It doesn't bother me. I kinda feel like I will always fall into the "big girl" group because I have a large frame. But any guy who loses interest because of that isn't worth your time.

Agree!!!

I think some guys really do like big girls, I dont get it but they are out there. I mean I know a few that wont date anyone that isnt a big girl. I guess just like some guys wont date anyone that isnt skinny. Chubby chasers ( although I hate the term) are just more vocal about it then they used to be. Its a personal preference, just like if we prefer someone tall, short, fit, dark-haired, etc. There is a fine line though. I think some of them have an obsession and it goes beyond just what they find is beautiful, that would be a problem with me. There is someone for everyone I guess. I plan to always be a bigger girl. I have no desire to be thin. My goal weight is actually 199 so I guess I will always fall into that category. Maybe its their way of telling you that they think you are beautiful, even when most of the world wants you to believe you arent?

My goal is about 180, so I won't ever be "small" either. I don't know why this bothers me. Especially when they say it over and over again. OK, I get it. But I don't go around saying I really like tall guys. I guess I don't like the reminder that I'm a big girl. Thanks, dude. I know. I don't need you to tell me. 50 times.

Oh, I understand that too. I still think for most of them, they think they are complimenting you. But, there are those guys that think ALL big girls have no self esteem and use it to get what they want. Usually, you can spot those guys. Thats what I have an issue with.

Personally I think "big girls" are cute!! I have seen alot of before and afters and I think they looked better before. I do realize that they are healthier (for the most part) after but i might be a chubby chaser if I was a guy lol

It feels like I'm being fetishized when guys insist on making that known. To me, it's no difference if someone says they like dating a particular race or religion or eye colour.

My boyfriend has always liked bigger girls, but he always tells me that he will love me no matter what size I am

I was kind of talking about this with my husband today. He likes big girls and I am worried that once I lose the weight (granted won't be for awhile) he won't be attracted to me anymore. I kept trying to address it and all he would say was that he would love me no matter what. Am I wrong that love and attraction are two different things? I totally feel where you are coming though.

This is an old topic but still relevant so I want to put in my two cents.

When I was dating (which wasn't very often) I shied away from "chubby chasers," because all my life I've wanted to be a normal weight and didn't want anyone to discourage me.
I was very shy anyway, I'd been bullied from a young age, and don't trust easily.

I met my husband through a common interest, not a dating service. I was looking for someone who would accept me as I am but not need to keep me there.
He's a big guy too (not as big as me, may way in same range but he's 6 ft tall) and we love each other from the heart, but I think he'd be thrilled if I got thin. However, he tells me his love for me has nothing to do with my appearance, he will always love me no matter what I look like.
But I don't want to be a burden or die on him, and I want to be able to do fun normal things. So losing the weight can only make life better.

Having said all that, I don't think there's anything wrong with dating someone who prefers a larger woman. If they truly love you and don't merely see you as a fetish it'll be fine.
But if a man will leave you over anything so superficial as your appearance, you don't need him, that isn't real love. Love yourself enough to move on.

Morrissey said it best: "Some girls are bigger than others .....some girls mothers are bigger than others girls mothers......