POF ... did I miss something?
raige123
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I've been single for almost 7 weeks ... and I think I missed something being off the market for 8 months.
I'm on POF and I find it easier to txt people after a few messages rather than the constant back and forth on that site ... yet I have had more than 1 guy question if I am txting more than one person. Is it okay to question someone you just started talking to about how many other people they are talking to? I would assume we are all talking to other people ... it's a dating site and we're all looking for our ultimate match ... I just find it weird I guess that people are asking. And how do you respond to it? I've been floored and didn't really know the right answer.
I'm on POF and I find it easier to txt people after a few messages rather than the constant back and forth on that site ... yet I have had more than 1 guy question if I am txting more than one person. Is it okay to question someone you just started talking to about how many other people they are talking to? I would assume we are all talking to other people ... it's a dating site and we're all looking for our ultimate match ... I just find it weird I guess that people are asking. And how do you respond to it? I've been floored and didn't really know the right answer.
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Answer honestly, but without bruising his ego. Just tell him that until you are too early in the "getting to know you stages" and that you are speaking with a couple men. Don't give him numbers, it's none of his business. If he's offended by this, he doesn't understand the rules of dating and will be nitpicking every step of the process. Step away quickly and then run.0
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Don't worry about it. If a guy asks me if I'm multi dating, I'm just honest. I'm not multidating at the moment but I was honest with they guy I'm currently dating.
I thought you met a great guy a while back??0 -
Answer honestly, but without bruising his ego. Just tell him that until you are too early in the "getting to know you stages" and that you are speaking with a couple men. Don't give him numbers, it's none of his business. If he's offended by this, he doesn't understand the rules of dating and will be nitpicking every step of the process. Step away quickly and then run.
Agreed!0 -
Hmmm! It's not a question I would ask, so I tend to think it's none of my business. Nor theirs.
Why would someone make demands when they haven't even met you yet?
Alternatively, just say 'yes, isnt that what dating sites are for?'0 -
Yeah just be honest, it's better to weed out the crazy people sooner rather than later. If they have a problem with you emailing more than one person at a time on a dating site than they probably have some issues and it might be best to stay away anyway. Or maybe they're just curious or making conversation but it's sort of a weird thing to ask.0
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I always just said yes and was honest.0
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Hmmm! It's not a question I would ask, so I tend to think it's none of my business. Nor theirs.
Why would someone make demands when they haven't even met you yet?
Alternatively, just say 'yes, isnt that what dating sites are for?'
This. All day. :drinker: I just think it's creepy!! It's TEXTING!! :laugh:0 -
Don't worry about it. If a guy asks me if I'm multi dating, I'm just honest. I'm not multidating at the moment but I was honest with they guy I'm currently dating.
I thought you met a great guy a while back??
Great guy turned out to have a girlfriend ... so not such a great guy.0 -
Asking if you casually date more than one person at a time when it was never specified before hand, that's okay.
Specific numbers, creepy as heck.
Specifically asking about texting other guys when that's a completely understood rule of just starting to date, especially on a dating site where one shouldn't really need to ask obvious questions...
R U N
*Ahem*
I'm more of a romantic, so I put up front that I only like to date one person at a time.0 -
What a childish question. From him, not from you.
Tell him yes, but not as many as you're f*cking.0 -
Just reply: "Not anymore" . . then never text him again. .
Seriously. . how lame!. . it's a competition. A guy has to legitimately win by demonstrating quality, charm, and wit! Not by trying to limit the playing field.0 -
What a childish question. From him, not from you.
Tell him yes, but not as many as you're f*cking.
Love this! And then I would be sure to never text him again.0 -
i think it's the insecure ones that ask questions like that.....0
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That happened to me all the time! I had some that said they weren't interested in competing and didn't want to meet or anything if I was talking to different guys. So I'd say "So, you want to be exclusive before we even meet?" It's a dating site. Generally you may fade out from one person if you have a stronger interest in another. But putting all your eggs in one basket is not healthy.
I would say that you are single and though you are not a serial dater, you are communicating with guys that there is potential with until you meet one that you become exclusive with. I think some guys are afraid of wasting their time on girls that are just going around getting taken out by lots of guys and have no interest in them. But it's not fair for them to ask numbers or dictate that you cannot talk to other people until you have dated and mutually decided you no longer are on the market.0