Same here... we were happy with one child but did nothing to prevent another pregnancy. After 13 years we figured it just wasn't going to happen and that was fine... then just before I turned 41... surprise! We were so shocked. It took a few weeks to sink in. It is a lot of fun. I love being an older mom too. I am so much more confident and laid back than with my first. I just wish both my kids birthdays weren't so close to Christmas. One is two weeks before and the other 1 week.

Yes I do find I am more laid back this time around than with my first. He loves being a big brother and I love having the help that I get from him that I wouldn't get if he was a lot younger. Mine was definitely a surprise and it took some time getting used to but we too had not been doing anything to prevent pregnancy and had actually tried for another for 4 years (from when my son was 3 till he was 7). We figured it wasn't in the cards and he would be the only one. My baby's bday is about 2 weeks before christmas I would of liked it not to be so close, but my older sisters bday is 2 days after christmas so I know whats its like to grow up with someone who is a total nightmare around christmas because of her bday even though my parents worked really hard to separate the two she still wasn't happy. She blamed my mother even though her due date wasn't until February. I am just going to work really hard to make both days special for both of my children my son was an October baby so I lucked out there.