentence..

    I thought that too...just didn't know how to word it different haha
  • grum84
    grum84 Posts: 428 Member
    Thanks Danielle! I realize I am in the minority but I do have a big personal bubble and if it gets invaded I panic! If I let someone in it is much different. I would appreciate someone respecting the bubble and asking before coming inside!

    You are sweet and innocent and lovely... but my dirty, dirty mind is LOL-ing at your last sentence..

    Thank you Danielle, glad I wasn't the only one that took that last line straight to the gutter. No offense intended at all, just where my head goes.
  • UrbanLotus
    UrbanLotus Posts: 1,163 Member
    Thanks Danielle! I realize I am in the minority but I do have a big personal bubble and if it gets invaded I panic! If I let someone in it is much different. I would appreciate someone respecting the bubble and asking before coming inside!

    You are sweet and innocent and lovely... but my dirty, dirty mind is LOL-ing at your last sentence..

    Glad we're all on the same page here haha
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    Thanks Danielle! I realize I am in the minority but I do have a big personal bubble and if it gets invaded I panic! If I let someone in it is much different. I would appreciate someone respecting the bubble and asking before coming inside!

    You are sweet and innocent and lovely... but my dirty, dirty mind is LOL-ing at your last sentence..

    Glad we're all on the same page here haha

    Pretty much lol.... Poor Christine we are gonna corrupt you
  • fullofwhimsy
    fullofwhimsy Posts: 218
    [Pretty much lol.... Poor Christine we are gonna corrupt you

    I was just thinking how fun it would be to take Christine out to the bar for a night of debauchery and corruption.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,251 Member
    [Pretty much lol.... Poor Christine we are gonna corrupt you

    I was just thinking how fun it would be to take Christine out to the bar for a night of debauchery and corruption.

    Me too lol ......
  • dbrightwell1270
    dbrightwell1270 Posts: 1,732 Member
    Thanks Danielle! I realize I am in the minority but I do have a big personal bubble and if it gets invaded I panic! If I let someone in it is much different. I would appreciate someone respecting the bubble and asking before coming inside!

    You are sweet and innocent and lovely... but my dirty, dirty mind is LOL-ing at your last sentence..

    Glad we're all on the same page here haha

    Pretty much lol.... Poor Christine we are gonna corrupt you

    The worst part is that immediately after reading this, the conference call I am listening to started mentioning push methods and pull methods to data sharing.
  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
    Nobody likes hearing 'No' all the time, and we don't hear 'yes' often enough. Dating is a game overwhelmed with negatives, and it's disheartening and frustrating to always hear 'no'. In efforts to chang the negative/positive balance of power in early stages of a relationship, try asking for what you want instead of taking it! Novel notion, huh? The guys who turn me on the most are the ones who ask if they can kiss me, who treat my body like it's my property and they want permission to touch. Ask me 'may I?' and you're more likely to get a 'yes!'
    That's pretty much the opposite of all of the things I've heard and done. Obviously I'm not going to force myself on anybody, but it shows a huge lack of confidence if you have to ask permission for everything you do. Maybe it's just because not many people tell me no, but it sort of takes away most of the mystery/romance/spark when I say "Can I stick my penis in your vagina?"

    hmm I agree for the most part that asking too much shows a lack of confidence...BUT when a very confident guys asks if they can have their way with you...that is a huge turn on :blushing:
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    [Pretty much lol.... Poor Christine we are gonna corrupt you

    I was just thinking how fun it would be to take Christine out to the bar for a night of debauchery and corruption.

    Me too lol ......

    I am the life of the party at the bar once I'm drunk haha
  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
    I think in certain situations it is nice to ask for permission.

    When the three date guy randomly kissed me on the cheek, I was utterly surprised and taken aback, I didn't know what the hell to do. Maybe if he had asked first, I wouldn't have spazzed and ran away.

    I like my body space, I have a rather large personal bubble so at least for me, I would like people to ask first!

    A kiss on the cheek really? Wow...with my Latino background, first date would have been at least a hug and a smooch on the cheek...but that's just a friendly gesture.

    I hope you don't take this as a personal attack, but I couldn't fathom dating someone with such a large personal bubble. Goes to show you how we are all so different thus requiring books and books on advice on subjects such as this.

    same here. maybe its a latin thing. we are very touchy feely. kiss on the cheek everytime you greet someone or say good bye. its kind of rude not to do it.
  • UrbanLotus
    UrbanLotus Posts: 1,163 Member
    same here. maybe its a latin thing. we are very touchy feely. kiss on the cheek everytime you greet someone or say good bye. its kind of rude not to do it.

    Same with Indians, and my Filipino friends do it too
  • 2stepz
    2stepz Posts: 814 Member
    The worst part is that immediately after reading this, the conference call I am listening to started mentioning push methods and pull methods to data sharing.

    Hehehe... discussed that in a class Monday night. I was glad it was a web-based class, so nobody could read my face at the thoughts going through my head. :) I'm such a gutter mind...
  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    by the time im 35 im going to have to just give in and hire someone to help.

    I'm only 29 and I feel like that already. Oh god, if it gets worse... :blushing:
  • AnnaPixie
    AnnaPixie Posts: 7,439 Member
    I think it would be sweet to be asked to be kissed. Depends on the context but I'm kinda thinking of a fun flirt, a chat, a look into each other's eyes and a question/statement to tease each other into action......

    Actually, nothing turns me on more than a guy saying "I want you" :bigsmile:

    Not exactly a question, but a statment of intent is phwaaaarrr!!! :smokin:
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