I have a friend that I met a little over a year ago. In fact shortly after I decided to get a divorce and moved to another city with my kids. I went camping with some family members and some friends and that is how I met him. He was a coworker of my brothers. Very nice guy, but I had no attraction to him what so ever. But all in all he was a very fun and nice guy to be around. A week or so later I got a text from him (my brother gave him my phone number). He was just seeing how I was doing and how my job search was going. It was very nice and we chatted some. He eventually asked if I would like to go to the movies with him. I told him that was very nice but I didn’t have the money to go. Of course he offered to pay. I made it clear that it would be just as friends and he said “of course”. I was hesitant to go because I didn’t want to give him the wrong impression. My mother told me to go that it would be fun and I needed to get out. So I did. We had a nice time. Soon after that my step mother told me that he said we were “dating.” I freaked out and texted him and said that I didn’t appreciate what he did and that we could be acquaintances and that was about it. He was adamant that is not what he said, but I didn’t feel comfortable so I asked him to not text me anymore. He obliged. So we were out of contact for a few months, but became friends again later. I don’t remember why or how we reconnected, but he explained to me that he never said that to my step mother, just that we had gone to a movie and she took it out of context. I explained to him that we would only ever be friends, my brother explained it to him that we would only ever be friends and I explained it to him again that we would only ever be friends.


Fast forward to this summer…..He asked me to be on his horseshoe league (I am terrible, but it seemed fun) so I did and we always had a great time, throwing, then drinks, and usually dancing and karaoke. He has invited me out a few times just to have a couple drinks and hang out. I usually do if I don’t have my kiddos and it is always fun. I always feel safe with him and don’t have to worry about anything bad happening. One night however, I was talking to a guy at a bar and I wasn’t ready to go yet. He was and ended up leaving me there. My fault I should have left with my ride. But I get a text later from him saying that it doesn’t bother him anymore and he now knew what my brother was warning him about and that I am gonna do what I am gonna do and blah blah blah. Anyway we made up and said sorry because we are good friends. I invited him to an event this coming weekend. I purchased a VIP table at a local fighting event and needed to fill the seats, and invited him and several other people. Last night I get a text at 1:00 am that said “I might be bagging, will let you know for sure” Of course this is two days before the event and I was freaking out. Turns out he is still going, but just told me he was having a moment last night was all. Now what does that mean? He was having a moment? I guess I am under the impression that he still has hopes that we could be just more than friends? Even though it has been explained, over and over again. I guess my question is can men and women really just be friends? I don’t want to lose our friendship, but I can’t handle this feeling of guilt or his apparent jealousy. Now of course I have no idea why he thought he couldn’t attend the event, maybe I am reading too much into it, and he reasoning had absolutely nothing to do with me, but it is just the vibe I am getting.