Why Does This Happen Again?
Tammywoo50
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Finding myself in the position of being 100 pounds overweight for the third time in my life is really disheartening. Although on the bright side, I can say, "I did it before and I can do it again!" But why? Why do I end up gaining so much back when I tell myself over and over that I will NEVER let myself get that big again?
I can't really recall if there was a trigger on the road to gaining the first time but I do recall what happened the second. I loved how I looked in my clothes but hated the way I looked naked! I liked my nude body better when the fat was fluffy not saggy. So I convinced myself that I would gain back a few pounds just to feel better about my nudity.
That is where it started. Not paying any attention to how many calories I was consuming and not adhering to the eating habits that I had been following. I love chips and dip, so when I am dieting if I want some I use that for my dinner instead of trying to just snack on a couple. Well, I started snacking instead of trading out.
Then I met a guy who is younger than me (technically I am NOT a cougar, he pursued me! LOL) he has horrible eating habits of pizza, fries and junk. I resisted most of the time but soon found myself eating pizza 3 times a week instead of once a year. Eating Little Debbie cakes when I never would bring sweets in the house. If I ever wanted something sweet I would go to the store and buy a single serving.
I'm not blaming him for my lack of will power but it is hard when those in your household are enjoying eating snacks while watching television and to not put your hand in the bag also.
I am still with my junk food junkie but I am determined to get the weight off again. I just have to stay strong and watch my calories. I am not one who worry's so much about the "healthy" part of food, my B/P and glucose are great. so I count calories. I have a beer or a drink once in a while. I have a jr .bacon cheeseburger from Wendy's so that I don't feel deprived. Most of the time it is meat and veggies, salad or a little pasta so this works for me.
I just want to get back to a comfortable weight for my body. My guy loves me either way and that is awesome but I like feeling strong in my body and having energy to do the things I love.
I can't really recall if there was a trigger on the road to gaining the first time but I do recall what happened the second. I loved how I looked in my clothes but hated the way I looked naked! I liked my nude body better when the fat was fluffy not saggy. So I convinced myself that I would gain back a few pounds just to feel better about my nudity.
That is where it started. Not paying any attention to how many calories I was consuming and not adhering to the eating habits that I had been following. I love chips and dip, so when I am dieting if I want some I use that for my dinner instead of trying to just snack on a couple. Well, I started snacking instead of trading out.
Then I met a guy who is younger than me (technically I am NOT a cougar, he pursued me! LOL) he has horrible eating habits of pizza, fries and junk. I resisted most of the time but soon found myself eating pizza 3 times a week instead of once a year. Eating Little Debbie cakes when I never would bring sweets in the house. If I ever wanted something sweet I would go to the store and buy a single serving.
I'm not blaming him for my lack of will power but it is hard when those in your household are enjoying eating snacks while watching television and to not put your hand in the bag also.
I am still with my junk food junkie but I am determined to get the weight off again. I just have to stay strong and watch my calories. I am not one who worry's so much about the "healthy" part of food, my B/P and glucose are great. so I count calories. I have a beer or a drink once in a while. I have a jr .bacon cheeseburger from Wendy's so that I don't feel deprived. Most of the time it is meat and veggies, salad or a little pasta so this works for me.
I just want to get back to a comfortable weight for my body. My guy loves me either way and that is awesome but I like feeling strong in my body and having energy to do the things I love.
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I'm with you! I keep losing and gaining the same 30-50 pounds. I don't have the luxury of eating to keep up with my younger boyfriend! I have been learning to detach from eating for pleasure and trying to turn it into fuel and "medicine" to keep my body operating optimally. Thanks for starting this group.0
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I have gained and lost weight for the past 30 years but rarely exercised. I now want lose 80 pounds and have realized,
if i am to live to an old age, I need to get moving.0 -
I have lost and gained only once! But I lost over 30kg's and then slowly it crept back on. I said to my hubby don't worry I won't let it all go back on, but YES it slowly creeped back onto the bum, thighs and hips! I am determined to loose the weight but to do it at a slow ans steady pace. Some days I have been really bad on the new trip on loosing the weight. But I get back up maybe the next day, maybe the next week and start again. I have lost 5 kgs so far and this has been a slow process. I try and not weigh myself each week as I felt this would deflate me as I wouldn't have lsot as much as I thought or I had put on! So I thought I would weigh myself when I feel ready. iw as a bit dis heartened when I just weighed myself this weekend as hubby said I bet you must of lost at least 10kgs but no when I got on the scales it was only 5kg's (Bummer) but I thought well 5kg's off is better than 5kgs on. I also said to myself I didn't have that total empty feeling so maybe I have lost more weight. I am just taking each day as it comes, trying my best not to eat bad food and after a long time my hubby is behind me as he now says are you sure you want that for takeaways as I don't want to ruin you weight loss. Before he didn't care and at the start he didn't care. I don't what has happened but he has changed. So if you wish to add me as a friend that is fine, I try and read everything and give motivation to others. But sometimes with me working full time and having a family I don't have much time to get on the computer! I also do NO exercise at the moment, but I do have a treadmill, which I know when I am ready I will start using that again. Each day at at a time. If you ask to be my friend you will be able to read my motivational quotes I try and put up each day to motivate us all. Just think we have done it once we can do it again and this time we will beat it.
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Welcome to the group. I hope everyone feels free to post the good, the bad and the ugly as well. We can give one another the support and encouragement we need because we have been there and done that.0
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Hey Im back again after having lost 60 pounds and then over the last year finding it again. My boyfriend is the same he doesn't exercise and eats junk food all the time but he is 6'4 and with that fast metabolism testosterone helps with... its hard when he always eats junk food and at first I went to the gym lots but ate with him. now I don't go to the gym and I eat it even if he isn't around. I am back to where I was before we met and before I was on a fitness kick. I want to be better again, I had so much more energy but its so hard to get motivated when everytime I try to make a good choice it feels so futile in the sense that I have so so far to go. and when I exercise it feels like a reminder of how far ive let myself slide.... ive been doing jillian micheals at home because I don't fit my gym clothes or want to go to a gym and I just started tracking food again 3 days ago but I feel like the most I can do is be good for three days and then I get back into the ice cream and chips... how do I get started again. my past successs doesn't feel like its motivating because I did it before it just feels like a reminder that even if I do it I still end up gaining it back
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