Match.com anyone?
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Anyone here on Match ever attend one of their Stir events? Pretty much they coordinate live events in a particular area for groups of people/singles to meet up off the site, face to face. Just curious if anyone had gone to one and how it was? I mean too many people never take a chance to get to know you based just on a profile and a handful of pics> It has to be so much better in person where I can show my fantabulous personality in real life, not in a few paragraphs :bigsmile: :flowerforyou:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/14/match-com-the-stir-events-singles-offline_n_1515090.html
I mean after today where I got a "wink" from a 72 yr old man (older than my father) and another messaged me asking if my hair was real or if I wear a wig :noway: I need a change of pace... :yawn:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/14/match-com-the-stir-events-singles-offline_n_1515090.html
I mean after today where I got a "wink" from a 72 yr old man (older than my father) and another messaged me asking if my hair was real or if I wear a wig :noway: I need a change of pace... :yawn:
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Last time I looked they said there weren't any events in my area - I live by a major city too. Sounds like they would be much better than just browsing an online profile.0
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they have one coming up near me (bay area). there's a few coming up but the cool ones filled up quickly. i wanted to go to the tapas making event but i decided to do it too late... maybe next time0
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My experience with Stir events was pretty underwhelming.
The primary problem for me is that the type of woman I was looking for was not there. I am looking for women primarily in their mid to late 20s, and it was near impossible to find anyone under 35 there.
I like the idea in theory. The in person experience when you first meet should help. Just did not work out in practice for me.0 -
I was on Match back in 2008 when I got single and I found it mostly to be a hookup site...which that's fine if that's what you are looking for, but in my area (Houston), most women I met from there seemed more interested in casual dating than anything long term.0
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I found it mostly to be a hookup site...
Oh the horror :smokin:0 -
I found it mostly to be a hookup site...
Oh the horror :smokin:
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I found it mostly to be a hookup site...
Oh the horror :smokin:
:laugh: I know right? Seriously, it's not like when you go fishing...you can't just throw it back once you catch it!
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Seems like that's all they have in their commercials. Noted.My experience with Stir events was pretty underwhelming.
The primary problem for me is that the type of woman I was looking for was not there. I am looking for women primarily in their mid to late 20s, and it was near impossible to find anyone under 35 there.
I like the idea in theory. The in person experience when you first meet should help. Just did not work out in practice for me.0 -
I found it mostly to be a hookup site...
Oh the horror :smokin:
:laugh: I know right? Seriously, it's not like when you go fishing...you can't just throw it back once you catch it! :sad:
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Thanks for the feedback. I actually went to my first one last night. Thankfully I brought a friend with me. I was surprisingly nervous going in, I guess the fear of not knowing what to expect My friend, not on Match, came as my guest was nervous too. I was actually pretty impressed with it. Better than I had expected just because it was a decent group of people, fairly equal ratio of men to women. Just a good way of getting to chat with a wide array of different people in a social setting and not wondering if they are single since you know they are. I would definitely go to one again.0
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I've tried going to the Stir events in my area, but they never have any in my age range (I'm 33). Haven't tried any Match events since I haven't had an account with them in quite awhile.
I did just join a couple groups in meetup.com Iit distinctly says it's not a "dating" service, but at least I'll be getting out of the house. I figured if I'm doing something I love with others that enjoy it, maybe I'll meet someone in the process?0 -
I did just join a couple groups in meetup.com Iit distinctly says it's not a "dating" service, but at least I'll be getting out of the house. I figured if I'm doing something I love with others that enjoy it, maybe I'll meet someone in the process?
I would venture to say meeting people without the expectation of dating is probably better since you don't have as much stress/anxiety/or the build up that comes from singles mixers opposed to meeting people that are actually already have things in common if you are meeting up for a running group, biking, volley ball, etc.0 -
I did just join a couple groups in meetup.com Iit distinctly says it's not a "dating" service, but at least I'll be getting out of the house. I figured if I'm doing something I love with others that enjoy it, maybe I'll meet someone in the process?
Meetups are a distinct world.
I found them to be a mixed bag for purposes of finding people to date. The main advantage of Meetups is getting out in front of people and getting the in person experience right away. However, in a typical Meetup, only about 1-2 people who attend the event are going to meet your qualifications, whatever they are. So you're showing up to an event for the privilege of talking to 1-2 people.
You have to avoid groups on Meetup specifically labeled "Singles". These groups tend to be unstable and also produce some of the worst human behaviors and quality of singles. Many desirable female singles are turned off by what goes on in these groups, making the selection poor for males. These groups are usually middle aged divorcees.
Look for common interest groups. There are many generic common interests like 20s/30s, Professionals, etc. These generic interest groups are not singles per se, but most attendees are singles, especially if the group is having a bar mix n' mingle type event. No person in a relationship would logically go to the bar mix n mingle type events, because working a room is usually pretty unpleasant. The bar mix n' mingle Meetup events are advantage over a random night at the bar, because people are easier to talk to due to common group membership, but the bar mix n mingle events can be quite emotionally draining.
The best Meetup events involve you doing something you enjoy. For me, I'm an athletic type, so the best Meetups are ones where I am playing sand volleyball, tennis, etc. So I'd recommend focusing on Meetups that involve activities you like rather than the Happy Hour/bar mix n' mingle type events. You may not meet someone that way, but at least you'll enjoy yourself.0 -
I did just join a couple groups in meetup.com Iit distinctly says it's not a "dating" service, but at least I'll be getting out of the house. I figured if I'm doing something I love with others that enjoy it, maybe I'll meet someone in the process?
Meetups are a distinct world.
I found them to be a mixed bag for purposes of finding people to date. The main advantage of Meetups is getting out in front of people and getting the in person experience right away. However, in a typical Meetup, only about 1-2 people who attend the event are going to meet your qualifications, whatever they are. So you're showing up to an event for the privilege of talking to 1-2 people.
You have to avoid groups on Meetup specifically labeled "Singles". These groups tend to be unstable and also produce some of the worst human behaviors and quality of singles. Many desirable female singles are turned off by what goes on in these groups, making the selection poor for males. These groups are usually middle aged divorcees.
Look for common interest groups. There are many generic common interests like 20s/30s, Professionals, etc. These generic interest groups are not singles per se, but most attendees are singles, especially if the group is having a bar mix n' mingle type event. No person in a relationship would logically go to the bar mix n mingle type events, because working a room is usually pretty unpleasant. The bar mix n' mingle Meetup events are advantage over a random night at the bar, because people are easier to talk to due to common group membership, but the bar mix n mingle events can be quite emotionally draining.
The best Meetup events involve you doing something you enjoy. For me, I'm an athletic type, so the best Meetups are ones where I am playing sand volleyball, tennis, etc. So I'd recommend focusing on Meetups that involve activities you like rather than the Happy Hour/bar mix n' mingle type events. You may not meet someone that way, but at least you'll enjoy yourself.
Thanks!! I really don't like bars in general, so I'm not signing up for the happy hour groups. I did sign up for the Christian Singles, but like you said, have found that most who RSVP are middle aged divorce women (I haven't attended an event yet). The other group I signed up for seems interesting, but I have yet to dive it.... basically a Singles Dinner Club. There are several variations to the events within it (including one on one events), but I haven't looked at it much yet.
I've only been on there a couple days, so I'm still a little overwhelmed by the whole site. There are a lot of groups! But, I'm looking to find some of the more active groups...hiking, running, etc.
And, thanks Marc!! That's kind of what I was thinking.0 -
anyone else been to a stir event? they have a couple coming up in my area so i'm curious but don't know if I have the guts to actually go :blushing:0
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I tried a couple of stir events in my area. They do try to keep a fairly even ratio of male to female which is nice but they do fill up quickly. The drinks/mingle event was a bust. I felt it was even worse than just going to a bar because you knew everyone was "looking" so it was like a line-up where everyone is checking each other out to assess compatibility rather than just having conversations. I would have liked to go to a game night event or cooking demo because those are smaller and I think more conducive to conversations but by the time I would try to register, they would always be full. :grumble:0
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I tried a couple of stir events in my area. They do try to keep a fairly even ratio of male to female which is nice but they do fill up quickly. The drinks/mingle event was a bust. I felt it was even worse than just going to a bar because you knew everyone was "looking" so it was like a line-up where everyone is checking each other out to assess compatibility rather than just having conversations. I would have liked to go to a game night event or cooking demo because those are smaller and I think more conducive to conversations but by the time I would try to register, they would always be full. :grumble:
that's good to know. I was thinking the same thing. if its at a bar for drinks then it won't be any different than going to a regular bar on a regular day. ice breakers and actual activities would be more fun and allow for more interaction. thnx for the feedback!0
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